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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 6:12:55 AM   
BBWnNC72


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Status: offline 		i don't get ordered to change my mood.  If i am in a bad mood, my Dominant talks to me about it, lets me get it all out.  Then proceeds to make me giggle till i want to pee on myself.  Being around Him is a bad mood fixer.

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 6:14:55 AM   
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I've ordered myself to change my mood.  I give myself enough time to purge out whatever it is that is keeping me from the mood I wish I was in and I shift focus.  Sure it takes practice to stop dwelling about something you can't change at the moment, but I also see the ineffectiveness of stewing about something and missing out on other expereinces.

It's not like a light switch, it can sometimes take minutes or longer to switch gears and sometimes you need to write or talk out what is bothering you before you can move on, but it can be done.

m'Lord has not asked me to switch moods, but he's witnessed when I was angry at a situation and I was voicing my strong dislike for something on the phone with a person who could make the situation better but as soon as I hung up the phone I was over it and focussed on him rather then the situation as I had done everything I could until the next morning and I wasn't about to waste another minute on it when I could have enjoyment with m'Lord.

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 7:34:04 AM   
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Yep I've been told to get my head out of my ass a few times, pouting, sulking, being distant doesn't fly...anything that's serious I'm to put on the table and talk about it..otherwise suck it up buttercup..

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 7:40:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ok, I have problems with my moods...Been diagnosed with PTSD, so there are times my mood goes from being incredibly hyper to just downright sad...be bouncing off the walls one moment and crying like my heart is breaking the next...and it doesn't help that I'm in constant pain so there are times when I get fed up with it and start snapping at everyone and everything...when I do, Master will just look at me and say my name...sometimes it snaps me out of the mood, other times I just glare at Him and snap "what?"...when His eyes narrow and He puts more force behind my name, I generally back off right away...I've never pushed Master over that line...toed it, yes, but never crossed it and it's the first Master I've not done so...He can control me so much better and so much more firmly than I ever dreamed possible...thank god for Him...never been told to alter my mood, but have been told to alter my attitude...if told to alter my mood, I'd probably resent it but when told to alter my attitude, I generally realize my actions are not slave-like and fix it

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 8:08:26 AM   
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Feelings are different from moods and I don't mess with them. 



Exactly.  He has told me on occasion he wants me to feel differently, but it hasn't been a command for me to, just an expressed thought that he wishes I didn't feel a certain way.  But it hasn't been an order to (I've misunderstood that before).  Moods can be (somewhat) quickly changed.  Feelings require a lot of work, patience and understanding.

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 8:13:31 AM   
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I've ordered myself to change my mood.  I give myself enough time to purge out whatever it is that is keeping me from the mood I wish I was in and I shift focus.  Sure it takes practice to stop dwelling about something you can't change at the moment, but I also see the ineffectiveness of stewing about something and missing out on other expereinces.


I loved this.  We really can control our own moods.  We are not prisoners to them, or victims of them.  I used to be a "stewer" and the only thing it got me was depressed.  I have been taught not to do this, and as you mentioned, I see more joy now than I used to.

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 8:14:30 AM   
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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 8:23:16 AM   
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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 8:29:03 AM   
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I demand me to be HAPPY  poof  , worth a shot ..




I looked for a magic want smiley-face to help out, but couldn't find one, so maybe a poke in the ear will help?

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 8:35:13 AM   
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ORIGINAL: khem
How would you react if, given a relationship where you regularly accept and follow orders from your top, a command to change your mood? 

This has happened recently. Sort of.
Fox and I were at his home for his birthday, and his sisters decided they wanted us to take a walk with him out to the river for a bit. For some reason, this rubbed Fox wrong and he was acting as if it annoyed him to have to spend time with his sisters on his birthday. Granted, one of his sisters had been overly annoying the night before, and thought she was keeping us "respectable" by knocking on the door to make sure we werent doing anything (I was, I was already sleeping and she woke me up... but that wasnt quite what she thought she was going to break up).
I demanded he stop acting like a pissy child and enjoy the time he had with his sisters. Being away at school, and soon living here with me, he isnt going to have all the time in the world with them they way they are used to and I told him he HAD to enjoy what he did have.
HE did, after that.

Sometimes, a command to change a mood doesnt do much, but it DOES make the person in the mood stop and think about it. Sometimes just looking at it and thinking what the hell am i *insert mood here* about? is enough to dispell it.

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 9:55:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well when i am with Master i am usually happy.  Master does not order me to change my mood.  The only time he may do that is if i am being bratty.  Even then it is not a direct order it is more like a warning.

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 10:03:33 AM   
FRSguy


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I feel that it is totaly posible and plausible for a Master to tell his sub to change her mood/ attitude.  The epression of emotions and moods are chosen not some uncontrolable monster that dwells withing someone.  The attitude that people take and display often has a lot to do with manipulating the kind of mood that they are in.  If you act sad and depressed it trigers an association to sad and depressing thoughts and memories which in turn aplify the attitude and mood.  So you want to act all mopey and hopeless then you will think mopey and hopeless thoughts which in turn bring you down.  This is not acceptable!  It has its place... just not when a sub is with her Master and he want to work with her in some way.  Your attitude is your choice... how you feel may not be 100% your choice but you do have a choice as to wether or not you want to continue feeling a certain way. 

I really think that as a Master so to speak that one of the important parts of keeping a sub is having a degree of control over the happy sad aspects of the subs life. There is no point in a sub having a Master if the Master provides an enviroment thats depresses or brings down the sub all the time.  As a Master I project how I feel and that projection has a tendency to set the tone of the day within the household.  It would not be responsible for me to walk through the door stressed out after work pining away to set a low undertone but rather my responsibility to set and maintain apropriet tones that generate warm fuzzies when I walk through the door.

If a Master has to cater to his sub / slaves emotions and feeling as they are presented to us than that allows the sub / slave to manipulate and change the emotions of the household in general simply by feeling down or having PMS which totaly defeats the intent.

I feel this way because frankly I have spoken to and run across a few subs that you might say have issues (Waits for all the Doms to stop laughing).  A lot of these "issues" stem from having a piss poor attitude. I have found that changing the attitude often helps with changing there "issue" because they seem to fight to be complicated and depressed about something or overly engaged in an interest that just dosnt cary any weight.

I feel that as a Dom its my job to make a sub a better person and improve the life of the sub in a manner that I wish wether the sub likes it or not... its kind of why I took the job...lol. Subs in my book have to be secure, well fed, well fucked and well disciplined and if they dont like it they find someone else to play with cause I just dont gut time for the stupidity.

If I am at a public event and the sub acts down I may tell her smile, nod your head and act pleased and thats just how it is. If she wants it differently she can stay in her room chained to fucking floor for the weekend until she figures it out.

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 10:16:29 AM   
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Would you resent such an order?


no.  what is to resent?  He desires a change of mood from His slave---He gets it, just like anything else He desires from His slave.

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Would you feel like it was your top's "job" to alter your mood?


absolutely not.  it is this slave's job to obey, not decide which things He orders are His job, and therefore not His slave's job.

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Would you feel conflicted and like you were unable to obey?


depending on the severity of the mood swing, perhaps, but not for long.
 
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Do you think it is a unreasonable request?


not for this slave, who has a lot of experience and practice at changing her mood to suit the desires of the one in authority over her.

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 10:22:39 AM   
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How would you react if, given a relationship where you regularly accept and follow orders from your top, a command to change your mood?  Would you resent such an order?  Would you feel like it was your top's "job" to alter your mood?  Would you feel conflicted and like you were unable to obey?  Do you think it is a unreasonable request? 


It would depend on the context, if the mood was down to them, I would calmly and politely inform them that my mood was a result of an action of theirs and seek guidance on how to create a better mood. If a foul mood of my own making is putting a downer on our time together I go and deal with it on my own like a grown adult. I am there to be pleasing .. a pissy slave is far from pleasing. Sometimes there are moods and issues that come up that must just be gone through, Sir is understanding of that but he is not there to be my emotional dishrag, he gives me the support he chooses to, and leaves the rest for me. It is my job to be in a positive mental state and not be a needy pissy pile of emotion that acts as a drain on him. If i can't obey an order, I inform him it isn't possible and hope that he understands and adjusts his request, otherwise - given our relationship, it would be treated like disobedience.




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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 12:10:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

quote:

ORIGINAL: azropedntied

I demand me to be HAPPY  poof  , worth a shot ..




I looked for a magic want smiley-face to help out, but couldn't find one, so maybe a poke in the ear will help?

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 12:21:54 PM   
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Cute! and it actually worked made me smile and chuckle Thanks ..



Whew!  Thank God!  My big brother always punched me when I did that. 

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/13/2008 1:37:49 PM   
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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/14/2008 12:27:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: softness
.. a pissy slave is far from pleasing.

They even will become extra noisey while doing things out in the kitchen.  Why is it, the kitchen is always the place pissy slaves seem to gravitate towards?   

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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/14/2008 3:40:55 AM   
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They even will become extra noisey while doing things out in the kitchen. Why is it, the kitchen is always the place pissy slaves seem to gravitate towards?


'cause the cubboard doors are there and need to be slammed.  I would think that'd be obvious.  :)

One time I was really pissed at a D-type.  I mean, hyper hot mad.  So, I made him an omelette.  And, it wasn't just any omelette.  I put all my anger into that omelette and it came out wonderfull.  I was in an efficiency apartment, so the kitchen was in the living room and he sat there and watched me the entire time.  Neither one of us said anything and I can still remember the look on his face when I handed him the omlette. We both started laughing because it was so absurd.

If I'm mad, I can't talk, I have to do.  The kitchen is a great place for doing.






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RE: Ordered to change your mood? - 5/14/2008 10:12:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		I can get prettttty, damn moody and have been told to change it by Sir when it didn't fit His or it got in the way of my tasks.

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