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ResidentSadist -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/13/2008 7:14:06 PM)
The BDSM community isn’t the only one dealing with PMS. In some tribal lifestyles they have a “hut at the end of the village” for those with PMS.

angelslave77 -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/13/2008 7:25:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist The BDSM community isn’t the only one dealing with PMS. In some tribal lifestyles they have a “hut at the end of the village” for those with PMS. see now that is some good thinking

DarkSilentWishes -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/13/2008 7:39:49 PM)
Hmm this isn't really something that I've had to deal with. When I was owned I didn't have much face to face interaction with my then master. I'm always somewhat bratty (and he enjoyed having a bratty pet) but am much more emotional when PMSing. We're women, we know what our body is going through and we know when to back away and seclude ourselves. It's a monthly thing so chances are that you'll cycle before you are collared right? That should give you ample time to discuss your and his/her reaction to your emotions/ailments during that time of the month???

lusciouslips19 -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/13/2008 7:42:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist The BDSM community isn’t the only one dealing with PMS. In some tribal lifestyles they have a “hut at the end of the village” for those with PMS. No, thats the menstrual hut. It is during the menses not the 1 or 2 weeks before.

PanthersMom -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/13/2008 8:37:58 PM)
i see it as being real simple. either find a way for both parties to deal with it and survive, or stick to male submissives. PM

dreamywoman -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/13/2008 9:10:33 PM)
For the most part... I get sad... not really bitchy unless someone goes out of their way to make me angry... I watch sad movies or shows... then i get to cry and it's over... I feel better. I am not moody and I despise moody people. I know we all have good and bad moods... I just try very hard to keep mine bad ones to myself...

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/13/2008 9:28:13 PM)
While I no longer PMS, I am now doing the menopausal mambo....so those hormonel surges,those hotflashes etc..can be a bain to my existence..with that said however. I would never expect any Dominant to cater to this very natural sequence of events...note the word expect!..:0)...if he felt so inclined to encourage rest or water or a nice calming walk or whatever then I would lap that caring up like no ones business...but to use it as an excuse to expect pampering to expect him to treat me with kid gloves and let slide what normally would not be allowed, would to my mind be a manipulation of the worse sort for a D/s dynamic, or any kind of dynamic...It's simple nature folks, quit trying to turn it into a major health issue, because sure as God made little green apples, most men will weary of the drama every friggin month, year after year....Tempting

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/14/2008 5:11:24 AM)
[/quote] Quote from curiousPAlady Not be offensive here but Im pretty sure there is a big difference in being a submissive with PMS and a Dominant with PMS. Depending on the relationship dynamic, a submissive may not have the freedom or the permission to do what would best help HER during her PMS cycle. [/quote] This so not true. The submissive has to take some responsibility for herself. It is a biological function that one the one experiencing it knows how there body reacts to it. It is called communication. Telling your dominant that you need this to deal with it. It isn't about permission it is about biology and communication. I would not want to be with a dominant that did not care about how I felt and how I could make myself feel better. They can't read minds and do not know what we are feeling if we don't communicate that. I don't think Master wants me to ask permission to have PMS, how ridiculous!.

MadameXTC -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/14/2008 7:06:03 AM)
DarkSilentwishes, I think that there is a possibility that a submissive would have pms cycle through before being collared. But for some of us who live 24/7 with our significant others , you know that at times you didn't know there were things that bothered you before living with that person. It is kinda the same thing as finding out new stuff about a person once you are married that you did not know while dating. PMS could have been just a time where the submissive or Dominant stayed away from the other, but once they live together the spaces seem much smaller. Just my opinion.

OsideGirl -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/14/2008 7:56:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FlamingRedhead There are also birth control methods which may help reduce the symptoms, i.e. oral contraceptives, Mirena IUD and Depo-Provera. They can reduce the duration of your period each month, restrict it to 4 times a year, or eliminate it altogether. You're making the assumption that everyone is a candidate for hormonal birth control. Personally, I can't use it because I'm at risk for cancer and hormonal birth control increases my chances of having a relapse.

RavenMuse -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/14/2008 8:06:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW This so not true. The submissive has to take some responsibility for herself. It is a biological function that one the one experiencing it knows how there body reacts to it. It is called communication. Quite. she is accountable to Me wether she is PMSing or not. Giving Me the correct information MAY result in Me asking a bit less of her whilst she is struggling with it, but it certainly won't give her any excuse to behave in a stroppy or brattish manner. PMS or not, that would be a breach of discipline and be reacted to accordingly. I don't ask My girl to perform miricals, there are days where 100% effort is less than another days 100% effort, the hormonal cycle is just one such factor to be accounted for on that score. But I have found that girls who have been allowed to get away with bratty behaviour using PMS as an excuse in their past will find they aren't bratty with Me.... simply because I don't let it be an excuse.

MontrealPhoenix -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/14/2008 3:31:38 PM)
nods yeah and waving a white flag when her temper rises to the level of psychosis will only make things worse. Safer to just move out for a few days. phoenix

Nogimmicks -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/14/2008 9:41:04 PM)
I have seen women for whom PMS is an almost overpowering force and I have known women for whom PMS is a very minor or even almost non-existent thing. My answer is that there is no excuse for disrespectful behavior whether by virtue of hormones or blood sugar (I know a couple diabetics who seem to get a little crazy at times). On the other hand, the depression and sense of uncertainty that accompanies PMS for my lass (and she gets it pretty bad) is something for which I hold great sympathy. She has learned not to strike out and I have learned to be a bit more nurturing. In fact, I usually know when it is coming on before she does. Its really like anything else, one simply learns how to deal with it and how to channel the emotions in the most positive way possible.

Ph0enixF1re -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/15/2008 3:32:21 AM)
My girl doesn't get crazy swings either, in fact if anything she is just more emotional. She gets some extra attention, stroking, and petting. That usually ends the crying jag. Then I try to make time to whip her breasts....since they are extra sensitive during that time. She gets the emotional support and I get to fulfill my sadistic nature with even less effort than normal.

pettingdragons -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/15/2008 6:58:43 AM)
[sm=mop.gif] exercise or a good [sm=whap.gif] LOL

Vigilantejustice -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/15/2008 10:25:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist The BDSM community isn’t the only one dealing with PMS. In some tribal lifestyles they have a “hut at the end of the village” for those with PMS. My high school art teacher was one of 4 children, all girls. Even the dog was female. So he built himself a "menstrual hut" in the back yard where he hung out for a week each month. Women tend to sync up their cycles when they spend a lot of time together. So they all went at once. I pity that man in the days before building the menstrual hut. -Corinne House Vigilante (Daddy just shows up with a grocery bag full of Take 5 and 3 Musketeers bars. I knew I chose well!)

phoenixinchains -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/17/2008 12:56:08 AM)
i have endometriosis, and it's been there pretty much since menarch. my pms is horrible, and the week of menstration is awful. Master understands and forgives the pms, and is very caring and helpful when the pain is too great to get out of bed.

meticulousgirl -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/17/2008 7:43:42 PM)
the day i get my period, i'm always a brat and extremely emotional......i try to avoid M.S. on that specific day but, if that's not possible i just say as little as possible so i know i'm being good.... if i slip, i'm still punnished maybe not as severely as normal but, i'm still punnished......... ~meticulousgirl~

luvzdogtoyz -> RE: PMS - how do deal with it (5/18/2008 3:17:34 AM)
The ground rule in case of me, when cramps are on, until pain medication is working....don't touch me. This works very well. And preventing being pissy to the one person, you need not do that to.

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