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PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 12:56:42 AM

lilmissdefiant

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i was wonder how Masters deal with their slaves while they are going through PMS?

in my person experience (as in happening right now) i get mood swings, bad cramps and i can be snappy and rude.
i dontknow how common these "symptoms" are but how would a Master deal with it knowing that how ever much the slave may try to control it, sometimes we just cant.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 2:10:33 AM

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they understand..... if they are worth damn.......that we may be s types but we are only human, I get terrible moody, actually mega phsyco bitch sometimes, and Sir just supports me through it, knowing it only lasts a couple of days

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 2:49:28 AM

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It maybe a reason for snappy behaviour but it isn't an excuse for it. I take it into account in My expectations BUT it doesn't mean I am going to put up with bad bahaviour.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 2:57:12 AM

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Ok, so i am a slave answering an Ask a Master question so apologies but... i have found that the huge surge of aggression i get one day a month can be neutralised by a well timed and intense play session. In this way Master seemingly controls my hormones and gives me a vent for my out of control emotions... and Wwe have a peaceful house once more!

Gabrielle x

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 3:36:50 AM

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Masters get moody too, I'm sure they have hormones that rise and fall too. Some can be real dickwads. We put up with them so it stands to reason that they would put up with us.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 3:52:11 AM

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I just tell her to stop having PMSs. By the time she gets over the bewilderment in trying to accomplish this task, it's over.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 5:24:20 AM

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I might make an exception, but generally, like RavenMuse, I don't tolerate bad behavior, no matter what the excuse is.

And yes, I am usually a dickwad. Deal with it or don't.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 6:26:07 AM

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I don't have extreme mood swings so I'm not very sympathetic to others, probably because I just haven't been in their shoes.

But before my daughter moved out there would be countless times when I'd tell her to take a midol or stay in her room, ironically it was always before she knew she was going to start her period.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 7:07:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

It maybe a reason for snappy behaviour but it isn't an excuse for it. I take it into account in My expectations BUT it doesn't mean I am going to put up with bad bahaviour.

Exactly. Do not use it as an excuse for acting out. I know how I feel when it comes and consciously make myself think about what I am doing or saying at that time. Be in control of your emotions, do not let them control you.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 7:16:40 AM

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Me I look at the person and

Why get bent out of shape over something you have no control over.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 7:48:11 AM

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quote:

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Exactly. Do not use it as an excuse for acting out. I know how I feel when it comes and consciously make myself think about what I am doing or saying at that time. Be in control of your emotions, do not let them control you.

Bingo. His expectations of me don't change when I'm on my period. I am aware of how I am feeling, and if I'm feeling moody I make an effort to not let that affect my behavior. He doesn't deserve to be snapped at just because I don't feel well. And if I know I'm going to be snappy, then I can make sure I'm not. I tend to feel more miserable physically than emotionally now, and I handle that with drugs! Midol is my friend. He understands when I am feeling physically ill, but that won't stop him from using me or playing if he wants...and I'm glad for that.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 8:20:57 AM

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Patience, understanding and acceptance that some things are beyond even the control of the Master..

Oh and progesterone therapy.....

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 8:45:14 AM

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There is absolutely no reason for you or anyone else to suffer during your menstrual cycle. There are medications available that have been approved for the treatment of PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder), such as Sarafem, Prozac, Zoloft, etc. There are also birth control methods which may help reduce the symptoms, i.e. oral contraceptives, Mirena IUD and Depo-Provera. They can reduce the duration of your period each month, restrict it to 4 times a year, or eliminate it altogether. For physical symptoms, you can take Midol, Premsyn PMS or Pamprin. In addition, there are herbal supplements such as St. John's Wort or black cohosh.

I agree that it's a reason to be in a foul mood, but it's not an excuse for disrespect.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 9:08:11 AM

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Greetings, lilmissdefiant;

i have a two-pronged approach to PMS.

1) i am aware of my cycle, once my time is approaching, i am very aware of my actions and reactions. my body will not hold me hostage to my emotions. i can't outright control the cramps, but i can control my tongue. For one thing, He is not the reason i am not feeling well, so why punish Him? Two, He is not accepting of misbehavior of any kind during my time. i wouldn't lash out at others while suffering a migraine, and PMS is no more acceptable. i take tylenol for the cramps if out of cramp bark / raspberry leaf tea.

2) i approach my time as a spiritual aspect of life. i do not curse the world when i have a runny nose or itchy skin, why malign my period? My time is unique to me, my sex and my relationship with the Gods. Not something to be blighted or disdained. i accept it with grace, and control what i may that spins from it.

And the usual disclaimer: i'm not saying anyone here hates their period, i'm not saying spirituality will cure everything...this works for me and maybe others will try it.

A good rule of thumb is "Would i say <insert here> to my boss/supervisor at work (if applicable)?" If the answer is no, you might want to reconsider saying it to the Dom/Master/Fillintheblank.

Being in the grasp of PMS is not a free ticket to rude behavior.

For what it is worth,

slave tora, devoted to Sir N

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 9:17:46 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lilmissdefiant

i was wonder how Masters deal with their slaves while they are going through PMS?

in my person experience (as in happening right now) i get mood swings, bad cramps and i can be snappy and rude.
i dontknow how common these "symptoms" are but how would a Master deal with it knowing that how ever much the slave may try to control it, sometimes we just cant.

Midol in one hand, riding crop in the other, after assuring her that volcanic orgasms really will make the cramps go away!

Slaves are human. They sick, they get pains I did not give them. Sucks, but it's reality. Master can either deal with it or learn to like loneliness.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 9:24:00 AM

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i get weepy and my back aches something terrible. my Dominant just cuddles me more but doesn't put up with rudeness or bad behavior. He also knows that when my back aches, to tone it down during play sessions.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 12:18:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lilmissdefiant

i was wonder how Masters deal with their slaves while they are going through PMS?

in my person experience (as in happening right now) i get mood swings, bad cramps and i can be snappy and rude.
i dontknow how common these "symptoms" are but how would a Master deal with it knowing that how ever much the slave may try to control it, sometimes we just cant.

Contrary to my sig line.........I really do not believe that hormones are an excuse for poor behaviour. For myself, I stay in tune with my body and try to be aware of why I am feeling the way I am. Knowing that whatever my emotional reaction to a specific comment or action is, it is only "of the moment". I keep my mouth shut and walk away. Give myself time to keep that awareness. Step out of myself and watch.

I try to steer that energy towards something more positive. Usually something I can do by myself. Clean the barn, sort a closet, something that distances me from potential issues. I won't schedule employee reviews when I am feeling grumpy.

Basically I take responsibility for myself, my words and my actions. I would expect the same thing from my girl.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 1:15:36 PM

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pms is nothing more than a piss poor excuse for a woman to be a bitch and get away with it instead of learning how to control it; the world should not have to suffer because of womens fluctuating hormones!!!

i get hot flashes; i turn on a fan...

i get cramps, i take a hot bath or apply a heating pad, or even ask him for a massage...

for the bitchy mood swings: i don't say a word to anyone, for any reason until i have literally bitten my tongue and counted to five before replying

or

i exit scene left until i've gotten over myself; preferably retiring to my room and letting others know why...

for the mood swings that make me cry, i do just that, cry.

sooooooooo, it is under your control and how you choose to deal with it is an entirely different matter, but for fucks sake, don't use it as an excuse or crutch for being an insolent child or the bitch from hell!

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 1:36:20 PM

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I have mine just after she had hers. Mine lasts until her next period. Works magic.

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RE: PMS - how do deal with it - 5/13/2008 2:10:17 PM

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A woman's period has never been an issue for me - literally or otherwise.

If the lady acts out, a calmly delivered: "And by [repeat offensive term] you mean..?"; works regardless of hormones. Acting out in the face of calmness is just that; and when the tantrum is done, they had best deliver an apology and expect that I will treat the matter in the manner it deserves.

Tantrum = drama = not really tolerated, in my books; I will make the effort to learn the 'why' behind it, though. Mitigating circumstances and all that.

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