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How Long????? - 10/19/2005 1:58:24 PM

crimsontied4u

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If you were contacted by a Master/Dom who wanted you to relocate to serve him,what would be your waiting period be,before beginning actual physical service?
Granted there may be some distance and travel involved,would that have some bearing on things?

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RE: How Long????? - 10/19/2005 2:08:49 PM

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I would have to be involved for a year before i uprooted.due to making sure the move wasn't for nothing. also, contractual obligations being considered. as well as certain educational constraints would all come into consideration.

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ORIGINAL: crimsontied4u

If you were contacted by a Master/Dom who wanted you to relocate to serve him,what would be your waiting period be,before beginning actual physical service?
Granted there may be some distance and travel involved,would that have some bearing on things?

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RE: How Long????? - 10/19/2005 2:26:11 PM

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18 months. 3 times longer than with my first Master - Lesson learnt! :)

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RE: How Long????? - 10/19/2005 3:09:46 PM

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If you decided to move to be with him, why wouldn't you already be serving?

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RE: How Long????? - 10/19/2005 3:27:03 PM

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if i was able to relocate i like the others would wait at least a year before uprooting my life.

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RE: How Long????? - 10/19/2005 3:33:23 PM

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i know i would........or why bother

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If you decided to move to be with him, why wouldn't you already be serving?

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RE: How Long????? - 10/19/2005 3:34:04 PM

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love the lessons learned remark..........

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18 months. 3 times longer than with my first Master - Lesson learnt! :)

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RE: How Long????? - 10/19/2005 3:58:00 PM

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quote:

Granted there may be some distance and travel involved,would that have some bearing on things?

No idea, there would be a great many factor's to consider. Family, career. Friends.
How far are you moving? What will your future be there? Will you be totally reliant on the person you are moving with?
There would also have to be a great many trips made by both people in my mind. By talking on the internet and phone tells you absolutely nothing in the way of compatibility.
During these visits, well bottom line is most are going to be lust filled which still tells you nothing in the way of compatibility. So, you have to have enough time to spend some quality time together getting to know one another.
Really, it just depends.
If I were seeking and I had children relocation probably would'nt even be a factor for me. Being a female and in the lifestyle I know first hand of the predators out there preying on females with children. It just would not happen.

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RE: How Long????? - 10/19/2005 10:30:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crimsontied4u

If you were contacted by a Master/Dom who wanted you to relocate to serve him,what would be your waiting period be,before beginning actual physical service?
Granted there may be some distance and travel involved,would that have some bearing on things?

I commuted 150 miles every weekend for about a year before Master and I decided we were compatible enough to make the commitment of my uprooting myself and moving to be with Him. In retrospect, although I was ready to make the move much sooner, I'm glad we waited as long as we did, because when the decision WAS made, BOTH of us knew it was the right move.

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RE: How Long????? - 10/19/2005 10:50:33 PM

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Thanks, Evanesce,
At least 1 person here who contemplates things the way I think they should!!!!!!!!
I wonder why more people do not use this chain of thought reasoning when choosing someone!!

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RE: How Long????? - 10/19/2005 11:47:07 PM

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I have to agree with sub4hire. She asked some very good questions in her post.

For me personally, I'd never relocate. My family lives out here and I'd want to be near my Mom.
If, for arguments sake, I were to ever do it then it would have to be about 2 years of visiting eachother and having that feeling that you just can't bear to be without the other. That you both miss the other right after you hang up the phone from talking with them.

Basically it depends on how well you know your potential Master, apart from playtime or the "lifestyle" but as a human being. That takes some time and an unknown amount of visits.

Alrighty, i really feel like I'm rambling so i'll shut up now.

Good luck!

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RE: How Long????? - 10/20/2005 1:50:58 AM

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I knew Master online as a friend for almost a year before the dynamics of the relationship changed and we became close. It was several more months before I made the 3 hour flight from New Zealand to Sydney Australia to meet Him. We'd known each other for about a year and a half before I made the move to live there. Due to His health problems it was not possible for Him to travel to be with me.

At the time I didn't have a job, I lived alone, my elderly parents had moved to live in a cottage on my brother's property, my son was settled in a good job. My daughter was the only tie I had left to the small community I'd lived in my whole life. She was happy living with her father on the farm with the animals she loved. At the time I moved, she was almost 16 years old. That was the biggest wrench, but she was happy that I was happy and we talk on the phone every week. She's yet to get her passport to visit us but she knows she's more than welcome, and I have been back a couple of times to visit.

Master and I got to know each other extremely well as friends before the relationship changed to a romantic one, and the D/s came in after that. In fact the D/s is second to the love we share but it's still a big part of our lives, because I am "serving" in the role of carer. When we were chatting and IMing He didn't hesitate to give me His real name, address and phone number, and I knew several people online who had met Him and who only had good things to say about Him. When we met in r/l I had no hesitation in making the commitment to Him. Six weeks after I went back to NZ, I moved to live here permanently. It will be 2 years in January. Absolutely no regrets at all!

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RE: How Long????? - 10/20/2005 3:04:02 PM

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pretty much how i see it should be...

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ORIGINAL: Evanesce

quote:

ORIGINAL: crimsontied4u

If you were contacted by a Master/Dom who wanted you to relocate to serve him,what would be your waiting period be,before beginning actual physical service?
Granted there may be some distance and travel involved,would that have some bearing on things?

I commuted 150 miles every weekend for about a year before Master and I decided we were compatible enough to make the commitment of my uprooting myself and moving to be with Him. In retrospect, although I was ready to make the move much sooner, I'm glad we waited as long as we did, because when the decision WAS made, BOTH of us knew it was the right move.

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RE: How Long????? - 10/20/2005 3:05:11 PM

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looks like 3 had similiar responses

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ORIGINAL: crimsontied4u

Thanks, Evanesce,
At least 1 person here who contemplates things the way I think they should!!!!!!!!
I wonder why more people do not use this chain of thought reasoning when choosing someone!!

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"Accordingly, men must then either fulfill their nature, or deny it, and in denying their nature, deny us ours, for ours is the complement to theirs. " Renegades

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RE: How Long????? - 10/20/2005 4:58:17 PM

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crimsontied4u

just curious.....4 others said one year.....as well before Evanesce?

yet you used 8 exclamation points to say "at least 1 person thinks the way you think they

should"........wasn't that a bit rude to the previous 4 that took the time and energy to

try and assist you? no offence meant....and i hope none taken.

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RE: How Long????? - 10/20/2005 5:19:15 PM

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It was a little over four months when my owner brought me to live with him. We commuted just about every weekend prior to that and spent almost a week with friends in Florida over Thanksgiving. It was after that week that we both knew and a couple of weeks later I relocated.

I had friends that met my owner prior to my meeting him (not to mention the Spanish Inquisition from my leather family), and basically I went to meet him to prove to myself that no man in the world could be so much of what my ideal man was as he appeared to be. There *had* to be something wrong with him. I gave up looking for the clay feet quite a number years ago...lol.

I don't think there is a pat answer to this question. As with most things in life, there are no guaranties regardless of what you do.

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RE: How Long????? - 10/20/2005 7:28:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crimsontied4u

If you were contacted by a Master/Dom who wanted you to relocate to serve him,what would be your waiting period be,before beginning actual physical service?
Granted there may be some distance and travel involved,would that have some bearing on things?

I'm afraid I don't understand what you mean by physical service. Do you mean sex? BDSM play? serving dinner? retiling a floor?

C~

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RE: How Long????? - 10/22/2005 2:26:25 AM

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In all actuality for me? After getting to know someone as well as i did (3yrs.), and still have the Master turn out to be deceptive with an anger control issue...hmmm.

It's not about length of time anymore. Except under a year is probably out of the question. First i need to be very clear about the Master's motives for having me relocate there? Then it's about me. Is my head together? Are my motives for wanting to go healthy? Am i paying very close attention to our personalities, and their basic compatibilities or not? Have i seen all Masters many sides?
Is there something i am not aware of conciously, that i may be trying to escape from through relocation? hmmm.

Time will not fix these issues if they are present. This is just for me personally.

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RE: How Long????? - 10/22/2005 5:02:30 AM

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Very good points Mossy. These are all things I think about when contemplating any major life decision. I especially like the "escape through relocation" issue. Having done that before (no master involved) its something to think about. You have to know yourself and your own motivations for doing what you do. If it feels right and you have analyzed it thoroughly then no one can really answer this question but you Crimson.

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RE: How Long????? - 10/22/2005 5:48:05 AM

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for the last 6 yrs i have had total control of my life,lol, and do doubt that i would give it ALL up,
but for the right man,heck who knows..........

but to up and move to someone......
i seriously don't think i would ,
there's more involved than just me n him
(kids come first)
but you make me rethink the year that's for sure.

3 yrs what a bummer.....

quote:

ORIGINAL: mossy

In all actuality for me? After getting to know someone as well as i did (3yrs.), and still have the Master turn out to be deceptive with an anger control issue...hmmm.

It's not about length of time anymore. Except under a year is probably out of the question. First i need to be very clear about the Master's motives for having me relocate there? Then it's about me. Is my head together? Are my motives for wanting to go healthy? Am i paying very close attention to our personalities, and their basic compatibilities or not? Have i seen all Masters many sides?
Is there something i am not aware of conciously, that i may be trying to escape from through relocation? hmmm.

Time will not fix these issues if they are present. This is just for me personally.

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