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wandersalone -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 11:26:13 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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I would love to find a life partner with an incredible D/s fit. What can I say...I want it all!!


wanders,
of course you want it all, but if you had to make a choice right now, today; which would it be?
CP

............
MAN-what a diatribe! Sorry about that.  

A wonderful post .... thankyou for sharing that with us.




shigglyboom -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 11:53:57 AM)

I want a life partner who I can worship and serve whether or not we call ourselves D/s or not. For me the deep emotional connection is what's imperative; the rest is icing on the cake.

Sure I'd prefer D/s, and I'd miss the physical kink a lot - but I miss it being single too (being not much into casual play dates.) Somehow between my fertile imagination and Doc Johnson's, I've been getting by. [:)]




Quivver -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 12:58:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Quivver, well then by all means share the secret of having both.

CP


There is no secret.  I'm just happy with Me and My choices. 




littleone35 -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 2:21:08 PM)

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ORIGINAL: littleone35

If by life partner you are talking avout someon you want in your life for a long term i would chooses that.  We do have to be a good D/s fit also or i could go vanilla for long term partner.  I was lucky i found both with my Master.

Matt's littleone


I re -read ny response i an i realized it did not sound quite right.  What i meant is if he is not a D/s fit then it would just be vanilla and i would not be with that person.  Not that i could ever go back to that.  sorry if that confudrf anyone.




subtee -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 2:25:52 PM)

I want:

When the world ends
Youre gonna come with me
Were going to be crazy
Like a river bends
Were going to float
Through the criss cross of the mountains
Watch them fade to nothing
When the world ends
You know thats whats happening now
Im going to be there with you somehow, oh...

Im going to tie you up like a baby in a carriage car
Your legs wont work cause you want me so
You just lie spread to the wall
The love you got is surely
All the love that I would ever need
Im going to take you by my side
And love you tall, til the world ends

Oh, but dont you worry about a thing
No, cause I got you here with me
Dont you worry about a
Just you and me
Floating through the empty, empty
Just you and me
Oh, graces
Oh, grace

 
-dmb




HieroV -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 3:54:13 PM)

The bottom line is this. You don't have to hold out for the ideal, just be open to the possibility that the person DOES exist and be ready.

MAN-what a diatribe! Sorry about that.  
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Nah...that was nicely done. I wasted a few years on the "sidelines" for some of the reasons you mentioned...





kallisto -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 4:32:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Not withstanding other issues such as your age, sex, experience etc; what do you as a submissive seek as a primarely goal?
As is true most of the time this inquiery is fostered by reading profiles of many, not all, of respondes to various thread here on CM as well as other sites that I visit at times.

Is a life partner foremost in your search at the expense of other issues; or are the aspects of a very nice D/s fit are what riings your chime?


Why would I have to make a choice?   If my eyes are open to whatever lies ahead of me and I delve into life with open arms and embrace what comes my way, maybe I wouldn't have to choose.   A D/s fit could very well turn out to be my life partner.   But if I put restrictions on life, then I could be limiting myself to who comes into my life.  

Granted, choices may have to be made but why would I have to set up boundaries while I'm "looking".   I really don't like the idea of "looking" or "searching".    It sounds as if one is grocery shopping looking for the best deal with a stack of coupons.     




whiteslavebitch -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 6:13:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subtee

I want:

When the world ends
Youre gonna come with me
Were going to be crazy
Like a river bends
Were going to float
Through the criss cross of the mountains
Watch them fade to nothing
When the world ends
You know thats whats happening now
Im going to be there with you somehow, oh...

Im going to tie you up like a baby in a carriage car
Your legs wont work cause you want me so
You just lie spread to the wall
The love you got is surely
All the love that I would ever need
Im going to take you by my side
And love you tall, til the world ends

Oh, but dont you worry about a thing
No, cause I got you here with me
Dont you worry about a
Just you and me
Floating through the empty, empty
Just you and me
Oh, graces
Oh, grace

 
-dmb


(small hi-jack)


subtee,

This made me smile,  they're my favorite band.




CelticPrince -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 6:19:11 PM)

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I have been looking for a warm,caring,loving relationship that just happens to incorporate BDSM for a LONG time. No luck


MG,

I can feel your pain, but just when you think it is done, good things will happen. Good fortune

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 6:22:21 PM)

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I love getting older, I just don't want to get "old!"


Gleegal,

"old" is a relative term, pay it no mind at all.

CP




Maya2001 -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 6:22:54 PM)

For me a life partner must also be a good D/s fit when it comes to searching for a dom  and we see each other inorder to determine  if we do fit together well,  if not. I will end as I feel I do need the D/s aspect..   Now I do have a couple doms who are  a good D/s fit   but can't be a life partners  for me  , when a potential life partner relationship  does not work out  I may tend to feel a bit deflated/discouraged so spending time with the D/s fit helps to rejuvenate me/ get myself back in the right frame of mind  again but staying   solely within the only D/s fit relationship  is not an option for me,  the desire for a life partner has a much stronger magnetic pull for me so it only lasts till I feel ready to restart another prospective life partner search..

As far as what the current choice is today... well one potential life partner search recently came to an end ..so made plans for spending time with one of my D/s fit friends no sooner had done that and was contacted by a Dom who has been interested for quite  some time in exploring a potential lifetime relationship with me but I had been in relationships before  so we have discussed where I am at now and will likely start  to explore that relationship in  mid July as i will only will submit to one Dom at a time. 





CelticPrince -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 6:25:14 PM)

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So I guess my answer is that I wouldn't make that choice.... the two are not able to be separated by me. I have tried in the past but it didn't work.


wanders,

Well patience can be a good thing if used in moderation, good fortune to you.

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 6:28:31 PM)

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Sure I'd prefer D/s, and I'd miss the physical kink a lot - but I miss it being single too (being not much into casual play dates.) Somehow between my fertile imagination and Doc Johnson's, I've been getting by. <http://www.collarchat.com/image/s1.gif>


shiggly,

I just have to ask where that nick came from? Beware oof Dr Jhonson, as he is a rascal.

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 6:30:15 PM)

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There is no secret. I'm just happy with Me and My choices.


Quivver,

Well ok, lets call it your personal formula.

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 6:35:22 PM)

quote:

When the world ends
Youre gonna come with me
Were going to be crazy
Like a river bends
Were going to float
Through the criss cross of the mountains
Watch them fade to nothing
When the world ends
You know thats whats happening now
Im going to be there with you somehow, oh...

Im going to tie you up like a baby in a carriage car
Your legs wont work cause you want me so
You just lie spread to the wall
The love you got is surely
All the love that I would ever need
Im going to take you by my side
And love you tall, til the world ends

Oh, but dont you worry about a thing
No, cause I got you here with me
Dont you worry about a
Just you and me
Floating through the empty, empty
Just you and me
Oh, graces
Oh, grace

-dmb


subtee, some fine words girl, I guess I will put you down as a lifer.

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 6:38:17 PM)

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Why would I have to make a choice? If my eyes are open to whatever lies ahead of me and I delve into life with open arms and embrace what comes my way, maybe I wouldn't have to choose. A D/s fit could very well turn out to be my life partner. But if I put restrictions on life, then I could be limiting myself to who comes into my life.

Granted, choices may have to be made but why would I have to set up boundaries while I'm "looking". I really don't like the idea of "looking" or "searching". It sounds as if one is grocery shopping looking for the best deal with a stack of coupons.


kallisto,

Twas only a hypothetical question!

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/16/2008 6:41:29 PM)

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As far as what the current choice is today... well one potential life partner search recently came to an end ..so made plans for spending time with one of my D/s fit friends no sooner had done that and was contacted by a Dom who has been interested for quite some time in exploring a potential lifetime relationship with me but I had been in relationships before so we have discussed where I am at now and will likely start to explore that relationship in mid July as i will only will submit to one Dom at a time.



May,

It has been noted by many wise folks that timing is everything. I wish you well on the new journey.

CP




clevername2 -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/17/2008 12:57:48 PM)

My goal is to experience the dominant using me. It is about being dominated. The context I prefer is a short term relationship lasting until they get bored with me. It would be a case of someone dominant saying "I want to take a submissive and use them for a while". Then in that relationship I get to experience whatever they dish out, based on their particular impulses and needs. In my case I want a lot of sexual contact and verbal abuse, but the main thing is to enter into the realm of the dominant's desires, anything goes within limits.




CelticPrince -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/17/2008 6:27:19 PM)

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My goal is to experience the dominant using me. It is about being dominated. The context I prefer is a short term relationship lasting until they get bored with me. It would be a case of someone dominant saying "I want to take a submissive and use them for a while". Then in that relationship I get to experience whatever they dish out, based on their particular impulses and needs. In my case I want a lot of sexual contact and verbal abuse, but the main thing is to enter into the realm of the dominant's desires, anything goes within limits.



clever, well no doubt about which choice your with. Thanks for sharing and knowing your mind!

CP




kittenpuss -> RE: Dom search / life partner or D/s partner (5/20/2008 11:03:41 AM)

I was looking for someone who would understand and anticipate my needs and see where it went. Defining it at the strat is rubbish. Compatibility is key.




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