RE: To Bind or Not to Bind

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SlaveSubtoserve -> RE: To Bind or Not to Bind (7/2/2008 12:47:15 PM)
...mm, absolutely love and need bondage so badly-- the tighter the better = the physicality of TPE, and puts me in mindset for serious pain reception and acceptance.

Gorgias -> RE: To Bind or Not to Bind (7/2/2008 12:50:31 PM)
For me, anyqway, getting tied up is sexually arousing of itself. It's cool if it's accompanied by other sexual stimulation, but it's quite sufficient on its own for me to have a good time.

Lordandmaster -> RE: To Bind or Not to Bind (7/2/2008 1:20:25 PM)
I did a thread a few months ago asking for suggestions for bondage positions that DO allow access to the genitals, and several respondents tried to explain what they get out of bondage that DOESN'T allow access to the genitals: http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=1536273 (And yay, that thread culminates in a lovely illustrated catalogue of bondage positions allowing access to the genitals, courtesy of Yours Truly.) quote: ORIGINAL: Insatiable4Black What do you think is the draw to being tied up in a scene?.. I mean specifically.. bondage that does NOT allow for sexual stimulation of genitalia. I enjoy being bound - but I don't really care for bondage that keeps me from being sexually pleasured. I've had experience with shibari, with cuffs and chains, too. My take on D/s and BDSM - is that WHATEVER goes on ought to be pleasureable for both parties (or more than two! hehe) involved. So, please don't reply that it's the Dominant's decision how you are bound, how the scene goes etc. I am asking what the draw is to being bound and caned, whipped, teased etc.. without the diversion of sexual release. Just curious :) Looking forward to the posts that follow!

bashfulhuck -> RE: To Bind or Not to Bind (7/2/2008 1:55:10 PM)
I haven't read the entire thread, but thought I would chime in on why bondage is for me, even though it's a complex question. Up until Saturday, I've never really needed to be bound. But the scene went into some intensity I had never been in. I wasn't being beaten any harder than normal, but for some reason, the people working on me began to tap into my lizard brain a bit, and I guess at one point it looked like I might attack back. My Owner informed me that the last thing she would want is a 300 LB weightlifter/bouncer that truly knows how to fight coming off the rack wanting a fight. And I completely and totally agree with her. Even though the act of her just grabbing my collar instantly puts me back into full submission, we want to play it safe. She's indicating that she would like to see just how far she can push me, and for that it's going to require bondage. I do however find a strange sense of peace when bound, especially if sensory dep is combined with it. I don't really feel vulnerable, because I know full well that my Owner is right there keeping an eye on me and protecting me, so I'm completely and perfectly safe. I can imagine a scene though with bondage that could be a serious turn on for me. I would kill for a total take down scene done on me, complete with bondage and a serious intense session of BDSM. The hard part is finding the people capable of helping her with that. But OMG if I ever get that, what a feeling. Orgasm isn't my goal within BDSM, my goal is giving my Owner my will and control. What she does with it is her business, not mine. I just get to be along for the ride (and what a great ride it is). Peace and serenity,. bashfulhuck property of PhadreLove

untamedsoul -> RE: To Bind or Not to Bind (7/2/2008 3:48:29 PM)
I love the anticipation of what is going to happen next. It doesn't matter whether I am cuffed or tied. Both are enjoyable.

ResidentSadist -> RE: To Bind or Not to Bind (7/2/2008 4:28:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ViceVersa My bondage needs to be tight, well-done, and inescapable - and some of the motivations I see as top or bottom: Bondage for Sex... Bondage for Its Own Sake... Bondage for Pain... Bondage for Fun... Bondage As a Challenge... Predicament Bondage... Bondage For Its Aesthetics... Bondage for Objectification... Nicely put and well defined. You have added an insight into a few of my own motivations that I did not realize until I read your descriptions. Thank you for sharing.

DesFIP -> RE: To Bind or Not to Bind (7/2/2008 6:22:30 PM)
Bondage is always intensely arousing for me. Well, except with my head tied. Being tied in such a way that the ropes do not stimulate the genitals gets me to the edge of orgasm and keeps me there. Until he decides finally to play with my nipples at which point I do orgasm. I don't need genital stimulation to be aroused by rope.

ViceVersa -> RE: To Bind or Not to Bind (7/2/2008 6:35:58 PM)
Sure thing, RS! It was enlightening for me to sit down and think through it all. Glad you found value in it, as well.

mettadas -> RE: To Bind or Not to Bind (7/3/2008 12:44:52 PM)
My core kink is power differential. Making me vulnerable demonstrates/increases power differential. Bondage makes me vulnerable. But there is also more to it than that. In some situations, being bound or caged is actually very comforting for me.

pompeii -> RE: To Bind or Not to Bind (7/3/2008 1:22:58 PM)
For me, giving the bondage is to make her helpless and available without fuss .... for her ... I guess ... it's to be enjoyed without responsibility.

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