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Learning to give head - 10/20/2005 7:44:41 PM   
boundredhead


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Status: offline 		Ok, new sub, experienced master. He wants me to service him orally but doesn't want to force me, wants me to crave it, then finally beg for it. I've never done it and not sure how to even begin. I have a very strong gag reflex and I think mentally i'm so afraid of gagging with him i'm embarrassed to try.

What do i do, how do i begin?
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RE: Learning to give head - 10/20/2005 8:01:39 PM   
subversiveone


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try here first

then try fellatio



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RE: Learning to give head - 10/20/2005 8:05:26 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		Practice practice practice. We make mistakes when we learn, accept it and get going.

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Do all doms like to be deep throated?

Gagging!

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/20/2005 9:53:01 PM   
KittenWithaTwist


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Status: offline 		When I first moved in with my Master, I hadn't really had a lot of experience with oral sex. I remember that my first night here, he had me kneel and service him orally and I thought it was really gross *laugh*.

I have found that the best way to learn is to practice. You can try sucking on large popsicles, similarly shaped pieces of fruit and vegetables (cucumbers, bananas, etc), or dildos (I suggest thin ones and then work your way up). Deep throating can be difficult to learn, but it is mostly a trial and error. If you gag, so what? I've actually thrown up a little bit in the past, either on my Master or in my mouth. It was unpleasant, but life goes on. A little soap and water, a cool drink, and a big hug and I was okay. And you will be too.

When we begin S&M, we always worry that something might go wrong or we might not like whatever it is. The first time I tried anal sex, I thought I might....make noises (which I did, actually) and my partner at the time would think I was gross (which he didn't).

You never know until you try. If you're motivated, try it out :)

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/20/2005 11:37:46 PM   
pandoravampire


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Status: offline 		There are several males who rather enjoy the sound of their submissive gagging and spluttering whilst they fuck their face.


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RE: Learning to give head - 10/21/2005 4:32:01 AM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		Pandoravampire....Did you find my lost journal?

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/21/2005 4:50:39 AM   
Rayne58


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Status: offline 		Have you told him you haven't done it before? I'd never either until just over 3 years ago. The guy I was with knew I wasn't experienced and just let me explore in my own time. I wanted to learn and he enjoyed showing/telling me what he liked I'm sure your Master will enjoy teaching you what he likes, and if you are enthusiastic and willing to learn I'm sure he will appreciate your efforts to please

I've been with Master nearly 2 years and in that time I've learned how to take Him down my throat. But it doesn't work all the time and I still gag/choke/cough but that's all part of the fun We incorporate it into the play, by Him grabbing my hair and "forcing" me back on. It's all practice, practice, practice, and Master loves letting me practice!

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/21/2005 4:51:32 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		Try practicing on a popsicle. Lick it, suck it, take it in--and you'll see right away if you're making tooth marks. I don't think too many men will complain if you suck their cock like a delicious popsicle stick.

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/21/2005 8:34:17 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		i agree with the other just practice. I have a small mouth so i had to pratice a lot so my teeth did not catch him. So just take is slow .

littleone

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/21/2005 10:19:25 AM   
plantlady64


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Status: offline 		Hello Little One,
I say it's a lot of licking, sucking & playing with a guys balls. Maybe it would be helpful to watch porn movies to see others in action. That might give you ideas.
I'd also like to lay my self open and say I have a huge problem with guys cumming in my mouth. I just can't get past the picture of all the little sperms I saw in 7th grade health class running around in my mouth. My way to still keep trying to adjust & reprogram my phobia is to keep a wastebasket next to me when I'm with a monogamous fluid partner that's permitted to cum in my mouth. That way if I get so grossed out I puke it's not all over everything. Believe it or not one of my boyfriends was really turned on by my gaging and throwing up. It made him even hotter than he already was every time.

I say practice makes perfect. If you remain willing that's the most anyone can expect.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/21/2005 11:40:09 AM   
theRose4U


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quote:

I have found that the best way to learn is to practice. You can try sucking on large popsicles, similarly shaped pieces of fruit and vegetables (cucumbers, bananas, etc), or dildos (I suggest thin ones and then work your way up).


Agree with the popcicle idea just start with a normal sized & work up. When you transfer to "lifelike" try honey, chocolate or something else that you like the taste of...keep in mind hot/cold can cause umm technical problems. This is something to think of as a journey. Take it step by step. IN THEORY your master should understand and coach you.

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/21/2005 4:33:12 PM   
WickedKev


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quote:

ORIGINAL: boundredhead

Ok, new sub, experienced master. He wants me to service him orally but doesn't want to force me, wants me to crave it, then finally beg for it. I've never done it and not sure how to even begin. I have a very strong gag reflex and I think mentally i'm so afraid of gagging with him i'm embarrassed to try.

What do i do, how do i begin?


I know it's called a blow job but for gods sake SUCK! Other than that you'll do fine......

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/21/2005 6:25:22 PM   
KatyLied


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I know it's called a blow job but for gods sake SUCK! Other than that you'll do fine......


Really. Why isn't it called a suck job?

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/21/2005 7:36:36 PM   
Quivver


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Dog eating peanut butter
and nursing...

end of joke

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/21/2005 7:39:07 PM   
mnottertail


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RE: Learning to give head - 10/21/2005 8:01:43 PM   
Quivver


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ORIGINAL: Quivver

2 kinds.....

Dog eating peanut butter
and nursing...

end of joke



Sigh, I will now write on the black board 100 times "I will always sign off when I'm through so Master doesnt write stuff under my name".."I will always sign off when I'm through so Master doesnt write stuff under my name".."I will always sign off when I'm through so Master doesnt write stuff under my name".."I will always sign off when I'm through so Master doesnt write stuff under my name".."I will always sign off when I'm through so Master doesnt write stuff under my name".."I will always sign off when I'm through so Master doesnt write stuff under my name".."I will always sign off when I'm through so Master doesnt write stuff under my name".."I will always sign off when I'm through so Master doesnt write stuff under my name".. I'm sure you all get the idea.........

Q

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/22/2005 6:03:11 AM   
fyreredsub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: boundredhead

Ok, new sub, experienced master. He wants me to service him orally but doesn't want to force me, wants me to crave it, then finally beg for it. I've never done it and not sure how to even begin. I have a very strong gag reflex and I think mentally i'm so afraid of gagging with him i'm embarrassed to try.

What do i do, how do i begin?



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RE: Learning to give head - 10/22/2005 6:04:56 AM   
fyreredsub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WickedKev

quote:

ORIGINAL: boundredhead

Ok, new sub, experienced master. He wants me to service him orally but doesn't want to force me, wants me to crave it, then finally beg for it. I've never done it and not sure how to even begin. I have a very strong gag reflex and I think mentally i'm so afraid of gagging with him i'm embarrassed to try.

What do i do, how do i begin?


I know it's called a blow job but for gods sake SUCK! Other than that you'll do fine......



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RE: Learning to give head - 10/22/2005 6:24:55 AM   
mystictryst


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Status: offline 		When I was much, much younger, my very first "true" love taught me how.. He used the already referenced popcicle method.

And it works. Like a charm. I can deep throat damn near anything set before me now. I practiced with drinking straws, once you get the depth established, it's just a matter of relaxing your throat.

And wickedKev: sucking is important. But be weary of vacuums..

signed,

the girl formerly known as "Hoover"

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/22/2005 8:13:35 PM   
Hallittlelolita


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Status: offline 		Hi there, pretend it is a popsicle or lollipop and put something edible on it like chocolate sauce or whatever whip cream and lick it off and get into it

Sincerely andie and her Master Hal

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