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RE: Learning to give head - 10/22/2005 11:05:41 PM   
cinnfulhussy


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Status: offline 		I learned on a bananna. Kielbasa is another good one. I would start by counting. I'd get to the point where I wanted to gag, and would count. One, two, then back out. sometimes one was as far as I got. Then I'd make it to 3 etc. It helps you to consciously control an involuntary reflex, and make it more voluntary. There will probably always be times you will gag, but this helps lessen it, and with practice, helps with him pushing in and out. Breathe on the out, hold on the in.... count.... :)

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/23/2005 5:44:42 AM   
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In giving head, getting to the point of not gagging is important.

I've learned that gagging is a definate turn off to some. I've warned them ahead of time that I don't have much experience with it, and that i have an overactive gag reflex, but they reassure me they'll understand, but.. once it happens, the evening is usually soon over, and I never hear from em again... <sigh>

....remembering what the Raven said....

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I'd get to the point where I wanted to gag, and would count. One, two, then back out. sometimes one was as far as I got. Then I'd make it to 3 etc. It helps you to consciously control an involuntary reflex, and make it more voluntary. There will probably always be times you will gag, but this helps lessen it, and with practice, helps with him pushing in and out. Breathe on the out, hold on the in.... count.... :)


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RE: Learning to give head - 10/23/2005 6:13:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		this would be a case of bigger is not always better...

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/23/2005 4:51:35 PM   
RosaB


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Status: offline 		I guess I'm just jaded, cause I got the feeling someone was just looking for wanking material. If not, there's been a great deal of very helpful info supplied, thus far, for anyone seeking instruction.

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/26/2005 9:33:22 AM   
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this would be a case of bigger is not always better...

oooh, but that's not true. it's just a bigger challenge in this department, but well worth the effort. they sure do grow some big ones in some places...

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/26/2005 9:53:08 AM   
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wants me to crave it, then finally beg for it.

What do i do, how do i begin?


Let me guess .. .. .. you never were a thumb sucker?

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/26/2005 2:03:45 PM   
wolfinside


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You can find, lots of technique ideas anywhere.

But the true basis of giving good head is that you really love doing it. The taste, the aroma, the texture etc.

If you love doing it, then the rest will follow with a little education.

Because people can tell by your touch if you're doing it just because you have to, or if you really love it. (that you cannot hide)

It sounds like your master wants you to love it. Maybe you will take to it like a duck to water.

Good luck, and enjoy yourself.


Wolf

P.S. And by all means swallow, men feel like they are being rejected when women do not swallow. (how would a woman feel if a man was eating her pussy and kept spitting out her fluids?)



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RE: Learning to give head - 10/26/2005 3:31:10 PM   
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Really. Why isn't it called a suck job?


lol...okay I wanna play the silly game too! Why are hemorhoids called hemorhoids?? shouldn't they be assteroids?

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/31/2005 10:48:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: boundredhead

What do i do, how do i begin?




Maybe try sucking his cock while he is sleeping. Lay your head on his thigh/belly space and just be easy. Sort of like sucking a thumb while he is in a relaxed state, may make a little less tense of a situtaion. Some Masters dont like it hard and forced. And others... well.... enough said.
from the one who wants more practice

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/31/2005 1:19:43 PM   
kinkiminx


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For deep throating sometimes it helps to be able to put your head back, i like to lean backwards over the edge of a bed or a chair... this way you can stretch out your neck straight to more easily accept something as big as a cock down there. Practice every time you eat a banana :) just cut any sharp bits off first!
..now everone knows why i like bananas.... :)

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/31/2005 7:03:17 PM   
comesoncommand


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Status: offline 		Ah...i have much empathy for you, boundredhead! i had only ever given head to vanilla guys, and i gave simply so i could then receive . The first time my Master used the term "cock worship" i had no idea what He was talking about, and when He explained i didn't think it was possible to see a cock that way. LOL...and now i know to never say never ;)!

The first time i did it for Him, i was definately unskilled!! But, to repeat the rest of the world...practice made it better. But more important than practice is honesty and communication. Talk about your fear of gagging. Ask Him what He likes, and why. Let Him direct you. Be patient with yourself. Pay attention to what He says He enjoys, practice that, ask for feedback, and pay attention to His reaction. It was so amazing for me to learn how to do something that pleased my Master so much. And this may sound stupid, but ask if you can spend some quality time with His cock. What do i mean? Well, i was amazed to find i had never really LOOKED at a cock. Sure, i had seen them, played with them...but i had never really taken a good hard (heehee) look. i was amazed at how sexy really looking at it, stroking it, and simply kissing it could be. As far as the gag reflex...patience (on B/both of your parts). Leaning my head back over a bed or arm of a chair/couch helped in the begining to open up my throat. But a lot of it was mental. When i finally got over the fear of not being able to do it, doing it and gagging...yadda,yadda...then one time when i slid my mouth down it slid all the way (lol...i was MUCH more surprised than He was). Now, i LOVE to go down on my Master...and yes, i beg for it.

If all this advice is still a bit overwhelming, you may want to check out this website: www.sexuality.org They have a whole section on fellatio...and it gives simple, step-by-step how to. i also LOVED the book: "Sex tips for the straight woman by the gay guy"...it is really funny, but also gives simple how-to.

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/31/2005 8:49:24 PM   
slavedesires


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I know it's called a blow job but for gods sake SUCK! Other than that you'll do fine......


Really. Why isn't it called a suck job?



hehehe...... we call it "sunshine"........

"blowjob" sounds so nilla compared to being forced, gagged, pounded, breathplayed, slobbering, puking........oh TMI?

oops... edited for spelling...good thing i suck better than my spelling

< Message edited by slavedesires -- 10/31/2005 9:07:39 PM >

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/31/2005 8:51:22 PM   
starshineowned


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Positioning seems to change for me..One time it's good this way, another time it's not. So far in consistency it has been just level where i don't have to arch or tilt or support anything.

Practice..nods..has practiced pretty much every single day for the last 7 months from a few strokes to 30 mins..from just one time a day to numerous..but something every day.

Take time with it like comesoncommand said and get to know your Masters cock, the shape, texture, where the veins run. Have fun with it..nuzzle it, lightly flick it (if allowed..grins), blow air into the opening, hum a few bars with just the head in your mouth to let vibration through..once you get to where you can go down further pick a few songs that are fun (honest this helps keep your mind occupied and gives him a neat feeling) like i'm a little tea pot, or home on the range. It's okay to laugh and sputter..lol just have a lil towel handy.

I'm sure somewhere someone has already mentioned to make sure erm it's really clean in that area. If odor gets you then give him a nice lil warm loving soapy wash. Just gives you more time to carress and be intimate with it. Ask if he is not already if it's okay to trim (not shave). If your shaved, and he is shaved..ooooooooooooo the friction burn!

Good luck

starshine
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RE: Learning to give head - 10/31/2005 8:55:43 PM   
slavedesires


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ORIGINAL: RainGod

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Really. Why isn't it called a suck job?


lol...okay I wanna play the silly game too! Why are hemorhoids called hemorhoids?? shouldn't they be assteroids?



ROTFLMFAO.... ouch ...now i cant sit!!

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/31/2005 8:59:02 PM   
slavedesires


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Let me guess .. .. .. you never were a thumb sucker?

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mmmmmmmmm
i thought that was why i had a hand fetish...esp for sucking His fingers

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/31/2005 9:04:23 PM   
slavedesires


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Try practicing on a popsicle. Lick it, suck it, take it in--and you'll see right away if you're making tooth marks. I don't think too many men will complain if you suck their cock like a delicious popsicle stick.



LMAO...oh god...what will the question and answer be to the product of sucking such a delicius popsicle ....try a pineapple one?

i guess it pays to be a cockwhore cumslut well for me it does

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RE: Learning to give head - 10/31/2005 9:27:01 PM   
pinkpleasures


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Status: offline 		To the Op: just because fellatio is common doesn't mean it's something you will ever like. We are all different. Yes, it's a skill and can be learned, but when you find a sexal practice repugnant, it's a situation you and your Master should discuss. Moving slowly; not expecting too much right away; and trying to suspend judgment if that's part of the problem will all help. Forcing you will not, IMO.

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RE: Learning to give head - 11/1/2005 7:05:32 AM   
NYDiscipline


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Status: offline 		If I had a dime for all the girls who told me they never did that before, when I was in college....

Practice does make perfect. I've seen it happen a number of times. Just stay relaxed, focused, and remember how much your Master is enjoying the feeling of your lips and tongue wrapped around His....ummm...yeah....you get the idea.


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