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ElanSubdued -> RE: Is my profile not appealing? (5/18/2008 12:16:48 PM)
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APoinephilicLife,
Upon reading my comments to you, I think that I was perhaps unfair. In particular, I'm thinking of the comment I made about your friends list making you appear as a player. Now it's true that many of these pictures are of young Dominas, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with this and it also shows that you are a social person. What bothered me is the cumulative effect of the negativity in your text which, in turn, caused me to view your pictures with question. Here are some examples of what I'm talking about:
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It annoys me when people's cell phones are turned off.
My profile is not a fake. I am legitimate.
I work hard to pay my bills.
I'm looking for a real Dom/Sub relationship, NOT a financial whore.
In the last line you're essentially calling women whores. Let's review the Old English definition of the word whore which is (roughly): "a prostitute, one who engages in sexual relations for a reward, usually monetary". Now in this sense, it's true that some women are whores, but it's equally true that some men are whores. Regardless of the gender you're labeling, you've done this in an extremely derogative way and thus it reflects poorly on you. There are situations where the word whore has very positive, endearing connotations, but that's not how you're using it here. Even in positive contexts, one must be careful because, like equally loaded words (such as slut, bitch, and cunt), some people just don't like hearing certain words. Myself, if it's by the right person and in the right context, I love being called any of these words, but again I must stress that the usage of whore in your profile doesn't come across in a positive way. Doubling your folly is the subtext that professional Dominas are whores. This is an aged, staid, often hurtful, vitriolic subject that is best avoided.
As for the other text I've quoted, it's not overtly negative but rather subtly negative. The one line style you've chosen does tend to emphasize each of these statements. It comes across as though you've got a chip on your shoulder and thus, as I mentioned above, the cumulative effect is negative, at least when I read it.
You're very physically attractive and this comes across in your pictures. Likewise you're going to school, have a job, and demonstrate other attractive qualities (such as being honest and straightforward). Thus, as I suggested before, I recommend removing the negativity from your profile and adding some more vanilla details about yourself. Also, it would help to be more specific about what you're looking for. With these changes, I think you'll do much better.
Just a final note... in my previous post I wrote: "pictures, personality, intelligence, sense of houmour, grace, compassion, spealling, and grammar all count". Oops. Now there's irony for ya. Of all the words to mistype, I misspelled "spelling". :-)
Elan.
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