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Love and Kink

I want love with my D/s, but can do without

30% (30)

I have to have both

64% (64)

I want nothing to do with love

6% (6)

Total Votes : 100

(last vote on : 8/29/2008 4:05:24 PM)
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Level -> Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:19:44 PM)
Need some Cupid with your kink?

softness -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:23:19 PM)
Its all about context I dont need to love the guy that I have beat me at a dungeon on a Friday night... in fact .. I dont even really need his name ... "NEXT!" but I do need to love the guy I sign myself, all my possessions, rights, hopes and desires over to in complete power exchange ... otherwise .. why bloody bother!

ownedgirlie -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:24:36 PM)
I used to think I didn't need love in my relationship. Now I know that I do, if I want to thrive. Sure, I can live without it, but not very happily.

julietsierra -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:27:50 PM)
I have both. I don't ever want to think what I can do without cause I don't want to do without him. (it's a "mushy" morning - what can I say?) juliet

Level -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:30:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness Its all about context I dont need to love the guy that I have beat me at a dungeon on a Friday night... in fact .. I dont even really need his name ... "NEXT!" LOL [:D] quote: but I do need to love the guy I sign myself, all my possessions, rights, hopes and desires over to in complete power exchange ... otherwise .. why bloody bother! So, love is ultimately a deal-maker in a LTR.

christine1 -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:31:51 PM)
i have to have both, i can't serve a man unless i love him and he loves me back.

Level -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:32:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie I used to think I didn't need love in my relationship. Now I know that I do, if I want to thrive. Sure, I can live without it, but not very happily. [;)] Chalk up one more for love. quote: I have both. I don't ever want to think what I can do without cause I don't want to do without him. (it's a "mushy" morning - what can I say?) juliet And another [X(] Nothing wrong with mushy, juliet.

Level -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:34:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: christine1 i have to have both, i can't serve a man unless i love him and he loves me back. Hmm, it's love, opening a considerable lead.... For myself, I crave love. As I've said before, I'd give up D/s for it.... but I sure as hell don't intend on that happening, if I can help it.

dawntreader -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:37:31 PM)
Ofcourse if you can't have the one you love, love the one you're with.....[:D] (Sorry, i couldn't resist!)

Level -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:40:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dawntreader Ofcourse if you can't have the one you love, love the one you're with.....[:D] (Sorry, i couldn't resist!) Oh, you could resist, you just didn't want to! [8D] Lovely new pic, by the way. I wonder what they meant by that line..... love the one you're with. Make do? Be grateful for what you have?

Arrrchibald -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:43:11 PM)
If I loved someone enough, I'd drop the kink. But I really can't imagine that happening. Whenever I mention bdsm to any vanilla folks, damn near all of them believe it's nothing more than a mental disease. And that any explanation I give about it is just an attempt to "rationalize a serious problem that you need professional help for." How could I be in love with someone that narrow-minded?

completenz -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:46:15 PM)
We have both and feel blessed. C & c

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:48:02 PM)
I don't have to have romantic love. But I do need to have friendship at minimum.

Level -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:51:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arrrchibald If I loved someone enough, I'd drop the kink. But I really can't imagine that happening. Whenever I mention bdsm to any vanilla folks, damn near all of them believe it's nothing more than a mental disease. And that any explanation I give about it is just an attempt to "rationalize a serious problem that you need professional help for." How could I be in love with someone that narrow-minded? Love can be a tricky motherfucker lol.... it doesn't always knock before barging in. But I understand what you mean.

Justme696 -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:52:50 PM)
Both..else I don't get the motivation to put energy into it.

Level -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:54:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: completenz We have both and feel blessed. C & c It is a blessing. quote: I don't have to have romantic love. But I do need to have friendship at minimum. So, there needs to be a level of warmth, some depth of feeling.

dawntreader -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:57:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: dawntreader Ofcourse if you can't have the one you love, love the one you're with.....[:D] (Sorry, i couldn't resist!) Oh, you could resist, you just didn't want to! [8D] Lovely new pic, by the way. I wonder what they meant by that line..... love the one you're with. Make do? Be grateful for what you have? Thanks for the compliment - trying to show i can be as sophisticated as i am slutty! LOL! As to being able to resist...its kind of like you and your delicious "poll fetish!" Resisting is only fun when it's against some rope! [:D] As to what the "ancient philosophers" meant when they spoke those eternal words for those of us that "love to love"...perhaps they meant there is something to love in everyone? i like to think that~

laura2161 -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 12:59:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level Love can be a tricky motherfucker lol.... it doesn't always knock before barging in. You can sure say that again! Oh, in answer to the question...I used to think caring was enough but in the end it wasn't. I need both.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 1:02:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: I don't have to have romantic love. But I do need to have friendship at minimum. So, there needs to be a level of warmth, some depth of feeling. Some warmth, yes, although the depth of feeling has varied widely from person to person. Example: I wouldn't put the buddy I spanked with a belt for his b-day on the same level as my current play partner who isn't at the same emotional level as my SO.

gypsygrl -> RE: Love and Kink (5/18/2008 1:02:38 PM)
Kink and D/s aren't the same for me. I can do kink without love. I can do some forms of D/s without love--how much love do I need to feel to fetch a cup of coffee on command?. But, it doesn't go very deep. But, I don't think I can love without at least the s part of D/s. My internal intimacy model doesn't include the possibility. I could do without the pomp and circumstance of lifestyle D/s, the vocabulary of dominance and submission that we use here on this site, but if I love someone, I'm going to be pretty submissive to them. Sometimes I wonder if I can do life without s-ing all over the place.

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