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What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/18/2008 7:13:07 PM   
MiaMaria


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Hello, I´d like to know a Masters view on this.. and what´s going on,from a Dominants point of view, because I don´t understand quite much..
Had a Master,eerything´s fine, except couldn´t call him just text,he didn´t fancy talk in phone. well... some few
times,he had difficulties stay in contact, but very very short moments, so I let it pass. He managed to stay away
for some holiday seasons, never got a clue,until it was over, he text me "sorry,but I still have family left yadda-
yadda". After that,he got sick,we couldn´t meet. After that, he drifted away, after som weeks, he claimed,he
haven´t forgot me,he never ever let me go,I was the one-yadda-yadda. two months past-the same story.
Never heard anything. Know he´s gonna do it again. What do such a Master have in mind??
I also found out he was searching on a dating site,I wrote,he answered,he said he searched. Later said he
knew it was me.
Master number two, former Master,everythings fine back then, but when I had to work and couldn´t meet,
he dropped me. No contact, no answer, cut the phone of. After eight months he said howdy online,and
now he wants me back and talks like nothing ever happened. I haven´t got the words to ask the right
questions yet,where shall i start, what shall I say?
He says he wants to meet me and wants to talk about bdsm all the time and acts like sure,I will -kinda..
I just don´t know,but I haven´t promised anything at all. He didn´t want me to look for anyone else,he said.
I asked him,do you want one time or fast relationship? he said you can´t know it has to be developed before
you know. But no,not one time. (and he´s not famous doing so either)
well all Dominants/Masters.what is your view on this? what´s going on?
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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/18/2008 7:14:40 PM   
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I really wish I could help you, but I cant even figure out what you are asking. Thats one big clusterfuck you wrote there darlin.

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/18/2008 7:17:41 PM   
SirMIkeSD


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I agree with KCherry what the hell are you asking?

Mike

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/18/2008 7:19:03 PM   
Alumbrado


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Whatever it is, it is the same thing posted in the General Forum under a different title. (About Absence).

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/18/2008 7:21:59 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MiaMaria

well all Dominants/Masters.what is your view on this? what´s going on?

Simple... you've allowed yourself to be played for a fool twice.  And its your own fault for allowing it to happen, for not having more respect for yourself, for not having higher standards.

My advice, improve your standards and you'll have fewer such problems.

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/18/2008 7:22:47 PM   
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Is this about commitment, consistency, or both?  In any case, perhaps you need to stick with Doms who agree to what you need - once you figure out what that is...

Frankly, this sounds like a case of, "submissive, know thyself".  Until you know yourself better you are not going to find what you want - since you don't seem to know what that is.


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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/18/2008 7:43:10 PM   
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Master #1 was married.  Not sure what Master #2's problem was.

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/18/2008 8:13:57 PM   
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Sounds like the usual one sided on-line realationship with a married so called "Dom".

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/18/2008 8:16:39 PM   
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Not all of us married D types are bad, you know?

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/18/2008 9:02:31 PM   
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Sounds like confused people doing thier thing to me.

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/18/2008 9:08:57 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Maybe master was more interested in someone else who knew how to speak coherently.

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I agree with KCherry what the hell are you asking?

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/18/2008 9:13:57 PM   
CruelDesires


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I wish I wrote/typed Dutch/German as well as the OP types English. Maybe you should cut her a bit of slack for that reason...

CD

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/18/2008 10:53:25 PM   
antipode


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One of these is just text messaging, the other is online / phone only? I think this is all in your imagination. You would be better off finding a forum in Danish, your English is terrible.

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/19/2008 1:45:36 AM   
SephandElena


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MiaMaria

Hello, I´d like to know a Masters view on this.. and what´s going on,from a Dominants point of view, because I don´t understand quite much..
Had a Master,eerything´s fine, except couldn´t call him just text,he didn´t fancy talk in phone. well... some few
times,he had difficulties stay in contact, but very very short moments, so I let it pass. He managed to stay away
for some holiday seasons, never got a clue,until it was over, he text me "sorry,but I still have family left yadda-
yadda". After that,he got sick,we couldn´t meet. After that, he drifted away, after som weeks, he claimed,he
haven´t forgot me,he never ever let me go,I was the one-yadda-yadda. two months past-the same story.
Never heard anything. Know he´s gonna do it again. What do such a Master have in mind??
I also found out he was searching on a dating site,I wrote,he answered,he said he searched. Later said he
knew it was me.
Master number two, former Master,everythings fine back then, but when I had to work and couldn´t meet,
he dropped me. No contact, no answer, cut the phone of. After eight months he said howdy online,and
now he wants me back and talks like nothing ever happened. I haven´t got the words to ask the right
questions yet,where shall i start, what shall I say?
He says he wants to meet me and wants to talk about bdsm all the time and acts like sure,I will -kinda..
I just don´t know,but I haven´t promised anything at all. He didn´t want me to look for anyone else,he said.
I asked him,do you want one time or fast relationship? he said you can´t know it has to be developed before
you know. But no,not one time. (and he´s not famous doing so either)
well all Dominants/Masters.what is your view on this? what´s going on?


Summary for those who can't work this out.

First Dom, would text message, wouldn't talk on the phone very much at all, suddenly disappears to be "With family", no contact at all for months. Comes back out of the blue claiming that he never forgot her, wants to be with her. You guys know the drill here, all the good stuff that fakers like using.

Seems she left him, (sensible girl right there), after she found him still searching for someone else on a dating site.

Second guy (I have difficulty calling this kind of man a Dom sorry people), met up, all was fine and dandy until she had to work, then he dropped her like a hot potato, cut off contact completely and utterly without warning, and with just as much warning, reappears sometime later wanting her back. (looking for an easy lay?), with no explanations for his complete removal of contact.

The question would seem to be should she go back to him. He's apparently promising that he wants to meet with her once more but refuses to comit himself any further than that, no signals of if he wants this to be a one time thing or a relationship, as he claims it takes time to know.  She's looking for help on what to do.


My appologies if I've summarised wrong, this is what I've understood from it.

If I'm correct on my sumarisation, I can only say that if he's played you for a fool once, then he'll do it again. Keep an open mind, and don't stop talking to other people. Find people who know him. Or have known him, ask them their opinion too, this might be a favourite game of his whenever he's feeling horny. You deserve more than that, a lot more. Respect yourself and find someone who will respect you the way you need to be.

Seph aka Reb.

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/19/2008 3:01:21 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Not all of us married D types are bad, you know?

No, just the ones that lie about it.

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/19/2008 3:22:43 AM   
Focus50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MiaMaria

Hello, I´d like to know a Masters view on this.. and what´s going on,from a Dominants point of view, because I don´t understand quite much..
Had a Master,eerything´s fine, except couldn´t call him just text,he didn´t fancy talk in phone. well... some few
times,he had difficulties stay in contact, but very very short moments, so I let it pass. He managed to stay away
for some holiday seasons, never got a clue,until it was over, he text me "sorry,but I still have family left yadda-
yadda". After that,he got sick,we couldn´t meet. After that, he drifted away, after som weeks, he claimed,he
haven´t forgot me,he never ever let me go,I was the one-yadda-yadda. two months past-the same story.
Never heard anything. Know he´s gonna do it again. What do such a Master have in mind??
I also found out he was searching on a dating site,I wrote,he answered,he said he searched. Later said he
knew it was me.
Master number two, former Master,everythings fine back then, but when I had to work and couldn´t meet,
he dropped me. No contact, no answer, cut the phone of. After eight months he said howdy online,and
now he wants me back and talks like nothing ever happened. I haven´t got the words to ask the right
questions yet,where shall i start, what shall I say?
He says he wants to meet me and wants to talk about bdsm all the time and acts like sure,I will -kinda..
I just don´t know,but I haven´t promised anything at all. He didn´t want me to look for anyone else,he said.
I asked him,do you want one time or fast relationship? he said you can´t know it has to be developed before
you know. But no,not one time. (and he´s not famous doing so either)
well all Dominants/Masters.what is your view on this? what´s going on?

My view is that you're getting jerked around by at least one (dom A) and probably two married boys who don't really know what they want if they grow up....  Well, I'm sure their dicks know so it's gotta be something easy to arrange and with no strings attached.
 
And you know it, too - your instincts are telling you they're time-wasters and liars and all you need to do is *listen* to your instincts and punt them. 
 
The anonymity of the Net allows for all manner of arseholes full of self-importance - including this thread, judging by a few of the "insightful" replies....
 
Focus.

Edited 'cause I *hate* typo's - and being obsessive/compulsive with it...  Arrggghhhh!!!!!

< Message edited by Focus50 -- 5/19/2008 3:27:45 AM >


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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/19/2008 5:20:10 AM   
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Mmmm the op is from another country. Possible that the so called Doms are just cyber BSin her.

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/19/2008 5:23:11 AM   
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My mother's advice: Ask yourself two questions. 1) Is being in the relationship healthy for you? 2) Would you miss him if he were gone? If the answer to either is, "No," you need to end the relationship.

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/19/2008 5:26:58 AM   
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i think you should leave Dom1 and Dom2 alone before either breaks your heart.  also, you're moving too fast in your search ...slow down in the fast lane and really get to know these men

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RE: What does a Master thinks,when it´s like this? - 5/19/2008 5:30:51 AM   
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I'm clueless, it's difficult for me to relate to, and I can't give you any ideas that could be the answer.

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