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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave
Basically, take the same approach as you would getting to know somebody vanilla. 

Yes.

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ORIGINAL: NewShoes

Hahaha to the OP...

The one thing that would scare me away is you checked off that you LIVE for SHOPPING!!!

Edited to add that you say you're an EXPERT!!

Now that Hurts:)

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ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

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curioussub30;
I've been told Im a control freak in real life but have been curious for quite awhile now and believe I am ready to turn fantasy into reality.

I've met quite a few submissives who have been told that by others. But... they desire to give up that control to someone who's worthy. Good luck finding that person. As someone stated before, you will kiss quite a few frogs before you find a real Prince.

CD

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ORIGINAL: sirguym

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ORIGINAL: Focus5]
 
If you picked a hundred random dom profiles, I reckon less than five would be sincere individuals interested in taking the time to cultivate something meaningful with you (or any female) and 80 - 90 would come under the banner of HNG (horny net geek) - the timewasters and wannabes who can only ever be dominant as long as the Net protects their anonymity.  The remainder are those happy with what they have and aren't seeking.
 
Asking simple "everyday" questions is the best way to gauge someone's sincerity.  If you actually strike up a conversation beyond "kneel bitch", then you have the rare distinction of chatting with a dom who sees more than just new, naive "meat".  But the clever ones will hang in there, so you've gotta be patient and give only the trust they earn.  Moving to arranging a r/l meet is also another way of screening out the geeks.
 
Good luck - and welcome to the Forums.... :-)
 
Focus.

I think 5 in 100 hugely overestimates the figures; 5 in 1,000 may be more accurate.

You are going to encounter a lot of frogs along the way; expect them and be prepared.

Be aware too, that the good Doms, and others, see the other side of the coin.

Wannabe subs who pester with trivial or irrelevant questions to which the answers are patently obvious.

Then or if the question is answered, come back with a very similar question the next week.