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Ok people Im the chosen GOOD one. Celeres what does age have to do with being good or bad?
***Warning, this is what I personally believe and have experienced. Please feel free to disagree with me as my "opinions" and views are as fluid as water. I'm highly receptive of other view points, but in doing so, please respect that I have my own that may differ from yours. Agree to disagree.***
In this ever so "progressing" social "norm" world, often (at least in Developed/First World/whatever you like to call it Counties) require a college education to have some sort of fighting chance in the current globalized economy. Sure, some may say "if the submissive is a 'pure heart' then college and a job would not matter because the Dominant will take care of it." Sadly, (hate to rain on people's parades), we do NOT live in a perfect world. [[you may skip ahead to my MAIN POINT if you’d like, but I like to give some background info first]]  This is not to say that a "fresh" and young 18 year old (or younger S&M couples—legally in different states, if both parties are under 18) do not live long and happy lives together. However, I find that there's a slight problem with an 18 year old and a 35 year old. Sure things may appear to work out, and if the two of them are genuinely happy, what's the problem? Call me a pragmatist, or realist, or just a pessimist, but 15-20 years down the line, the sub will be almost 40 and the dominant will be almost 60. Thanks to Viagra, a person can remain sexually active for a good long time but studies have shown that sex drive is certainly lower.
I know there are people out there fuming at me right now, but please, bear with me. It is not a matter of age but social disposition. Generally speaking an 18 year old has just graduated from High School, and generally speaking, a Dominant would have a fairly steady income to be able to afford a D/s lifestyle. I personally imagine that a D/s relationship after 10 years or so, the center-attraction will no longer be sexual release, but a long-term bond both emotionally and mentally (which is the true goal of a successful D/s relationship) in my opinion. So if that's the case, that is awesome. Statistically speaking however, how many married couples stay together in this day and age?
Can anyone say divorce? What happens if 10 years down the line, the Dominant is "tired" or bored of the submissive? What are they to do now? No education, no "real" work experience besides servicing a Dominant. Should they go back to school? If so, how do they pay for it? FinAid?—(which is dwindling thanks to President George W. Bush for bankrolling our War in Iraq by just printing new bills). [But that’s another discussion that I would happily argue in another thread if you so choose to]. There are many other things that I can point to that say a college education is necessary (if nothing else as “insurance” for one’s future). So, here is my MAIN POINT. To do well in “life” or to have a fighting chance, regardless what kind of kinks one is into, must be able to find a job that is “socially” acceptable (vanilla). In order to find a job in such competitive market would mean to have some sort of advantage over the other competitors. Now after I’ve drive the idea that college is important… I shall say this. Would a 25 year old who has a pretty “regular” schedule of work and free time be able to spend more time with a Dominant, or a 20 year old who is juggling school, afterschool study sessions, part-time job, social gatherings (to appear social and make friends). Time is very limited to maybe a couple hours a week (or someone taking less courses) a day or two to “play” and to show their submission. Whereas the submissive with a regular routine, can offer every evening and all their days off. So in summation, it is not so much a matter of age, it is our extremely busy schedules that make us seem “lazy” or that our “hearts aren’t in the ‘right’ place.” There are so many kind spirited, young individuals who need to work part-time and need to take 4-5 classes just to graduate in those 4 years. The average college graduation period is now 4.5-5 years. FinAid (esp in CA) is only good for 4 years. After that, you are on your own, no more grants, just more and more loans. So, it is just a matter of practicality. Most Dominants are older in age. Those 18-19 year old “rent-a-Dommes” are just looking for someone to help subsidize their expensive tastes while going to college. (This isn’t to say all “younger” people are like that, as I have made many, many genuine Dominants who are young and very, very attractive). But by and large, we are a rare commodity. I am often lumped into the group of people who are “only interested in kinky sex” because my current age is the “peak” of my sexual awareness. However, my over-active sexual drive should be used for more intense TD/OD “training”  But I digress, it is not a matter of age, but the busy schedule of those in college who are frowned upon for not being “able” to dedicate more time for the entertainment/enjoyment of the Dominant. A “good one” is only a diamond in the rough. It takes a highly skilled eye to find a “good” submissive. But since diamonds in the rough look just like all the other rocks scattered around, we are usually “gleaned over” for those who may “seem” better, but turn out to be just plain, dull, rocks looking for that quick one-night stand: thus further alienating our social group as a whole. *hides behind a boulder*  now let the disagreements, and rotten fruit throwing commence! Again, this is just how I feel and what I’ve personally experienced. I do not believe my opinion is a “one-size fits all” for everyone’s relationship. At the end of the day, we are all unique and thus the relationships that we do foster are all different from one another. Even twins have different tastes in ice cream or colors, why are D/s couples any different?
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