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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 10/22/2005 1:26:05 PM   
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For those of you who will now rant 'well all TexasMaam wants is slave labor without paying for it' let Me assuage your misplaced concerns. I want submissive males around Me; no more, no less. If you are not amenable to such a situation, don't petition Me for service.

Having said that, let Me explain that I surmise any man who is not specifically committed in chastity to Me probably engages in conversations and contact with other Dommes. Once I demand his loyalty and fealty, however, his undivided attention is expected. Not before.

Yes, I expect his/their chastity while I may not give Mine in return. Why would I want to surround Myself with day laborers whose energy is focused on some other Woman? Hello.

Should I choose to collar a submissive, with whom I am sexually intimate, and W/we agree on mutual exclusivity, then that's the way it will be between the two of U/us.

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TexasMaam
Very well said! It's not the way I do my thing, but I do it with equal conviction, directness and honesty.
Also a very good way to clarify informed/accepted D/s relationships between consenting adults. M

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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 10/22/2005 1:51:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: realsumissive

Please don't take this as ranting because I ask it as a question to gain knowledge. Again, just now I read a profile from a dominant female on the site stating clearly that she had been played by a so called sub. This woman gave a very common reason for being incensed. She claims that the sub was contacting several dommes. I read her profile again, and just as the first time it stated that she was seeking slaves. Not a slave, but multiple. Why do some dommes get so upset when they want many slaves, (which I have a hard time believing unless they are professionals) and they find a male sub is contacting several dommes? I would like to get some feedback from dominant women, so I can understand.

I would love to have 5-6 slaves whose attention would be focused only on me. So what?
I am neither lying, neither decieving, neither forcing someone to acccept my terms. I dont get upset if someone wants to have another woman in his life - I simply tell him he is dismissed and find another one. Actually very simple, what is there to understand?


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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 10/22/2005 2:43:00 PM   
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Kassia,
It isn't hard to understand, and I agree with you. My point was I don't see why she is calling the man a fraud for doing the same thing she is. It's that simple.

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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 10/22/2005 2:52:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: realsumissive

Kassia,
It isn't hard to understand, and I agree with you. My point was I don't see why she is calling the man a fraud for doing the same thing she is. It's that simple.


If she told you from the get go "I will have many, you will have only me" and then you snuck around looking for more, you're at fault.

If she told you "I will have many" and didn't say anything about you, then it's a case of bad communication insofar as expectations.

If she told you "I will have many and you can have many" and then changed the rules half way through, then she has no business calling you a fraud.

The fact is, that anyone can desire what they want and/or change their minds, as long as they make it explicit. And more power to them if they find people who are seeking out the same kind of dynamic as them.

*edited to add: For the record, I've had many boys ask if they could be my sub, devoted to only me, fully aware that I was involved with others. In fact for some, they liked the idea of being part of "a stable" of boys. As I mentioned earlier, it isn't anything I am interested in now.

- LA

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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 10/22/2005 3:56:35 PM   
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god knows i hope not....if there was...what would be the point?

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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 10/22/2005 4:02:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

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How is it possible for a sub to have more than one dominant, outside of a particular relationship? If you are serving a couple, sure, but a bevy of dominants? That's just casual play.
No M'LadyHibiscus,
I was surprised at one time where a girl on these boards was owned and shared by two masters (can't think of thread title), and she spent time between their homes and sometimes with both in one hom (good deal in my view if you can get it and cope with it; I personally know that is a shortcoming for me in that I can't cope with it in a healthy fashion). M



I wasn't talking about poly relationships---and I would include polyandry in there. I am thinking of a situation where the tops are not in contact with one another, or have any kind of agreement----not unlike Mr Married Guy, who seems to think he can pay attention to his wife AND a dominant. Being poly myself, I am fine with the multiple sub/multiple dominant scenario IF everyone is on the same page. {SO not easy to do IRL}

Ms F

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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 10/22/2005 5:51:15 PM   
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It's My Party and I'll Domme if I Want To.


Very well said.

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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 10/22/2005 6:36:02 PM   
TexasMaam


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CLASS, crass. duplicate ID's, whatever.
I miss the fat blonde avatar.

roflmao

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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 10/22/2005 6:47:18 PM   
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Interesting question, I suppose there are as many personal preferences as there are individuals. My personal preference is to discuss the addition of others with the people or person already in the relationship. Communication is a key factor in all relationships.

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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 10/22/2005 11:32:17 PM   
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CLASS, crass. duplicate ID's, whatever.
I miss the fat blonde avatar.

roflmao

TexasMaam



That was a real cheap-ass-shot. I hope you're well aware that it doesn't serve you well. Lady A epitomizes the word class and all that it embodies. As for your supposition about duplicate ID's, it looks like you're the one who's crass.



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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 10/23/2005 12:04:43 AM   
Kasia


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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
If she told you from the get go "I will have many, you will have only me" and then you snuck around looking for more, you're at fault.

If she told you "I will have many" and didn't say anything about you, then it's a case of bad communication insofar as expectations.

If she told you "I will have many and you can have many" and then changed the rules half way through, then she has no business calling you a fraud.

The fact is, that anyone can desire what they want and/or change their minds, as long as they make it explicit. And more power to them if they find people who are seeking out the same kind of dynamic as them.

Exactly the way I see it too. Plain and clear.

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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 10/23/2005 12:10:51 PM   
Guest
This is a reminder to all.Lets keep the personal attacks off forum and keep on subject please.

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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 11/17/2005 1:31:03 PM   
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I agree with Texas Maam, currently I have a woman who I have sex with but she isnt interested in giving BLow jobs so I use another girl for that. Unfortunatly neither of them are interested in doing the HOUse work so I have yet another one for that while I have yet another one who Dommes me. Im glad you have admitted you do similar things as this means I can and not look bad for it seeing as we are doing practically the same thing!.

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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 11/17/2005 1:37:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam


quote:

ORIGINAL: realsumissive
Why do some dommes get so upset when they want many slaves, (which I have a hard time believing unless they are professionals) and they find a male sub is contacting several dommes? I would like to get some feedback from dominant women, so I can understand.



Hmmm. Where to begin.

While I do not want many slaves, I enjoy having several submissives, or one alpha submissive and several slaves.

When I engaged several submissives at once in years past, it was simply because the sub/slave who wished to be a bathboy and personal assistant had no desire to cook. The sub who longed to cook for Me had no desire to be a houseboy. The houseboy had no desire to be either a bathboy, cook, personal assistant, gardner, etc.

The fact that I may engage more than one submissive in service does not mean I am intimate with more than one, or with ANY.

The simple truth is that there are submissive men, or male slaves, with personality traits who long to be of service. Not necessarily sexual service.

At present, I engage one submissive in service who prefers bondage to any other activity. He appeals to Me on many levels and we are emotionally involved and sexually intimate. He is the only sub with whom I am intimate.

I also engage a yardboy who wishes to be of service about the ranch; he asks for room and board, keeps the garden and the grounds and wishes to be recognized for such. We are NOT sexually intimate nor are we deeply emotionally involved. Still, I view his labours as 'service' and will session him (flogging) when he begs it of Me, because it is something that he needs.

I will entertain petitions from cooks and from houseboys who wish to serve. The parameters of service are set beforehand; very few submissive personas would ever expect sexual gratification from a Domme.

Whether or not intimacy ever develops depends completely upon the sub and his performance; not because I might choose to 'reward' him with same, but because performance with regard to service is often what arouses Me. That does not imply that I am poly. I am not. I prefer a sexually monogamous relationship. As with any relationship, the parameters, confines, limitations and negotiations are worked out through careful communication.

For those of you who will now rant 'well all TexasMaam wants is slave labor without paying for it' let Me assuage your misplaced concerns. I want submissive males around Me; no more, no less. If you are not amenable to such a situation, don't petition Me for service.

Having said that, let Me explain that I surmise any man who is not specifically committed in chastity to Me probably engages in conversations and contact with other Dommes. Once I demand his loyalty and fealty, however, his undivided attention is expected. Not before.

Yes, I expect his/their chastity while I may not give Mine in return. Why would I want to surround Myself with day laborers whose energy is focused on some other Woman? Hello.

Should I choose to collar a submissive, with whom I am sexually intimate, and W/we agree on mutual exclusivity, then that's the way it will be between the two of U/us.

It's My Party and I'll Domme if I Want To.

TexasMaam



This alpha sub of yours that you are intimate with. It seems as though he doesnt mind the situation knowing that you are intimate with each other and he is the main one. I wonder if you would be comfortable in the same situation such as if you werent into for instance foot worship so he did the same thing a you and found another woman for that.

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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 11/22/2005 6:58:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: krikket
Anyone remember the old song "I didn't promise you a rose garden"?

I'm a stickler for detail. So, pardon me if I tweak this a tad.

The song line is, "I beg your pardon; I never promised you a rose garden."

The song in question was inspired by a famous book, written in 1964, now beyond 70 reprints:

I Never Promised You a Rose Garden by Joanne Greenberg/Hannah Green

It explores the experiences of a 16 year old female, falling prey to schizophrenia and clawing her way back to sanity with the support and guidance of her therapist. In my undergrad days, it used to be standard required reading for psychology students. It remains emotionally gripping for all readers -- to this day.

The book was loosely adapted into a 1977 movie, starring Kathleen Quinlan. Read the book. It will have far greater clout on your experiences with the material presented.

~ Ti ~

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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 11/22/2005 7:14:26 PM   
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wellllllllllll not a D here but.............MY Ms wants more boys coz She believes in poly...not coz She is pro.

and i know what ya mean coz many a domme growled at ME coz i talked to several at once and i told em hey i know damned well YOU are talkin to several boys.......

take care


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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 11/22/2005 8:13:48 PM   
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This is really on topic .....but very late.

No matter.

Equality? No
equanimity? perhaps
equitable.......now thats kinda the real thing, here.

I do 100% of the house cleaning you do 100% of the changing flat tires.......... an equitable arrangement; each meeting some need in one's self, and succoring a need in the other.

Then call this 50-50.

they all come from the same place and have like meanings equal.


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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 11/22/2005 9:36:45 PM   
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Lady A epitomizes the word class and all that it embodies.
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yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep ya betcha ------She IS Class with a capitol C.......


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RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? - 11/24/2005 12:07:03 AM   
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The only things i would want that is equal is the level of commitment to the relationship and the willingness to meet the needs of each. The rest is all about communication

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