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RE: A Problem... - 5/20/2008 5:02:40 AM

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I would like to touch on what MS said. I noticed that in vanilla life a lot of women never really had an orgasum. I was under the misconception that if they had kids then they had to have great orgasums. Having a few affairs I found out different. IMHO I don't care what aids you use. If there is no personal interaction with another person the orgasums will not be the same.

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RE: A Problem... - 5/20/2008 5:22:07 AM

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Have you tried using a showerhead? Its pretty cheap and if you use the one hard stream on the clit its wonderful....also, what about some lube thats made to help a woman reach her O? i myself am only 21, but have not had this problem after i found out what my body liked. Have you tried to twist your nipples during masturbation? Give your body more than one thing to think about. Watch porn while you masturbate that helps some people. Hope this helps a little

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RE: A Problem... - 5/20/2008 5:39:09 AM

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If you are not on any kind of medication even over the counter and it isn't a phyical issue. Then I would say it is your age. What are you thinking about when you are trying to cum? Is it a mental block that you are creating? There are some many things that could be standing in your way. Don't give up hope.

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RE: A Problem... - 5/20/2008 7:21:24 AM

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I tried the nipple twisting thing at an early age and it was too distracting.

To each their own.

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RE: A Problem... - 5/20/2008 7:44:02 AM

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try a ride on a harley i hear that is one of the best vibrators for women . Stress also blocks things from completion .It could be many things , try a hitachi vibe .

HArley's don't work as vibes for all women.. trust me, I used to have one.

Problem with using a vibe is that it can cause desensitization if used too often.

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RE: A Problem... - 5/20/2008 7:45:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: azropedntied
try a ride on a harley i hear that is one of the best vibrators for women . Stress also blocks things from completion .It could be many things , try a hitachi vibe .

HArley's don't work as vibes for all women.. trust me, I used to have one.

Problem with using a vibe is that it can cause desensitization if used too often.

It can also make you look at your guy and wonder what you need him for..

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RE: A Problem... - 5/20/2008 8:52:16 AM

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OMG... I forgot that! When I did feel that first overwhelming orgasm it was a result of a night of play. He spent an hour or so sucking my various parts with some thing that had picked up in an auto parts store. It had a gauge on the end and a bulb that when compressed sucked the air out of the two leads. Then when we did have sex, he rubbed the head of his cock against my clit with each in and out stroke. I guess the suction pulled my clit out of hiding enough so the combo effect was incredible.
Try suction, then fingers. Not vibe because you don't want to get dependent on them.
And be sure to set enough time to play.
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Some fems just have recessed clits moreso than the norm, but that might only be a contributing problem to the main issue. If you tell yourself that it cannot/willnot happen, the results is very close to your thoughts.

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RE: A Problem... - 5/20/2008 8:57:12 AM

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First you might want to consider seeing a doctor and letting them know that you are having problems... woman can actually have erectile disfunction as well as many birth defects that can prevent orgasm. If you check out physically you might also want to consider seeing a sex tharapist. It is most likely that its your age / lack of experience or lack of proper head space kind of thing but rather than screw around with the issue find profesionals who are familure with the issues and can help you out. It would really suck if you changed your sexuality in hopes to have a big O and nothing were to happen.

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RE: A Problem... - 5/20/2008 10:42:34 AM

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I went to a doctor when I couldn't orgasm and it turned out that my clitoral hood was too large and not retracting correctly. He surgically removed it. It left the area extremely sensitive to pain for about a year, but after that I could orgasm very easily - especially when riding on top. You may want to check with your doctor.

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RE: A Problem... - 5/20/2008 5:33:46 PM

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Besides a good vibrator, get a really good, non-water based lube. You don't want waterbased because it disurpates too quickly, and you want to be able to rub for a while. good luck

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RE: A Problem... - 5/20/2008 7:08:28 PM

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Feel free to try every toy and technique under the sun, that really may be what you need.

For me however, it is simply that I need to feel emotionally secure with a heck of a lot of focused specific timed enjoyable stimulation in order to orgasm. I spent many tearful nights crying as I tried one more toy that just didn't work.

Above all, don't feel weird or bad- most women find their orgasms become more easy and frequent as they age, both because of maturity and practice. And very few women relatively have vaginal orgasms through sex. Unless you've had lots of partners that you've spent lots of time getting to know and learn eachothers bodies and reactions, don't judge too quickly. Give yourself a few years with a few people before you write your body off.

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