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Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 9:14:49 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I was talking with a friend yesterday,  We wert talking abour Dons and subs that have long distance relantiships(sp).  She feels that if the sub travels to see the Dom and chooses to saty in a hotel for safety isues, the Dom should pay because after all she sprang for the airfare.  I am not sure if i agree with her reasoning.  I think they should each put in half for everything.

So who do you think should pay in the above situation?

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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 9:20:42 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		It depends on the individuals and the ability to pay.
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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 9:23:34 AM   
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So who do you think should pay in the above situation?


like everything else, it should be negotiated by the folks involved, and they shouldn't give a rat's ass what anyone else thinks of it.

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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 9:29:21 AM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		I started a thread on this subject a while back.  Here it is if you want to read it.

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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 9:37:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think the couple should decide together what is workable as far as travel expenses.  Sometimes one member of the couple has more money or time as far as travel and can more easily afford the expenses involved, sometimes it's a more equal partnership, just depends on the people and their circumstances.

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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 9:40:59 AM   
SleepyDom


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Status: offline 		I think Cali should pay--I heard she's loaded.

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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 11:00:51 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		No she isnt. She paid for mine and it was at Motel 1. The dammed check in counter was a lemon ade stand.

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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 11:08:17 AM   
CalifChick


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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 12:09:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		A visit to Kentucky?...

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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 12:14:46 PM   
SleepyDom


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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 12:36:12 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

quote:

So who do you think should pay in the above situation?


like everything else, it should be negotiated by the folks involved, and they shouldn't give a rat's ass what anyone else thinks of it.


Thank you!

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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 12:39:37 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		When I visited Angel, I paid for the hotel AND for the airfare. If I am the one deciding to visit, the cost is mine. If HE wanted me to come out, HE gets to foot the bill.
All something to talk about before the plans are made.

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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 7:27:36 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		http://www.collarchat.com/m_1536528/mpage_1/key_pays/tm.htm#1536537
Who pays for the travel?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_73308/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#73308
Where does money come into it?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_85402/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#85402
Money Matters

http://www.collarchat.com/m_86294/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#86294
The control of money

http://www.collarchat.com/m_140655/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#140655
Money and sexism in bdsm

http://www.collarchat.com/m_276420/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#276420
financial decisions

http://www.collarchat.com/m_472811/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#472811
In the beginning, money issues

http://www.collarchat.com/m_876333/mpage_1/key_pays/tm.htm#876339
Who pays, do you split the cost and for what?

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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 7:30:59 PM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

quote:

So who do you think should pay in the above situation?


like everything else, it should be negotiated by the folks involved, and they shouldn't give a rat's ass what anyone else thinks of it.




(Lately I feel like I should just follow you around applauding you!)

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RE: Who Pays? - 5/20/2008 10:02:28 PM   
TwoFourSevenPoly


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1536528/mpage_1/key_pays/tm.htm#1536537
Who pays for the travel?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_73308/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#73308
Where does money come into it?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_85402/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#85402
Money Matters

http://www.collarchat.com/m_86294/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#86294
The control of money

http://www.collarchat.com/m_140655/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#140655
Money and sexism in bdsm

http://www.collarchat.com/m_276420/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#276420
financial decisions

http://www.collarchat.com/m_472811/mpage_1/key_money/tm.htm#472811
In the beginning, money issues

http://www.collarchat.com/m_876333/mpage_1/key_pays/tm.htm#876339
Who pays, do you split the cost and for what?


Very good links.

We use to pay 100% of the cost's until a couple of bad experiences of no shows, or girls just coming for a free trip.

So our new rule is they must pay for their own trip. Or if finances are a issue, they pay for their own trip and after they get here, we will reimburse 50 %.

As CM say's don't send anyone money.

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RE: Who Pays? - 5/21/2008 5:24:10 AM   
MadameXTC


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Status: offline 		I personally think it is whoever made the decision to travel ,unless financially they need some help. If I want someone to travel to me bad enough of course I would help out in the expenses but they should contribute as well. My Dominant travels back and forth to GA, and our home is in TN. When I was able to visit for spring break I paid for the air and hotel to get there. We are practically married (( long term commitment without the official paper) Before we do any travelling we negotiate who take care of what expense before it happens. Same thing as going to a movie etc, It's usually up to the person who had the idea of the event to pick up the majority of the cost.

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