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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I dose'nt make a difference who starts a group. All that matters is that it is well run.

That goes without saying.    I think if a submissive is in the position to create his/her situation like this, it would show how serious they are about all this.  If the submissives are the ones to set up parties or meetings and host them, it would be seen as a form of service right out of the chute. Why is it that the Dommes are always expected to set things up?  What got me thinking about this this morning, was an invite to what looks like a very well done chat site by a male submissive.

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I dose'nt make a difference who starts a group. All that matters is that it is well run.

That goes without saying. I think if a submissive is in the position to create his/her situation like this, it would show how serious they are about all this. If the submissives are the ones to set up parties or meetings and host them, it would be seen as a form of service right out of the chute. Why is it that the Dommes are always expected to set things up? What got me thinking about this this morning, was an invite to what looks like a very well done chat site by a male submissive.

Any subs reading this who have done such a thing and how did it go?

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo


What might be an extra difficulty for a submissive would be the wanker who decides you get to be his/her sub whenever she/he comes to an event. There is a similar thing that can happen to dominants and which I had happen to me -- the expectation that you'll play with anyone who comes outside of the event. When I hosted the AppleMunch for a few years I had one particularly creepy "sub" (note the " ") but I had a great group of regulars who unasked moved in and told him to back off. Surround yourself with someone(s) you trust and you should be fine.

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo


What might be an extra difficulty for a submissive would be the wanker who decides you get to be his/her sub whenever she/he comes to an event. There is a similar thing that can happen to dominants and which I had happen to me -- the expectation that you'll play with anyone who comes outside of the event. When I hosted the AppleMunch for a few years I had one particularly creepy "sub" (note the " ") but I had a great group of regulars who unasked moved in and told him to back off. Surround yourself with someone(s) you trust and you should be fine.

How well I know! Has anyone set up a situation "by invitation only", just to offset this type of situation without being under constant attack?

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

I have not done that but then it would defeat the reason I'd host a munch -- to meet new people and have a wider audience to teach and learn from.

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

What would you think if a submissive took the initiative to start a munch or a Domme/sub group and managed it?  I think a group of submissives that took the time and  energy to start one and maintain it would show the Dommes what they are capable of and their commitment.  What say you all?  (Sort of a “mountain to Mohammed” situation)
 Would you be more likely to attend?

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ORIGINAL: submale4u2spank


Fail

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ORIGINAL: Shawn1066

I sincerely hope nobody thinks submissives are incapable of running things.  That would be a grevious mistake.

I can't speak as a dominant, but as a submissive...  I wouldn't be more impressed with a dominant who started a munch.  It really wouldn't factor into my thoughts.

DV's Fox

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

What would you think if a submissive took the initiative to start a munch or a Domme/sub group and managed it?  I think a group of submissives that took the time and  energy to start one and maintain it would show the Dommes what they are capable of and their commitment.  What say you all?  (Sort of a “mountain to Mohammed” situation)
 Would you be more likely to attend?

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

I have not done that but then it would defeat the reason I'd host a munch -- to meet new people and have a wider audience to teach and learn from.

I had started a group for a specific dynamic (het domme/het male sub) and eventually became dissed by the "community" because the other flavors... were not intended to be accommodated. I saw a need.. I set things up for this one specific dynamic. Why the switches/femsubs/cross dressers etc felt it was my responsibility to extend it to encompass them is beyond my comprehension. There was quite a large pan sexual group in town they were already a part of and if they felt they were not being served, I was more than happy to help them organize their own group. Gee.. no takers. The only reason I could think of is that it took WORK and it's much easier to ride on another's efforts and bitch than apply themselves to meet their own needs.

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Anyhow, back to the topic. I know the boys in our group took care of the set up and break down of the buffet and meeting places. The women took note and their chances of creating a situation where they could successfully "show their stuff" for the women to notice was a main focus. It kind of answers the question.."How do I attract a Domme".. act like a productive submissive :)