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Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 3:16:46 PM   
StrangerThan


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Consider this maybe a rant, or perhaps a better word, a rage. Rant doesn't really do it justice. I'm not targeting anyone here. Let's say that up front. It's more a place to vent in the off chance that one of the afflicted might wander by.

Over the years I've seen a lot, good and bad, but the bad is often the same kind of thing, over and over. My perspective isn't unique. I've just seen it too often. So here goes.

If you can only set someone up to fail, the failure isn't theirs. It's yours. Fix Yourself.

If you look for reasons to punish rather than reasons to enjoy your submissive, the problem isn't theirs. It's yours. Fix Yourself.

If you demand trust, but cannot give it, the problem is yours, not theirs. Fix Yourself.

If you demand trust period rather than demonstrating that you're trustworthy, the problem belongs to no one else. It's yours. Fix Yourself.

If you think someone else can make you happy, and yet are never pleased, the problem is yours, not theirs. Fix Yourself.

If everyone else is always at fault, that fault is probably yours about half the time. Fix Yourself.

If your style is to manipulate, and you can't understand why relationships always end badly, the problem is yours, not theirs. Fix Yourself.

If you have to keep someone by intimidation and fear, you've already lost what was most important. The problem isn't theirs, it's yours. Fix Yourself.

If you hide insecurity with anger and rage, the problem is yours. Fix yourself.

If you're afraid to admit sometimes that you don't know, have to control every situation, feel that you have to prove anything to anyone other than the one who submits to you, the problem is yours. Fix yourself.

If you're not healthy for someone, understand it's your problem, not theirs, and Fix Yourself.

If you make the same bad choices time after time in partners and relationships, the problem is yours, not theirs. Fix Yourself.

If you're controlling another and can't or won't control yourself, the problems aren't theirs. They are yours. Fix yourself.

If you're fucking wrong and can neither see it nor admit it, the problem is yours, Fix Yourself.


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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 3:21:41 PM   
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wow - i agree with all you say, but man, that was some rant - er, rage.  Is there a little fixing to do with you too?  Not saying, just asking.

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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 3:23:24 PM   
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It's a fourteen step programme. It will never catch on!

Seriously; I like this if it is an attempt to expand on the theme of responsibility.
I have one inner rule as a s-type: if i see a thing that needs cleaning, guess whose job it is to clean it?
I could substitute the word fix for clean.
Although the answer is ME I have been known to procure the help of another.



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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 3:24:23 PM   
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what was the purpose of the post?

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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 3:29:14 PM   
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Well HOT DAMN of Ditty Dag!!  I Love this RAGE of a RANT!! 
Hope it Bitch Slaps a few wanders into the Right Galaxy...
Priceless Post....

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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 3:40:47 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Justme696

what was the purpose of the post?

You mean it went over your head?
FIX THYSELF BROTHER! (I think that's what it meant.......). I'm just a dumb arsed blond under the red......


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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 3:47:51 PM   
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*applauds* GREAT post!!  

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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 3:52:29 PM   
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Perfectly controlled rage.

Brilliant.




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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 3:58:18 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: gypsygrl

Perfectly controlled rage.

Brilliant.


Yes, with no swear words or insults. 

Hell, he actually held back a lot of things... such as;

If you can't get your dick up, it's your problem not theirs, fix yourself.. take some viagra...


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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 4:00:32 PM   
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*snort*



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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 4:21:16 PM   
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Hold on a minute, I've re-read it....
Fix yourself.....
reflexive pronoun or imperative voice?
It makes a difference............



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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 4:25:45 PM   
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rah rah, real good rant
ree reee, you said it splendidly..



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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 4:48:54 PM   
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I'm curious as to what inspired this rant?

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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 4:57:39 PM   
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Awsom post!!

SQUEEE!!!

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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 5:09:50 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

I'm curious as to what inspired this rant?

A run in with a dumb arsed blonde disguised as a red head....?
Edited to spell blond corredtly.


< Message edited by Prinsexx -- 5/21/2008 5:10:39 PM >


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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 5:42:21 PM   
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~fastreply~

There's something very attractive about a person who takes responsibility for their own choices, and the consequenses thereof...and is proactive in using the lessons learned in a positive manner to better themselves without casting blame it reeks of complete hawtness, at least to me!! 

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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 5:49:23 PM   
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I have learnt recently that even the strongest Dom needs to see a little something at times that suggests to Them that if They weren't around you would survive... this inner strength on your own part makes your submission more powerful and meaningful to a true Dominant.

If you are a sub because you can't function at all on your own then perhaps you are a sub for the wrong reasons?

*Fixed Herself*

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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 5:55:11 PM   
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if you think this post is for real....fix yourself.



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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 5:58:23 PM   
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quote:

Edited to spell blond corredtly.


okay, i hate to channel GT here, but that really deserves a *snort*
too funny, prinsexx

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RE: Fix Yourself - 5/21/2008 5:58:38 PM   
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I've printed the OP... sometimes, when I'm feeling broken, I need reminders, and I think this post is a good way to get that. :)

edited:  tsatske, go right ahead and channel without guilt :) LOL


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