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RE: feeling neglected - 6/23/2008 7:00:06 AM

MasterHermes

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ORIGINAL: sexytia
He didn't told me Himself, He got His new sub to call me what was a great shock.

People never think, that other woman who called tia for letting her know, she doesn't think. She doesn't understand a person who behaves this way will do same when it comes to her. People always think "He is doing it to other people but this is not really him, he cant be like this with me" . No, he will not do it to that other woman as long as everything is going good,but once road gets bumpy she will be treated the way she helped him treat tia.

tia is upset now, so there is no need to put more pressure on her. I still think tia can give it a thought once this experience fades away. tia, there was no signs at all while you were with him? You have never seen him mistreating another person? He is not trying to hide it from this new sub, although she cant see it, did he hide it so well from you? Or did you also think he might mistreat other people but you? Next time remember, if he does it to other people , you are next sooner or later.

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RE: feeling neglected - 6/25/2008 12:18:51 AM

sexytia

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Greetings MasterHermes

Before me and Him got together we talked on line for 6 months and after that we dated for another 4 months. I don't know if he has done it to someone else,
however i really hope he hasn't. I thouht that he was the one for me and never crossed my mind that 18 months later i would be in this situation. He has tried to talk to me since but now i am not interested tohear His pathetic excuses to behave that way.

I am not ready to move on but i am not going to sit down and cry for such a person, i am better than that and as i come to know i deserve better than that.

Thank Y/you all for your replys and support

tia

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RE: feeling neglected - 6/25/2008 6:24:30 AM

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I know that long distance relatinships require unique aspects to maintaine, but let me say one word..."responsibility". A Dom should not collar anyone they are not able to be responseble to. One phrase i hate to see is "dont have time". It is better to cut someone loose and let them find someone who can fullfill the subs needs, than to keep them hanging and waiting. Granted a honest worked out schedule with goals and limitations is better than one that has no defined ending or direction in sight. My golden rule is if your Dom vanishes for 30 days, yank off the collar and start searching, because if they havent taken the time to responce by then, their either in jail or a coma, and those two choices dont look very promising either.

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RE: feeling neglected - 6/25/2008 9:45:26 AM

leashedlilpup

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ORIGINAL: sexytia

Greetings Everyone
Me and Master have been together over a year. Due to the distance between us, we only see each other every 4/5weeks, in between meetings we use email, phone etc. ...However the last few weeks it all changed, He is never on line, days go by and i don't get a text ( 6 days been the longest) . I have stared to feel neglected, frustrated and angry. I was angry at the point that i disobeyed just to provoke a
reaction. I have tried to talk To Master and explain how i feel but is answer is that i should wait patiently and enjoy the little moments we have together.

I can very well understand where you are coming from, that is how it was with my Master and myself a few months ago. I did the exact same things you did, I disobeyed to get a reaction from him, and when that didn't work I threw it back in his face and told him I was going to give it a month if it didn't straighten out then I was gone. Well over the course of several weeks after that, things had gone from bad to worse we had discussions about things and it just didnt work...(and I know what you're thinking "Why is she being negative?" don't worry, I have a point) and it came down to the point where he released me.

The first week was very hard on myself and my sister slave, and then well, my Master all of a sudden started playing with me again, more and more, we started talking on IM, phone, text again and by the third week of that happening I finally said to him "What are we doing? You let me go and instead of being "just friends" we're doing this...." his response was "Well I don't know..." .... a week later he collared me again. I talked about it with my sis, and I told her you know, its like that saying "you don't realize what you've got till its gone...." since then my Master and myself are sill together, and I just got back monday morning from going to see him and my sis....over THREE THOUSAND miles away, across the country.

Maybe you two need a little break....maybe it will make him realize what he's got.

-lp.

Edit: I didn't read through the whole thread. I'm sorry that has happened, things will be okay...they just take time....

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RE: feeling neglected - 6/25/2008 10:44:41 AM

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LD relationships are very hard. i am in one. There are times you do feel neglected. i like alot of attention, he just can't do that every day. When he has other issues to deal with or he is working, i must be patient...something i am not good at. Your problem here is you weren't neglected because he had other issues to deal with. To me cheating, lying and being dishonest are deal breakers. As much as i love, adore and worship him, if i found out he had been lying, i would be DONE! You deserve better. He doesn't deserve a second chance. You loved the man you thought he was, not who he really is...which is a lying, cheating coward.

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RE: feeling neglected - 6/25/2008 10:50:37 AM

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so tia,
if you aren't together anymore how come your profile says you are? especially since it was suggested on the last page to change your profile? hmmm? It looks like you are misleading us.

*bites my tongue from saying more cause oooooooo i want to

good luck,
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RE: feeling neglected - 6/25/2008 12:21:06 PM

fluffyswitch

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so tia,
if you aren't together anymore how come your profile says you are? especially since it was suggested on the last page to change your profile? hmmm? It looks like you are misleading us.

*bites my tongue from saying more cause oooooooo i want to

good luck,
sunshine

perhaps it does to you. to me it just looks like she hasn't gotten around to updating her profile. not everyone rushes around and changes their profile the minute that something ends. i guess i didn't realize that one's profile was the be all and end all of their personality or state of relationship.

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RE: feeling neglected - 6/25/2008 12:54:43 PM

sexytia

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quote:

so tia,
if you aren't together anymore how come your profile says you are? especially since it was suggested on the last page to change your profile? hmmm? It looks like you are misleading us.

*bites my tongue from saying more cause oooooooo i want to

I am sorry You feel that way, Sunshine
i haven't been on line much and updating my profile it has not been on my list of priorities ans still isn't even after your
what you have said.

Tia

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RE: feeling neglected - 6/25/2008 3:06:15 PM

AquaticSub

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Thank you for all the advice
Sadly O/our relationship has come to an end.... He has found someone else closer to Him.
I am still very numb at the moment, i feel hurt and angry. Hurt because i have been with him for
a while and angry that He didn't told me Himself, He got His new sub to call me what was a great shock.
However i know i can get through this and put it down to experince ( easier said than done)

thank you all for everything

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things work out for the best.

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