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Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 3:36:57 AM

ProtagonistLily

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I'm curious. Indulge me....

So how many of you, who are living 'the lifestyle' '24/7' are always naked and chained and 'servicing him/her' to the exclusion of other daily activities?

Last night, Sir and I weeded the garden, and played a game. We read in bed and then shut the lights off. These last couple weeks have been consumed with work and mulch and gardens. I've cooked and he did a couple loads of laundry. I did dishes and we spread mulch most evenings after supper if it wasn't raining. If it was, we did other crap in the house.We played briefly last weekend.

And for what ever it's worth, I think this is the reality of 24/7. For those of you aching for chains and raw knees by a door waiting all day, good luck.

Toy's are expensive. Mortgages are first. Food, clean clothes, and employment will always come before a good scene or a mediocre scene even - for they happen too.

I get down on my knees every day and give myself to Him. And he accepts me and does with me what he will. But that doesn't mean that it's all about the kink. Sometimes, it's about the laundry.

PL

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 3:54:35 AM

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24/7 - at work - at home - at play

The spirit of my lifestyle is in everything I do even if there is no leather involved. The hairdresser knows, the guy who owns the nail salon knows, in fact, he is poly (not BDSM though). The butcher, the baker and the candlestick maker all know I/we live some kind of alt lifestyle.

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 3:55:18 AM

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Sometimes, it's about the laundry

I could not agree more. I am the alpha slave in a wonderful poly family, and YES...sometimes it is about the laundry.

My sisters and are are always in a state of submission to Master, but that does not mean we are naked and chained 24/7/365

Cinnia

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 4:12:21 AM

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Oh what a life it would be if only we could spend all day naked and in chains....a reality...not.
Hang on a minute,,the washing machine's just finished..gotta go!

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 4:26:17 AM

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Actually, i'm glad to hear that it isn't an expectation to be in chains naked 24/7. i've been approached too often by people that expect a slave in chained existence eating from her doggy dish everyday, serving as an ashtray...maybe there is hope, after all.

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 4:35:28 AM

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I pay the bills and supply the house. I work all day and sometimes at home at night. With my last two girls they worked all day taking care of my home and belongings, so that when I got home they were naked and kneelng at the door and took care of me at night. It is definitely not always kink, and sometimes we'd just talk. With proper scheduling there wouldn't be much to do on the weekend. The gardener takes care of the yard.
I expect the bitch to plan, shop, cook, clean, and maintain a headspace when I get home. They have sometimes asked me to help get them there, which sometimes is needed to help get me there, if I am on a project and pre-occupied with work. The idea of a passive, lay around pleasure slave has not been a reality for me-and I can take care of a girl. I seem to like women who are active and thrive planing a home to some degree. But I have to admit I like them naked and ass-up on demand. Like everything there is a balance to life shaped by individuals.
I expect them to be smart and creative, even to plan and surprise me with some interesting thiings to go do. It is more rewarding to learn a girl, and let her thrive, express emotions, play with and control them, and make a dynamic relationship, then have -slam! Doormat, absolute obedience and correction time.
For me fun is in the eb and flow and rhythms of life mixed with a collar and leash and nipple bells. But from hippy type earth mother nudist-the girl just hated wearing clothes, to uptight Doc, women are different. I had one girl who was a real sweetheart but just not that bright. Surprisingly enough she brought a harmony and warmth to my home unlike any other. I couldn't really discuss politics or any heady topics but man was she a charmer. Harmony takes planning, and work, well done, is a great feeling with a girl curled up next to you at the end of the day.

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 4:37:50 AM

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aw hell tulip, you had to bring up serving as an ashtray! (deep down, i'm nothing more than an ashtray stuck in a human body) ...(i'm sort of serious)

as far as everyday life merging with a bdsm relationship...it's endearing to me for some reason. going through the everyday motions together but having the kink as well...it's perfect in my eyes.

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 4:43:41 AM

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Well i been with 2 Dommes and i just wish it was like that but you have to deal with other things in life that you can't live like that. I am now with the love of my life and she told me once the kids leave that she is going to have me and other slaves naked in her house so she can do what ever she needs to do with us slaves. I know it will be cold here where i live and got to deal with it for her. I love the lifestyle. One of my Dommes told me that i need to buy a Cage because she wanted it for me to live in, but you know how life is. I did buy it and when i got it she told me on friday nights when she is off the next day that she wanted me to sleep in it. She even put a Padlock on it so i could not get out.

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 4:45:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily

I'm curious. Indulge me....

So how many of you, who are living 'the lifestyle' '24/7' are always naked and chained and 'servicing him/her' to the exclusion of other daily activities?

Last night, Sir and I weeded the garden, and played a game. We read in bed and then shut the lights off. These last couple weeks have been consumed with work and mulch and gardens. I've cooked and he did a couple loads of laundry. I did dishes and we spread mulch most evenings after supper if it wasn't raining. If it was, we did other crap in the house.We played briefly last weekend.

And for what ever it's worth, I think this is the reality of 24/7. For those of you aching for chains and raw knees by a door waiting all day, good luck.

Toy's are expensive. Mortgages are first. Food, clean clothes, and employment will always come before a good scene or a mediocre scene even - for they happen too.

I get down on my knees every day and give myself to Him. And he accepts me and does with me what he will. But that doesn't mean that it's all about the kink. Sometimes, it's about the laundry.

PL

Damn!! I think you just described life.

"And for what ever it's worth, I think this is the reality of 24/7. For those of you aching for chains and raw knees by a door waiting all day, good luck"   I could not agree more with you.

I think some live in a fantasy world (which at times I'm guilty of wanting), but when it all boils down to it, living life the way you want, with your D/s, being happy and productive citizens - isn't that what it's all about anyway?

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 4:47:09 AM

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aw hell tulip, you had to bring up serving as an ashtray! (deep down, i'm nothing more than an ashtray stuck in a human body) ...(i'm sort of serious)

I think you are out of luck. No Ashtray Reassignment Surgery that I know of.

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 5:01:40 AM

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Aside from the practicalities of life gettin in the way of life - ironing, gardening, working, cooking, cleaning, i always wonder about the emotional and physical side of ......

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living 'the lifestyle' '24/7' always naked and chained and 'servicing him/her' to the exclusion of other daily activities?

In my last 'relationship' (i say that very loosely) i used to travel for a couple of hours to spend around 12 hours with him in service. By the time i came home i was both physically and mentally exhausted.

So for me not only will the need to do daily chores etc get in the way but also my little body and mind will eventually let me down too.

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 5:04:26 AM

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Yeah, 24/7 is pretty mundane the vast majority of the time.

I am always the owner, Fox is always my slave, there is always an authority dynamic between us that we both support. We have our rituals and our protocols but much of the time it's "Ready to go shopping, Mistress?" or "Boy, watch this on the stove while I do this" as we get dinner ready.

We schedule formal play time together for things like mummification or flogging but throughout the day he might get whacked on the ass or his hair pulled or I'll get my hands kissed and he'll kneel down for a hug.

For someone trapped in a fantasy mindset these realities can seem either very boring or incredibly overwhelming.

We've moved beyond weekly check in or annual negotiations to being simply owner and slave.

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 5:07:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

quote:

ORIGINAL: christine1
aw hell tulip, you had to bring up serving as an ashtray! (deep down, i'm nothing more than an ashtray stuck in a human body) ...(i'm sort of serious)

I think you are out of luck. No Ashtray Reassignment Surgery that I know of.

lol, so, how do you think i'd look as an ashtray? oh damn! might have to get rid of my hair to avoid fire hazards....

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He is my Master, my lover, my best friend my everything.

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 6:24:27 AM

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might have to get rid of my hair to avoid fire hazards

Hard... i mean, HARD limit!!!!!!!

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 6:35:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily

So how many of you, who are living 'the lifestyle' '24/7' are always naked and chained and 'servicing him/her' to the exclusion of other daily activities?

i have received messages from dominants who have the fantasy of owning a slave - naked, chained and serving. my reply back - since i'll be naked and chained 24/7, you're taking the girls to school and doctor appts, doing the cooking, cleaning, etc they never reply back.

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 7:54:46 AM

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Does anyone SERIOUSLY think that happens? I mean, really? Basic, simple logic stands in defiance of it.
I mean, I suppose if we were talking about the independently wealthy...but that's, you know, like 1% of the population...and even they have kids.

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 8:14:43 AM

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Daddy and I live 24/7 M/s as most of us in the real world know it to be. We have jobs, Things, bills, families outside the immediate circle, laundry, dishes, and everything else. That stuff has to be dealt with because I don't think CarMax will accept "I've been naked, in chains, at my Master's beck and call, to be used by Him as He wishes the past month, and therefore I couldn't work to pay my note this month. Thank you for calling," as an excuse for a late payment.

The underlying tone of our relationship is that He is the top of the food chain, so to speak, and I'm next. All final decisions go to Him, sometimes with a heavy dose of my input if He asks for it. It's how people in the real world live, I think, or at least the lifestyle folks we know and hang out with. We love each other, we make time for each other, we try to see each other every day if possible. We struggle through the hard stuff together, we celebrate the good stuff together, and at the end of the day, if He tells me "no" or "yes" - I listen, but He respects my opinions and takes them into consideration, but sometimes He stretches me beyond my comfort zone, and I don't just mean in the kinky sense. He challenges me to do more than I think possible and better myself, to see that I'm stronger than I thought. In return, I respect Him, am His biggest cheerleader, am His foundation He can rest on and just be human when things are a bit much. That's what 24/7 means to us. We are always there for each other, and our roles never change.

I think people who sit around fantasizing about a chained existence have been reading too many books and believe that Roissy is out there, waiting for them to come take their spot. (Maybe some places have this, but it sure as hell isn't in my little section of Mayberry.)

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 9:21:39 AM

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hehehe - i love it when real people interject reality into fantasy. Fantasy always fails! But, reality is always so much more than fantasy.
Some of the most real parts of my submission is when Sir comes to bed and puts his cold feet on me. And they get really cold! Now, how many people would even think of that as being a submissive act ? - to warm feet - but it is as submissive as having my arse beaten.

I love reality!!!

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 9:58:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily
. Sometimes, it's about the laundry.

Don't forget about cutting the damn grass!!!!

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RE: Really Living it, 24/7 - 5/24/2008 10:26:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily
Sometimes, it's about the laundry.

If you stay naked, you won't have any laundry!

Celeste

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