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No sex - 5/25/2008 7:15:44 AM   
SilentTigresss


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Status: offline 		I would  like to ask the ladies a question. Does anyone here have a collared female submissive, and the relationship does not include/involve sex ?
I appreciate any replies, and/or opinions
Thank you.
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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 8:16:42 AM   
SilentTigresss


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Status: offline 		Either no one does, or my inquiry has no basis for an opinion.
Thank you for taking the time to read.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 8:20:22 AM   
Shawn1066


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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 8:26:27 AM   
SilentTigresss


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Status: offline 		Thank you fox. I will do that...

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 8:33:51 AM   
DianeB


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SilentTigresss

I would  like to ask the ladies a question. Does anyone here have a collared female submissive, and the relationship does not include/involve sex ?
I appreciate any replies, and/or opinions
Thank you.


What? Have a female sub and not have sex with her? I don't think so,,,,,


Diane

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 8:55:46 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		I don't have sex with anyone I'd call my submissive -- simply put, as I use the word the relationship would not be committed enough to be worth the risks associated with sex in my personal risk assessment.

I have had sexual relationships with my slaves though so far only males have qualified for that and the split has been 50/50 for those I've had sex with and those whom I don't.

If I trained a woman who then we made an ownership contract with I would consider a sexual connection with her for the same reasons I would with a man: mutual interest and acceptable risks.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 9:08:26 AM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Status: offline 		yep..nobody does.  bdsm is highly based on sex.  even though it really isnt supposed to be as its supposed to be far more complicated than just fuck buddies.  for example: its about heart, mind, body, and soul.  NOT JUST THE BODY.

but since i dont offer sex.  fat chance of finding a Mistress...10+ years looking and counting...


< Message edited by faerytattoodgirl -- 5/25/2008 9:12:40 AM >

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 9:12:27 AM   
khem


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Status: offline 		Theoretically I could see myself having a relationship with a female submissive that didn't involve sex - but only in the case where I already had other relationship(s) where sex was involved.

Call me crazy, but I like getting laid. 

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 9:14:06 AM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Call me crazy, but I like getting laid.


my issues is with my genitalia..not yours...but since mine is off limits...no chance.
people want it both ways, giving and receiving...with me thats not possible.


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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 10:14:30 AM   
BoiJen


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Status: offline 		MsK and I didn't have sex for 6mo at the beginning of our relationship. It was a measure She imposed and I agreed to as to keep our heads in the game to measure personality compatibility. MsK was on the phone during that with a friend of Her's who said "NO! You have to be having sex already...I can HEAR it." And the honesty is still no we weren't. Obviously that didn't last. much to my appreciation. :) we have great chemistry.

I'm not entirely understanding of the need to want to have sex with someone you own AND are attracted to THAT way. But then again I'm not in that position within the power dynamic. And I do understand that each person has a role and place within the dynamic and that that role might not include sex. So just an add there.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 10:36:21 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		Sorry OP, I don't have fem subs.... therefore my oppinion on this topic is of no value... so I didn't answer right away.  But, as some people just need to know these things:  No, I don't have sex with my subs regardless of their gender.  

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 11:59:05 AM   
dragon2760


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Status: offline 		But MsStarlett even a good over the knee spanking can be considered a form of sex play. 

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 12:03:05 PM   
SilentTigresss


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Status: offline 		Thank you ALL for taking the time to reply. It is very much appreciated! 

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 1:19:34 PM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		i agree that there is more to this lifestyle than just sex but i like sex and i have lots of it with my Dominant. i do not think i would condider a Dominant that did not want sex.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 3:31:43 PM   
BBWMarieTx


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Status: offline 		I am confused about this.  What are most of you referring to as "sex".  Orgasm or actual intercourse?  I have left session feeling like it was the best sex of my life, but we never had intercourse.  I'm not trying to muddy the waters, just trying to understand the responses. 

Thanks!

Lady Marie

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 3:45:45 PM   
BotanicalMiss


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Status: offline 		I've not yet collared a woman, but when I do, sex will certainly be involved.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 4:27:57 PM   
bipolarber


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Status: offline 		Look, if you really want a long term relationship with a woman that doesn't involve sex, then just go to CA, or MA.... and marry one.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 4:30:04 PM   
kickable


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Status: offline 		It's only male subs that face the life of celibacy.
quote:

ORIGINAL: SilentTigresss

I would  like to ask the ladies a question. Does anyone here have a collared female submissive, and the relationship does not include/involve sex ?
I appreciate any replies, and/or opinions
Thank you.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 4:41:14 PM   
RumpusParable


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SilentTigresss

I would  like to ask the ladies a question. Does anyone here have a collared female submissive, and the relationship does not include/involve sex ?
I appreciate any replies, and/or opinions
Thank you.


I don't have a collared sub/slave currently, but no it'd be very unlikely for me to be sexual with a female sub.  With any sex or gender, I don't tend to have sexual feelings towards someone submissive to me.  Once in a great while, but not at all the norm.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 4:44:16 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		I don't have a female submissive so I cannot answer that question from MY personal experience... HOWEVER, I have had the pleasure of making the acquaintance of two dominants, one male and one female, who both own female slaves and do not have a sexual dynamic.

Lady Jag

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