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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 4:50:39 PM

lateralist1

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I would consider a D/s relationship that didn't include sex but not a BDSM relationship.
For some it's about service.
For some it's about money.
For me BDSM is about sexuality.
I don't see that expressing ones sexuality in a committed relationship has any risks attatched to it. But that's just me.
Six months is not that long to wait for something that some people wait all their lives to find and some people never find.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 6:07:48 PM

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My slave girl anne and I don't have a sexual relationship. It's a spiritual Ms relationship.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 7:00:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

quote:

Call me crazy, but I like getting laid.

my issues is with my genitalia..not yours...but since mine is off limits...no chance.
people want it both ways, giving and receiving...with me thats not possible.

Not all of us.

I think I can count on one hand the number of times Fox has orgasmed in my presence. When I have sex with a slave, it's really all about my orgasm first, second, and possibly third. Of course if he/she wants an orgasm I'm likely happy after my own to say "yes" but with Fox that isn't an issue. He gets off on my pleasure.

Not everyone I've owned is that way, some have wanted their own orgasm too and they got them but I always came first -- yes, I did intend that in both senses of the word.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 7:04:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: BBWMarieTx

I am confused about this. What are most of you referring to as "sex". Orgasm or actual intercourse? I have left session feeling like it was the best sex of my life, but we never had intercourse. I'm not trying to muddy the waters, just trying to understand the responses.

Thanks!

Lady Marie

For me, it's all sex that involves any genital contact, when I say I don't have sex or I do have sex with someone.

Hey, if someone can come from a spanking or a flogging or even just being petted, they are welcomed to all the orgasms in the world but as soon as any disease or pregnancy risk is there, no matter how small, I take that very serious and am super duper picky.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 8:23:55 PM

LadyLynx

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Would I have a submissive and not be sexual with them? Yes. Would I have a relationship with a Dominant that did not involve sex? Yes. For me, alot of the lifestyle is not about sex, or orgasms. (though those are great, *grins*) it is about my spiritual,emotional,service,(to a certain extent.) maso/sadistic needs, that I want to be met, (not all at once!) but overall.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 8:25:22 PM

SilentTigresss

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Thank you Ladies, again for ALL your replies.

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 9:09:49 PM

mztresn0w

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Relationships can have sexual overtones with out having sex. I guess it is all about what both want from it. I don't have sex with My lil one. That isn't what our relationship is about.

< Message edited by mztresn0w -- 5/25/2008 9:10:54 PM >

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 9:42:05 PM

Wickad

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(fast reply)

Greetings,

I have had a female submissive and sex was not part of our dynamic.

Wickad

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RE: No sex - 5/25/2008 10:13:02 PM

DiurnalVampire

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I have had boy and girl subs that have been nonsexual. Some were no geintal on genital sex, others no sexual contact of any kind. It all GREATLY depending on what we were looking for in the relationship, and how it worked with or without the sexual aspects.

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RE: No sex - 5/26/2008 5:00:05 AM

Madame4a

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I don't now.. but I have had... and no, not all relationships are based on sex...

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RE: No sex - 5/26/2008 7:34:45 AM

MsStarlett

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dragon2760

But MsStarlett even a good over the knee spanking can be considered a form of sex play.

Oh Dear! Then I'm just like ExPrz Clinton! "I did NOT have sexual relations with that boy." Oops!

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RE: No sex - 5/26/2008 7:38:06 AM

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But clarifying that I do not have genital to genital contact with subs of either gender just sounds so DIRTY!

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RE: No sex - 5/26/2008 7:38:48 AM

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You did non nuance it as carfully as the ExPrez. "I did NOT have *improper* sexual relations with that boy."

I'm sure anything that transpired was done quite properly.

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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

quote:

ORIGINAL: dragon2760

But MsStarlett even a good over the knee spanking can be considered a form of sex play.

Oh Dear! Then I'm just like ExPrz Clinton! "I did NOT have sexual relations with that boy." Oops!

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RE: No sex - 5/26/2008 7:39:57 AM

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LOL! Does Queening count? Can I dig this hole any faster or deeper if I use both hands?

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RE: No sex - 5/26/2008 7:46:33 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

LOL! Does Queening count? Can I dig this hole any faster or deeper if I use both hands?

Paired with your photo, there is no part of this sentence that does not make my eyes go out of focus and inhibit my ability to solve simple math problems.

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RE: No sex - 5/26/2008 10:25:01 AM

dragon2760

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TermsConditions

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

LOL! Does Queening count? Can I dig this hole any faster or deeper if I use both hands?

Paired with your photo, there is no part of this sentence that does not make my eyes go out of focus and inhibit my ability to solve simple math problems.

I second that!!!

2 + 2 = 5 right??

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RE: No sex - 5/26/2008 10:27:24 AM

faerytattoodgirl

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I second that!!! 2 + 2 = 5 right??

2 + 2 = orgy

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RE: No sex - 5/26/2008 11:39:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

quote:

I second that!!! 2 + 2 = 5 right??

2 + 2 = orgy

Good one.

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RE: No sex - 5/26/2008 1:29:30 PM

MsStarlett

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I like Faery's answer.

Oh wait.

She don't play that game. Dammit!

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It is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed,
the hands acquire shakes, the shakes become a warning,
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

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RE: No sex - 5/26/2008 1:41:10 PM

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2 + 2 = whatever MsStarlett says it is.

Regardless of what your definition of "is" is.

quote:

ORIGINAL: dragon2760

quote:

ORIGINAL: TermsConditions

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

LOL! Does Queening count? Can I dig this hole any faster or deeper if I use both hands?

Paired with your photo, there is no part of this sentence that does not make my eyes go out of focus and inhibit my ability to solve simple math problems.

I second that!!! 2 + 2 = 5 right??

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TnC
Married, Novice Subbish-Type Person
and rider of the Drama Llama.

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