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RE: Conflict of Command (Dom Couple) - 5/26/2008 12:30:22 PM

mstrj69

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Each of you can write down all potential commands you might give to your pet/slave and then compare the two lists and see where there is a conflict. Thus you two can work most out before ever taking a pet/slave.

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RE: Conflict of Command (Dom Couple) - 5/26/2008 12:45:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressTeardrop

The best thing for a sub to do is to tell one or the other who gives the conflicting order that she has a first oder from the other partner and that it is conflicting with the second. It would then be up to the two Doms to decide what to do from there.

Someone else already said something about children and this is exactly what I would expect from my children. As above, first my child would tell me it conflicts with a different set of instructions or rules, from there I decide for myself which rule should be followed. Typically the way it works is, if the mother of my children isn't around then my rule is followed and I explain to her later for her to yell at me instead of the children. If she is arround her rules are followed. If we are both there, we take it to another room and argue it out. No matter what happens, if the child follows the rules of another, they will not get in trouble for anything.

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RE: Conflict of Command (Dom Couple) - 5/26/2008 1:07:09 PM

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You seem VERY confused to me.

Are you are Dom/sub couple for a Dom/me couple?

When you figure out who you are, then you will answer your own question.

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RE: Conflict of Command (Dom Couple) - 5/26/2008 1:37:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: RealSub58

You seem VERY confused to me.

Are you are Dom/sub couple for a Dom/me couple?

When you figure out who you are, then you will answer your own question.

I don't think they are at all the one who is confused. They are 2 dominant people who are a couple. They are going to be adding a submissive to the mix. They each know who they are and where they stand. The question is about authority. Where is their confusion?

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RE: Conflict of Command (Dom Couple) - 5/26/2008 7:24:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: HieroV

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ORIGINAL: Racquelle

My sub is a human being, and has certainly earned the right to clear instructions and fairness, and if I have any hopes of keeping an enthusiastic and devoted sub, I must be decent. Dominant need not equal tyrant.

Marry me.

(I'm joking but that's a wonderful postitive attitude to have.)

HieroV

Hell I'm already married, and female, but I concur! We need more D-types with that kind of thinking.
Of course, when I'm feeling on the toppish side of my switchiness I follow that mantra, and this one:
Expect nothing less than you would of yourself.
Give nothing less than you would want to receive.

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RE: Conflict of Command (Dom Couple) - 5/27/2008 3:04:00 AM

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There MUST be a clear CoC, decide between the two of you that if there is a conflict if interests who has priority with that girl. If the orders conflict she is told, always follow person A's command first. The worst thing you can do to a sub who is in full submission to both of you is put her in the position of having to choose between you, it will tear her apart. Make that decision between the two of you BEFORE hand, it is YOUR responcibility to account for such times and put things in place to protect the girl.

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RE: Conflict of Command (Dom Couple) - 5/27/2008 4:17:27 PM

RealSub58

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ORIGINAL: ShatteredSoul123

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ORIGINAL: RealSub58

You seem VERY confused to me.

Are you are Dom/sub couple for a Dom/me couple?

When you figure out who you are, then you will answer your own question.

I don't think they are at all the one who is confused. They are 2 dominant people who are a couple. They are going to be adding a submissive to the mix. They each know who they are and where they stand. The question is about authority. Where is their confusion?

Dom/Sub Couple, 26/23, Dallas, Texas

My confusion lies:
1) Forum says one thing
2) Profile says another thing ~~ Dom / sub, not Dom /domme
3) I think some find their way into the forum world from the other side in search of what people say here, if they are interested on the other side.

The other thing that concerns me is, why look for a third, when a couple ~ well the said Dom ~ has only dom experience ONLINE ?

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RE: Conflict of Command (Dom Couple) - 5/29/2008 9:52:38 AM

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The other thing that concerns me is, why look for a third, when a couple ~ well the said Dom ~ has only dom experience ONLINE ?

I definitely see your concerns. I would also question those things had I looked at the profile :o)

As far as why look for a third if they only have online experience... how else are they going to get offline experience? If one doesn't attempt it offline, they are forever doomed to say it was online only...

I have yet to figure out why so many people think if a dom has only online experience they for some reason shouldn't attempt offline.

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