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THANKS - 5/25/2008 3:23:25 PM   
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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 3:41:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		You asked a question that doesn't have a one true answer to it and yes you received some sarcastic answers. Not all of them were though and you didn't clarify what it was you were asking and that tends to lead to a thread that goes nowhere.    *eep I wasn't done typing* I'm sorry you got your feelings hurt because that never feels good. When you come to an open forum, you end up taking your chances on responses.The more clear and precise the question, the better the answer when it comes to 'how-to' questions but as I said .. you asked one that doesn't have an answer.There is no such test. There is only trying to talk to someone, getting to know them.Now, there are checklists. Lists of activities that you or the sub can go by, but no such thing as an actual submissive test.

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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 3:42:55 PM   
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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 3:51:36 PM   
TysGalilah


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Usako

"Ask a stupid question, get a stupid answer."


..perhaps his wording was unclear to what the question was...but I don't think there are "stupid questions" ,that are genuinely asked ( which I feel he was being in his attempt ) .
 

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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 3:55:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		not my feeling hurt as I don't have any  just found out how many want=a-be there really are on here

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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 4:06:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		You received 18 responses, 11 of them were sound advice---thats about a 61% success rate---and your issue with that is?
 
 

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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 4:20:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		 People can only answer as well as the information in the original post. I see that the OP joined CM almost a year ago even if they don't have a number of posts.I'd like to be generous and think that they still know that there are many different ways and that there is no "One Twue Way". As LadyHathor said, you got some good advice in the original thread. What's wrong with that? Sour grapes because no one jumped up to volunteer to take your test? Sorry - I have my Daddy Dom that I love very much and wouldn't volunteer to be take any such tests. I still think communication and time is your best bet to see if something will work.

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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 4:22:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree you did receive a lot of good advice.  Communications is the key.  No set checklist will ever give you everything you need to know.  When my Mistress and i meet to talk about meeting on a more formal basis She gave me an activities checklist to fill out.  Did this give Her everything She needed to know??  Obviously not because when we did meet for the first time we spent the better part of a hour going over my answers and Her asking me for clarification.  Beside you never responded back as to what you were really looking for.  You did not communicate.

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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 4:22:14 PM   
Maya2001


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Status: offline 		Maybe the problem isn't everyone else but poor communications on your part in explaining what you are seeking/wanting to know.

No one really understood what kind of test you were asking for.... was it the bdsm checklist which is designed to help know what kinks the sub has experience with or is willing to try??..... are you trying to see if there is some kind of test that measures a subs level of submissiveness??(which there isn't)  are you looking for some kind of test that will test her knowledge of BDSM ???(again none that I know of)

Unless you are able to concisely explain what you want ..that will make sense to everyone ..you will not get sensible answers in return


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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 4:26:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		i didn't respond to your original question as i was unsure of your question.
i agree with MLady that you received several good responses. you can
also google 'daddy dom or dominants' and you will find some blogs/postings
from girls that explain for them what a daddy dom means. your profile states very
little other than you are looking for a 'lil one for playmate'. i enjoy the thought of a
daddy dom and have talked/played with a couple. i asked my Master if anyone had ever called him 'daddy' and what his thoughts were and he asked me what i would prefer to call him. the title Master fits him better than daddy and so that is what i call him.  
and yes..at times folks get a bit sarcastic with their responses...but that is what happens when posting on a forum.

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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 4:26:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		I went back and re-read the original responses and still can't really understand where you felt ridiculed.  Most, including myelf, seemed more confused with the question than anything else.  Honestly, if you felt offended by those mild responses, I fear you are in for a very hard time if you stick around. 

It is very likely that as there are with anything, there are short-cuts to BDSM, but I don't think there are any shortcuts I'd advocate personally.  I stand by the point I was trying to make originally.  Give her all the tests you want, but in the end you are still going to have to put aside everything you think you know, and actually learn who she is by getting to know her. 

While I stand by my point of view, I do apologize if I was needlessly sarcastic.  Camille is right, no one likes to be made to feel badly. 

Best wishes in your search.

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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 4:57:47 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: califsue

i didn't respond to your original question as i was unsure of your question.
i agree with MLady that you received several good responses. you can
also google 'daddy dom or dominants' and you will find some blogs/postings
from girls that explain for them what a daddy dom means. your profile states very
little other than you are looking for a 'lil one for playmate'. i enjoy the thought of a
daddy dom and have talked/played with a couple. i asked my Master if anyone had ever called him 'daddy' and what his thoughts were and he asked me what i would prefer to call him. the title Master fits him better than daddy and so that is what i call him.  
and yes..at times folks get a bit sarcastic with their responses...but that is what happens when posting on a forum.



califsue, if you look at the OP's original post, he's looking for submissive volunteers to take some sort of test to see if it works on determining compatibility, or so it seems to me. If he was looking for info on Daddy Doms, the most recent is this one: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1878551/tm.htm  amd it does have a number of links to other DaddyDom threads as well as a well-written description of DD's in it.

Mostly, I think he's just looking for subs to take his test. *shrugs*


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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 5:22:05 PM   
Prinsexx


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ORIGINAL: DaddyDom59

" I know that RIDICULE may be a shield but it's not a weapon" Thanks for showing your true Knowledge in all the ridicule

Dear DaddyDom:

I didn't answer your first question because I really did not understand the question. It seemed rushed, short and ambivalent. It was though, at its core, sincere. And that is what worries me the most about the question. I feel you are unsure of yourself as a Dom. There is a certain immaturity in the way the question is asked. Surely you must know that this vast, sensitive, covert, underground, individualistic, ritualised, fetishised, elusive, endangered, politicised......there are many more descriptors.....world of bdsm couldn't be, wouldn't be sorted by any such questionnaire: not even if it had many hundresds of questions? There are 400 basic relationship-style questionnaires at least and the do not pertain to the world of bdsm.
One other point: if you feel you have been ridiculed there, (and I have raed through your responses), just wait until you ask a question which really sets your response rate alight.
Posts always gve something away however about the parsonality of the writer, no matter how curt they are.
You have typed the word THANKS here in caps. Angry? Having a hissy fit? Getting attention?  That's hardly the disposition of a Daddy I would choose.
With a well meant attitude: Prin



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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 5:26:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		I read the original post, shook my head and moved on. You seem to think there's an easy answer to relationships. There isn't. You don't seem to want to invest the time that it takes to figure out a relationship. How is your SO supposed to interpet the fact that you don't want to spend the time to get to know them? And lastly:

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ORIGINAL: DaddyDom59

not my feeling hurt as I don't have any 
  You don't have any feelings?  So why would someone become involved with someone with no feelings?

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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 5:59:40 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyRainfire

quote:

ORIGINAL: califsue

i didn't respond to your original question as i was unsure of your question.
i agree with MLady that you received several good responses. you can
also google 'daddy dom or dominants' and you will find some blogs/postings
from girls that explain for them what a daddy dom means. your profile states very
little other than you are looking for a 'lil one for playmate'. i enjoy the thought of a
daddy dom and have talked/played with a couple. i asked my Master if anyone had ever called him 'daddy' and what his thoughts were and he asked me what i would prefer to call him. the title Master fits him better than daddy and so that is what i call him.  
and yes..at times folks get a bit sarcastic with their responses...but that is what happens when posting on a forum.



califsue, if you look at the OP's original post, he's looking for submissive volunteers to take some sort of test to see if it works on determining compatibility, or so it seems to me. If he was looking for info on Daddy Doms, the most recent is this one: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1878551/tm.htm  amd it does have a number of links to other DaddyDom threads as well as a well-written description of DD's in it.

Mostly, I think he's just looking for subs to take his test. *shrugs*



If this is the one i'm think of...

quote:



daddydom's looking for a submissive type test to adminester in the future to help him understand a new sub in the future can any one help with this
 
thanks daddydom"
 


Then it seems he was asking if there was a test that he could give.  It's almost as if someone else is asking for him.  Then again english may not be his native language.  Which brings us back to the point of communications being so important.

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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 6:19:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		DaddyDom, lol. well your showing your immaturity and wannabe status by insulting those that tried giving you advice. (including me.) having spent several years on various forums,yahoo groups and message boards, there are going to be a fair amount of people who give smartassed, or goofy replies, some because the OP is asking for it, others just for the hell of it.  I felt that you asked the question out of real need to know. Being a beginner in the lifestyle myself, it is frustrating, and can be alittle challenging to figure out. (now mind you, it is a challenge I am whole heartedly enjoying.) So when you post on the forums, say what you want outloud, see how it sounds, does it make sense, (sentence structure wise.) or read it outloud to another person if possible.  I do.  and try to ignore/ or play along alittle bit with the posters that are being silly. '

Hmm, didn't think of that, dragon.  Well I would be alot more forgiving of someone's literacy errors if English wasn't their 1st language.

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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 6:26:41 PM   
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My dad (RIP) was doctor with a PHD in pysch and my girlfriend is a PHD in industrial pysch and teaches at a university.  I don’t even think either of them could help you “understand a new sub in the future” with the information you posted in the OP of your other thread muchless anyone here at CollarMe.
 
There are 3 “submissive type test” links in my profile.  But I didn’t post any of them them in your other thread because they are not true pysch evaluations and will do nothing to help you “understand a new sub in the future.”  The type of thing you are looking for is used by HR for employment position evaluation.  I doubt if any of them are geared to rate submissiveness or help you “understand a new sub.” 
 
Even if a submissiveness insight test existed, it would not help with “a new sub” because they don’t know who they are yet and are still exploring.  By the time “a new sub” took such an intensive and introspective test, the self discovers made would likely change their perspectives and who they were… the results would be tainted by opening their mind to ask effective questions.  At best you could learn who they were before the test started. 

So, “a new sub” is affected by her environment which is the Dom’s job to provide.  You fertilize her mind, make her feel secure to explore and shape her growth with that exploration.  She becomes a collective of her past and what you now present to her.  Hence the term “molding a submissive.” 

A Dom that isn’t a “want=a-be” will even take the bull by the horns and do the work and research.   A Dom that isn’t a “want=a-be” wouldn’t expect a forum to hand out a non existent answer on a silver platter and then whine and stamp his little Domly feat in a THANKS thread when he discovers it doesn’t exist. 
 
And now you have the answer you wanted and it is served to you on the silver platter you requested.  So get off your lazy ass and read the books in this -=BDSM Book List=-  thread if you are in the least bit serious about trying to understand the lifestyle, another person or the role of a Dominant. 
 
My last advice is not to bite the hand that feeds you and insult the very people of which a majority posted sincere responses in your original thread.  You have made an ass out of yourself in front of this community and such a test will not drop from the sky no matter how much you cry about it.
 
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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 6:34:59 PM   
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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 6:37:47 PM   
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you've given me a thread to laugh at here...and i was getting bored!!




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RE: THANKS - 5/25/2008 6:42:56 PM   
everhope


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

You are welcome!

Even if a submissiveness insight test existed, it would not help with “a new sub” because they don’t know who they are yet and are still exploring.  By the time “a new sub” took such an intensive and introspective test, the self discovers made would likely change their perspectives and who they were… the results would be tainted by opening their mind to ask effective questions.  At best you could learn who they were before the test started. 

So, “a new sub” is affected by her environment which is the Dom’s job to provide.  You fertilize her mind, make her feel secure to explore and shape her growth with that exploration.  She becomes a collective of her past and what you now present to her.  Hence the term “molding a submissive.” 

A Dom that isn’t a “want=a-be” will even take the bull by the horns and do the work and research.   A Dom that isn’t a “want=a-be” wouldn’t expect a forum to hand out a non existent answer on a silver platter and then whine and stamp his little Domly feat in a THANKS thread when he discovers it doesn’t exist. 
 
And now you have the answer you wanted and it is served to you on the silver platter you requested.  So get off your lazy ass and read the books in this -=BDSM Book List=-  thread if you are in the least bit serious about trying to understand the lifestyle, another person or the role of a Dominant. 
 
My last advice is not to bite the hand that feeds you and insult the very people of which a majority posted sincere responses in your original thread.  You have made an ass out of yourself in front of this community and such a test will not drop from the sky no matter how much you cry about it.
 
You are welcome.
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