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RE: ~~A question for the sake of asking~~ - 5/29/2008 9:02:42 AM

CalifChick

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
I try to ignore machismo and convolutions, and just post whatever I think people need to hear, regardless of the question or the topic.

Yo! Steel! Go get a blowjob hon.

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RE: ~~A question for the sake of asking~~ - 5/29/2008 9:04:01 AM

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I think they are bullshit questions and like most of your posts, based off stereotypes, caricatures, and extrapolations of abstract people.

True statement, but getting pissy about it misses the point. We are all mired in limited experience, and bombarded by fantasy from vanilla ads, porn, you name it. Figuring human behavior out is part of personal growth. Steel is (1) not dumb, and (2) actually gives a shit. I try to ignore machismo and convolutions, and just post whatever I think people need to hear, regardless of the question or the topic.

Except that I am not being pissy lol

It's just what I 100% honestly think about his thread.

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RE: ~~A question for the sake of asking~~ - 5/29/2008 10:20:27 AM

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How's THAT for an image of "Domliness" playing scrabble and crying like a girl...LOL!

To me, Intimacy = being vulnerable with another = exposing your feelings = opening yourself up and sharing yourself with them & 'letting them in', at the risk of being hurt. It takes a strong person to do that, in my opinion.

The strongest men i have ever known and respected have cried in front of me. Being honest enough to show genuine feelings in front of another person doesn't make them less Dominant, in my eyes. Also, having the desire to be a part of a family and playing board games doesn't make them less Dominant, in my eyes.

Not having to put up a 'manly' facade, in order to be treated like a man, is something i consider to be a very strong quality in a man.

Many men seem to be so fearful of being ridiculed or rejected, if they dare show their 'softer side', their 'human side', that they never really allow another to get close enough to them to see them for who they really are. They keep them at arm's length and never really experience intimacy. They miss out on making that connection with another.

Being comfortable enough and self-assured enough to be himself and expose his vulnerabilities in front of me, is something i look for in a Dominant man.

BTW, Scrabble is a very good game but, my Master prefer playing Monopoly with me.

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RE: ~~A question for the sake of asking~~ - 5/29/2008 10:35:57 AM

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How's THAT for an image of "Domliness"

Being Dominant doesn't mean you are not human. I hate that people think dominant means "a manly man" who won't cry, likes cars and motorcycles and always outweighs his partner by 70 lbs of muscle.

I am tall and skinny. I have been told I am too small to dominate anyone by more then one confused submissive. Steriotypes just piss me off.

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RE: ~~A question for the sake of asking~~ - 5/29/2008 11:19:40 AM

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What makes us try so hard to maintain a slipping fantasy that we put ourselves time and time again into BAD situations that are destined to end bad?

I don't...

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Do we do this so we don't ever have to focus on something that might actually work that isn't as shiny as the fantasy is?

Fantasies are fantasies for a reason. My expectations are grounded in reality.

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Why are we so quick to jump on what looks like perfection that we jump right over someone that is perfecty just as good.... just not as shiny?

Again, not something I do...never did.

ps All of these questions seem a bit rhetorical to me...

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