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RolePlayer349 -> Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 10:03:42 AM)
question....i want to know from a submissive females point of view if you are home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master for permission or do it and not tell him??

abcbsex -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 10:08:08 AM)
I usually tell him about it afterwards. He doesn't mind much because he likes coming home to a happy, horny sub. Masturbation is more like warm-up for me anyways. If he's displeased that I masturbated, he'll communicate that later but for the most part he doesn't care.

RCdc -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 10:08:32 AM)
Keep secrets from Darcy? That isn't in my vocab and certainly not expected. the.dark.

SimplyMichael -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 10:24:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349 question....i want to know from a submissive females point of view if you are home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master for permission or do it and not tell him?? Do whatever works for you but keeping secrets? Not a frigging chance!

CalifChick -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 10:29:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349 if you are home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master for permission If his rule is that I must ask for permission, that is what I do. If I cannot get in touch with him, then I follow his directive (and if his directive is "don't do it if you cannot get me", then I don't do it). quote: or do it and not tell him?? If he doesn't care, then I may or may not mention it. If it is his instruction that he wants to know, then of course I would tell him. Deception is not an option. Cali

xxblushesxx -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 10:34:58 AM)
He's got more important things to worry about than if I pleasure myself. It's really not a big issue with us; but, if He wanted to know, I'd tell Him.

akisha -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 10:36:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349 question....i want to know from a submissive females point of view if you are home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master for permission or do it and not tell him?? I'm allowed and encouraged to masterbate when ever I want. He likes me to be in a state of arousal as often as possible. But not tell him?? yaaa no. I don't believe in keeping secrets, and it's a serious no no with him. If I lie or purposely forget to tell him something I'm in shit.

ladywolfpup -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 10:45:45 AM)
I no longer have a Dom, but I would never not tell if the rule was that I had to tell. If they didn't care, then I wouldn't bother saying anything. And since I tend to masterbate a LOT then hopefully it wouldn't matter to my Dom. (especially since this is the only way I can orgasm) pup

chamberqueen -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 10:53:15 AM)
I think it should be discussed beforehand. I often travel for a week at a time overseas, and I will ask for permission to masturbate freely when I am gone. If I am home then I ask the same day, or sometimes am given the privilege without asking. It would be easy to cheat on something like this - I see it as a test of my willingness to obey.

HalloweenWhite -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 10:53:32 AM)
I'd tell My girl she wasn't to masterbate without My permission just as a way (albeit sadistically) to control her in a very intimate way.

hejira92 -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 11:19:36 AM)
In a previous relationship, I was not to masturbate. Period. He would have phone sex with me when we were apart, but I did not have permission to have an orgasm on my own. Now, the orgasms are still the property of Master, but I am allowed to masturbate as long as I thank Him properly as soon afterwards as I can- by phone or the next time we are together. Yesterday however, I actually called Him for a pre-Thank You (it was during and I requested the aural enhancement He alone can add to the experience [;)]). I still thanked Him profusely afterwards (and, believe me, He was wonderful!) As to not telling Him- NO WAY. Transparency is at the foundation of our relationship. I am His and I respect the tenets of His ownership.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 11:46:27 AM)
He owns my orgasms and I am not to have them unless he orders them. I can masturbate, but I can't orgasm from them unless he tells me to. Sometimes I go there and take myself to the brink...right on the edge...and I hold it there as long as I can stand it, because I love feeling his control over me like that. I don't keep any secrets from him - what a lie that would be!! And I'd rather my slavery be based on truth, otherwise, what the heck is the point?? The thought of it appalls me.

RolePlayer349 -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 11:51:36 AM)
i want only the females side .. thanks for your input James

virgini970 -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 12:09:13 PM)
not tell him what's the point of a master some don't care i never thought about it i am lucky to get sex once a week so i take care of it any way i can

BitaTruble -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 1:27:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349 question....i want to know from a submissive females point of view if you are home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master for permission or do it and not tell him?? My point of view is that the best relationships are when the parties are compatible and on issues such as this they stick by agreements they've made regarding them. I don't see any purpose in answering further on a personal level unless you have some valid reason for needing that sort of information. Sounds like wanker fonder to me given your other post in this thread otherwise input from any gendered submissive should suffice to help forward your thirst for knowledge. [8\|] Celeste

DesFIP -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 1:28:19 PM)
Ask him ahead of time for his rules about it. Obviously if you don't see each other for six months at a time and he forbids it, you'll need to rethink the relationship. But I'm sure he'll set up reasonable requirements.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 1:30:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349 question....i want to know from a submissive females point of view if you are home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master for permission or do it and not tell him?? When I had girls, they had to ask me before they did anything. If not, they were punished. They knew ahead of time their agreement with me was that there was to be no masturbation without permission. One breach and there was punishment, 2 was dismissal. I had only one rule for them, and that was it, so if that was too much to ask of them I wasnt going to be bothered trying to cultivate anything else. DV

HalloweenWhite -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 1:40:22 PM)
I like your spin on the idea of having to ask for permission, past and current. I think being totally honest is an absolute given, too, or at least, it should be. If there's no trust the relationship cant work.

Focus50 -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 2:15:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349 question....i want to know from a submissive females point of view if you are home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master for permission or do it and not tell him?? This is the kinda thing I deal with early in a relationship. The girl is officially "second in command".... When I'm about, her body is my property and she needs permission to touch and self gratify etc. When I'm not there, she reverts from submissive to mature, independent adult (and next in command) and I trust her to make her own choices and decisions. But I'm not a micro-manager. "Property" means different things to different people and it would seem fairly sensible for any control based relationship to work out individual protocols. I really don't like setting the girl up to fail; it's self defeating to tempt her with "do it and not tell him" situations. Focus.

Focus50 -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/30/2008 2:21:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349 i want only the females side .. thanks for your input James This is a public Forum, not your personal validation vehicle.... Learn to "skip over" if you're that close-minded. Focus.

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