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ownedgirlie -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/31/2008 4:34:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily quote: He's got more important things to worry about than if I pleasure myself. It's really not a big issue with us; but, if He wanted to know, I'd tell Him. I loved this response. We are pretty much in the same boat. If it was all about sex, we'd be homeless. PL These are interesting responses to me. For us, it's not a matter of more important things to worry about, or that it's all about sex. It's a matter of exercising control and authority in all areas of my life, as this is what we both enjoy. And while I realize that's not a dynamic everyone has or even wants, I do think it's a mistake to think those who have such rules in their lives live a life that's "all about sex." Maybe that's not what you intended, but it was my first thought when I read it. Actually, to us, sex is used as a method of exercising control. And it makes us both feel good to feel that level of control. To each their own, but the comments seemed out of place.

kallisto -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/31/2008 5:54:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349 question....i want to know from a submissive females point of view if you are home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master for permission or do it and not tell him?? I haven't read all the replies.. but keep secrets - not a chance.

slaveluci -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/31/2008 7:42:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie These are interesting responses to me. For us, it's not a matter of more important things to worry about, or that it's all about sex. It's a matter of exercising control and authority in all areas of my life, as this is what we both enjoy. And while I realize that's not a dynamic everyone has or even wants, I do think it's a mistake to think those who have such rules in their lives live a life that's "all about sex." Maybe that's not what you intended, but it was my first thought when I read it. Actually, to us, sex is used as a method of exercising control. And it makes us both feel good to feel that level of control. To each their own, but the comments seemed out of place. I was forming the words to type when I clicked to the next page and saw this, ownedgirlie. You took the words right out of my mouth, as usual[:)]. Actually, I thought it was odd to say something about it being "all about sex" in relation to the ones who aren't allowed to touch without permission. Wouldn't it be the other way around? It's NOT all about sex for sure since I can't lie around cumming all day without Him[;)]. It was an odd statement to throw out. Having that level of control over me in ALL areas, including masturbation, is a part of our relationship. Even hinting we (those who are controlled in that area) think it's "all about sex" is ill-informed and ludicrous. Strange insinuation to be sure................luci

lilabbotsfordgrl -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/31/2008 8:03:53 PM)
Masturbation and orgasm are big issues for us, and ripe with control possibilities. :) She's not to touch herself for pleasure without permission, unless something has been set up before hand (like "I'm going away for a few days, and you're allowed to cum once while I'm gone, but I want to hear about it after" or something like that).

ownedgirlie -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (5/31/2008 8:05:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaveluci Actually, I thought it was odd to say something about it being "all about sex" in relation to the ones who aren't allowed to touch without permission. Wouldn't it be the other way around? It's NOT all about sex for sure since I can't lie around cumming all day without Him[;)]. Hey, I hadn't even thought of that point!

shellzbythesea -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/1/2008 8:01:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349 question....i want to know from a submissive females point of view if you are home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master for permission or do it and not tell him?? I am currently without a Dom but when there was one in my life, if his directive was not to, then I did not. If I slipped up, I understood there were consequences. And NO, regardless of the consequences I most certainly would not LIE to him about it. That would be more unforgivable than the original slip up.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/1/2008 8:09:33 PM)
It's all about priorities. In general, knowing about his masturbation isn't important, having permission isn't important and denial isn't my style so asking is usually a formality anyway. That shouldn't be mistaken such that I feel it is unimportant for everyone- expecting shared values tends to be the downfall of many a relationship.

cjan -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/1/2008 11:12:47 PM)
I just gotta ask, because I'm insatiably curious, do y'all subbly types gotta ask for permission to, or details of, when ya gotta pinch a loaf ?

AquaticSub -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/1/2008 11:45:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349 question....i want to know from a submissive females point of view if you are home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master for permission or do it and not tell him?? Depends entirely on the relationship in question. In mine, I masturbate without needing to tell him because he hasn't chosen to actively control that part of my life.

julietsierra -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/2/2008 12:16:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx quote: ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349 i want only the females side .. thanks for your input James oh................why is that? Cause HE'S mastUrbating and is getting off on hearing all the women talk about how they mastUrbate. (the U included just to be sure I spelled it right. Don't want to get in trouble with anyone's pet peeve y'know (or is that you know?) juliet

julietsierra -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/2/2008 12:21:02 AM)
The Cliff's Notes Version: Not allowed unless I ask. Have never been told yes yet. I don't do it and don't lie about it. That pretty much covers things. juliet

Willowmoon -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/2/2008 1:26:43 AM)
I'm not allowed to without permission so I don't. If I message him and ask for permission with no response then I won't to it... Too tell you the truth though these days when he does give me permission too when his not around I find that I can't climax anyway or if I do it doesn't feel as good. I prefer to save it all up for my Master it feels much better when he allows me release after a week or so of not having any. Willow

akahadaka -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/2/2008 8:16:19 AM)
When we started with the relationship I feel the need to ask Him first... so I did it. And from then He never tell me about give me permission or not but I always ask Him before doing it. Asking Him excites me very much... deeper inside me I have a desire to listen "not yet" or "not today"... and this is the point to get me aroused, I think. Is a way to show my submission to Him, to feel that Master has the control.

SirsPetAdrina -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/2/2008 11:06:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349 question....i want to know from a submissive females point of view if you are home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master for permission or do it and not tell him?? depends on what your masters orders are i contact or ask him before i do anything or grit my teeth and bear it till he gets home and solves it for me.

sublibrarian -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/2/2008 2:37:52 PM)
I have to ask permission, although that's recently been amended to my being able to masturbate once per week without prior permission, provided I use that session learn how to teeter on the edge of orgasm better. I did once do it without his permission. I'm not even sure why I did. But I knew even as I did it that I wouldn't compound the bad behavior by not telling him. I felt terrible because he was disappointed in me. Haven't done it since and don't plan to do it again.

CalifChick -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/2/2008 2:55:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cjan I just gotta ask, because I'm insatiably curious, do y'all subbly types gotta ask for permission to, or details of, when ya gotta pinch a loaf ? Yeah, right after we ask permission to breathe. Cali

born2ride -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/2/2008 2:55:53 PM)
As my considering Master and I live in different cities, and I am a highly orgasmic person, Master has said that I may play as often as I feel the need, but if we are talking online or on the phone, I ask if I feel the need to masturbate. When we are talking, Master controls my orgasms, just as He does when we are together, and yes, they are much more intense that way. Master also limits me to less than 20 orgasms a day unless He is present, either physically or on the phone/computer. It is not about the sex for us, but the control. The masturbation is a release I need, due to the stressful nature of my employment, and Master understands this.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/2/2008 3:06:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick quote: ORIGINAL: cjan I just gotta ask, because I'm insatiably curious, do y'all subbly types gotta ask for permission to, or details of, when ya gotta pinch a loaf ? Yeah, right after we ask permission to breathe. Cali Can't say I know the term "pinch a loaf" but I suspect it's a crass way of referring to using the bathroom? If so, there are indeed submissives/slaves who either must ask permission or are on a schedule. Sure it's not for everyone, but I guess mocking's not for everyone either, since I certainly don't get that.

CalifChick -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/2/2008 3:10:28 PM)
Yes, it's a crass way of referring to the process of defecation. I'm thinking CJ was going with the idea of things you cannot control, as that was what was in my head when I responded. Yes, you can "hold it" for a certain amount of time, and some are required to ask permission to use the bathroom, but when the human body says it's coming out, it's coming out. Cali

ownedgirlie -> RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate (6/2/2008 3:14:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick Yes, it's a crass way of referring to the process of defecation. I'm thinking CJ was going with the idea of things you cannot control, as that was what was in my head when I responded. Yes, you can "hold it" for a certain amount of time, and some are required to ask permission to use the bathroom, but when the human body says it's coming out, it's coming out. Cali Thanks for responding. To answer Cjan's question then, yes.

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