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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/30/2008 2:43:38 PM   
darchChylde


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Status: offline 		Well i'm a submissive, but not a woman (last i checked, which was rather recent); i thought i'd put my two cents.  Ma'am has never made any rules about masturbation, and it would be awkward if i had to ask (i'm kind of embarassed about those kind of things, i don't hide that i do it but i don't volunteer details without being asked), though i'd do it were She to desire it.  i can't help but think of a "Jerkin' Journal" and giggle.

On the other hand, i do not masturbate when i am spending time with Ma'am; even if i'm in another room as She sleeps at nght with Her Husband, or even the day before an expected meet.  This is not under any dictate by Ma'am, just honest devotion and respect for Her property.  i believe that if i were to start asking or giving details without Her directive would have too much of the appearance of topping from the bottom.


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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/30/2008 3:40:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		Most kinky people like the direct orgasm permission approach.  I've been in situations where all sexual activity needed prior permission and ones where no one cared or they enjoyed having a report but didn't care about permission.

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/30/2008 4:55:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

He's got more important things to worry about than if I pleasure myself

Master doesn't.  That's right up there at the top.  He owns it and He doesn't want it played with without His permission, period.  There is no masturbating unless He's present and very little then.  He prefers to cause the orgasms and I prefer that too.  They're much better and stronger that way.........luci

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/30/2008 5:04:35 PM   
LadyPhoenixRisen


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Status: offline 		To me it all depends on if it's a rule for my sub to ask me first or not.

As a submissive in my marriage, I do not tell him or ask permission.  It's never been a part of our dynamic and I for one am very glad it isn't.  I can do it when I want, and as often as I feel the need.  It's one of the things that he finds so attractive about me, the fact that I have a very high sex drive.

I don't think I will request this of my slave, though if he is a cuckhold....a different story.  I am sure there will be times that I don't want him to before we meet as to build it all up, to make his desire for me all the more hard *cough* to contain.

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/30/2008 5:05:16 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349

question....i want to know from a submissive females point of view if you are    home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master  for permission or do it and   not tell him?? 



i don't have to ask permission - Daddy encourages it on a daily basis


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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/30/2008 5:10:20 PM   
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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/30/2008 5:13:42 PM   
BBWnNC72


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Status: offline 		my Dominant has never said i couldn't masterbate. Once He did tell me that i couldn't cum from it. But that was to build me up for a special playdate.
Not tell Him?!! i do not keep secretes, especially if He asks.  Now, i don't tell Him every time i masterbate. He really doesn't care as long as i am happy and it doesn't interfere with His plans, but that goes for everything i do.


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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/30/2008 9:54:45 PM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		i can fiddle but not cum without permission. If W/we are going to be apart, then He gives orders or i ask for permission if He forgets! The standing rule is no play on the night W/we part or the night before W/we reunite and He will dictate what is allowable in between. i would not keep secrets from Him about that.

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/30/2008 10:16:39 PM   
cjan


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Status: offline 		Ok, folks, not a rant, just a pet peeve...it's spelled mastUrbation, with a U, not an E. If ya can't spell it, ya shouldn't be allowed to do it, imo.

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/30/2008 11:08:50 PM   
summersprite


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Status: offline 		If Sir tells me I must not masturbate for a 'specific' amount of time, then I won't. If he sets me a task to do before we next meet, I'll ask for permission to orgasm at the end of doing it. If there's no instructions and no task set, then I consider I'm free to do what I wish..... and if he asks me if I have played with myself during that time, then I will tell him the truth. I see no point in our relationship if I'm not totally honest with him at all times....

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/31/2008 8:07:20 AM   
ProtagonistLily


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quote:

He's got more important things to worry about than if I pleasure myself. It's really not a big issue with us; but, if He wanted to know, I'd tell Him.


I loved this response. We are pretty much in the same boat. If it was all about sex, we'd be homeless.

PL


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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/31/2008 9:14:58 AM   
xxblushesxx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cjan

Ok, folks, not a rant, just a pet peeve...it's spelled mastUrbation, with a U, not an E. If ya can't spell it, ya shouldn't be allowed to do it, imo.


gud thang I be's gud at spillin then eh?

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/31/2008 9:17:33 AM   
Prinsexx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349

i want only the females side ..
thanks for your input
James


oh................why is that?


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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/31/2008 1:14:43 PM   
adoracat


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Status: offline 		Daddy knows that at the moment, self-serice is all i've had since march.  therefore, he doesnt say one way or the other.

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/31/2008 1:28:35 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Course I'm not a submissive so my reply don't count, but if I were, James would be very annoyed if I called him all the time to ask can I do this, or that or can I do........ WE've actually had discussions before on what he thought of girls who had to have permission for every little thing, and with his job, I'd never get to do anything if I had to ask cause he rarely has a chance to be on the phone.

Now as to your question should I do it and not tell him, he doesn't care if I masturbate, and if he did, then no I wouldn't do it and not tell him because I don't believe in keeping secrets from him.


quote:

ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349

question....i want to know from a submissive females point of view if you are    home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master  for permission or do it and   not tell him?? 



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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/31/2008 1:32:15 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Why else, because he don't care about how men jack off most likely and most likely don't care to hear about it.
quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

quote:

ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349

i want only the females side ..
thanks for your input
James


oh................why is that?



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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/31/2008 2:32:23 PM   
cjan


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quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

quote:

ORIGINAL: cjan

Ok, folks, not a rant, just a pet peeve...it's spelled mastUrbation, with a U, not an E. If ya can't spell it, ya shouldn't be allowed to do it, imo.


gud thang I be's gud at spillin then eh?





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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/31/2008 2:58:32 PM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		lie...no....thats dumb for so many reasons....and i would go so far as to say that a person that would, is not emotionally mature enough to be in relationship with me.

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/31/2008 3:38:04 PM   
Sandyshores29718


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Depends on what the rules are. If im allowed then i will, if not then so be it.

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 5/31/2008 3:48:00 PM   
SweetNika


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RolePlayer349

question....i want to know from a submissive females point of view if you are    home alone and want to masturbate should you contact your Master  for permission or do it and   not tell him?? 




I am currently not owned but when I was I was not allowed to cum without permission yet alone masterbate without his permission. Knowing I was disobeying my owner would make me feel so guilty there is no way I could/would enjoy myself.  It would never cross my mind to disobey an order given to by my owner because pleasing HIM is more important then pleasing myself for a brief singular moment.
 
 
Blessed be,
Nika

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