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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 6/2/2008 3:31:21 PM   
cjan


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Status: offline 		Most of my posts are in jest and, hopefully, good humor. I think humor is a healthy way to not take life and things too seriously and it sometimes, as in satire, sheds light on sacred cows, as it were.

I don't mean to offend anyone. However, I do seem to notice what seems to me to be a lack of humor in cases where protocols seem to me to be overemphasized at the expense of what I consider to be a certain balance.

I want to be crystal clear that I refrain from judging people for the lifestyle choices that they make. I'm aware that , according to some peoples views, I live in a glass house. As far as I'm concerned if it makes you happy and harms no one, more power to you. What I consider to be extreme adherence to form and protocals is simply not my cup of tea.

I hope I have made myself clear and not offended anyone or gored anyone's bull. That is not my intention.


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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 6/2/2008 4:04:38 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		Hi Cjan, thanks for the post.

I'm certainly not offended by your words, and I understand humor and sarcasm are often used in response to someone else's protocols when they are not understood or preferred.  What is balance for one person is imbalance for another, and for a myriad of reasons.  It doesn't bother me that someone else finds the way I enjoy my Master's control is warped, wacky, imbalanced, weird, crazy, or whatever.  I have no reason to be bothered by that, as I belong to someone who understands me, and who understands and enjoys what it takes to get the best out of me.  What does bother me (not to be confused with offended), and always has, is when people use sarcasm and mockery about something that is not their cup of tea.  If that means I have no sense of humor, then in this case, I have no sense of humor about the things I find rude.

It's what makes the world go 'round, isn't it - so many differing points of views and responses to them?

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 6/2/2008 4:13:52 PM   
LadySatara


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Status: offline 		I Have to aslo permission first, but that doesn't bother me at all. I would not lie to sir if I did slip up since I know that I want to be a trust worthy partner and not make him upset. If he told me no when I asked I will grit and bear it. ;)

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 6/2/2008 8:42:06 PM   
cjan


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Status: offline 		ownedgirly, I did not mean to be rude. If you found my post to be rude or sarcastic, I'm apologize. It's not my intention to, in anyway, judge or disrespect how others choose to live or how to find and express their happiness. In fact, as I said before, if something makes one happy and harms no one, I'm all for it.

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 6/2/2008 8:53:12 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		Hi Cjan, I did, but I survived it and I appreciate your follow up post.  No harm, no foul and all is well.  Thanks for your words.



(and now, back to your regularly scheduled thread...)

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 6/3/2008 12:03:16 PM   
Deliena


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From: Darlington, United Kingdom
Status: offline 		My Master and I don't have a formal "thou shalt not touch unless I give express permission" arrangement, but I have a tendency to text Him as I am going to bed, including plans to masturbate if I have any (it's a cheeky thing I think - particularly if he's still at work for example).  He rarely asks me not to, but if He does then I don't (it drives me completely mental and it means I pretty much jump on Him and throw Him to the ground as soon as I next see Him - which He loves LOL)

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RE: Submissive asking to masturbbate - 6/3/2008 12:28:57 PM   
Aibell


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Status: offline 		I have not been instructed to ask permission but I do often tell my Dom that I am horny and have masturbated. I would never keep it a secret from him – quite often he instructs me to masturbate for him – where ever I happen to be at that time
 
Saying that I don’t always tell him but that is because like others have said he isn’t necessarily interested to know every time
 
Aibell xxxx

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