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frighten slave - 5/31/2008 12:36:38 AM

mons

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greetings

i wrote in the other part and i need an asnwer i have given up on my slave he is just no right he is to frighten we talk for 2 years and he is smart funny but when he came time to really get into what i want yes spanking ect he was to scare to think we dated he brought me a wonderul gift one for me and on for my twin i very lovley kick ass leather boots and a braclet for my twin and i build dolls house and he brought things for my hobbie i wish he could be the smae as before i found out as a young on he aunt beat him sensless he was strange he thought he would serve me and mytwin no way he thought we play trick on him . the reason was my eyes do to a head injure are a mess i could not write wel l i stil lhave problem but it better so when i got my glass he thught it was my twin writing , so ladies what to do give him time , let the fright go oe help him throught this . he told me he is scare of me . ok your so knowable and it would be helpful and yes i did say he was crazy but now know he just scare very scare any help would be grateful

mons thanks so

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RE: frighten slave - 5/31/2008 1:17:48 AM

pixelslave

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mons,
Your sub most likely has PTSD from the experience he had with his Aunt. He's going to need to be desensitized to that experience before he'll be able to enjoy having any kind of spanking or pain experiences with you. He may very likely have flashbacks to those experiences at times and you'll need to be able to provide comfort and safety for him if/when he does.

You might start by rubbing his buttocks in a pleasurable way, that he enjoys too! Continue doing that regularly without spanking him until he becomes comfortable with you touching him there. On occasion give him a light slap and see how he reacts. Check to see if he knows that it's you. Check to see if he thinks of his Aunt. Laugh if he knows it's you and isn't alarmed to show him that you're having fun. Play with his genitals and get him excited, so that he also associates what you're doing with sexual pleasure as well. He's going to need to learn to trust you and reassociate being touched in various places with pleasurable sensations.

In fact, you're going to need to explore essentially all of his body to find out where he flinches when touched to help him learn to relax and trust you.

If what I've described isn't enough to help you get started or doesn't seem to work, I suggest you Google PTSD and also EMDR. That latter is known to be a very effective treatment for those who suffer from PTSD. I hope this helps you on your journey to a sucessful relationship with your new sub.

- pixel

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RE: frighten slave - 6/1/2008 3:11:45 AM

mons

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piexelslave

thank you so i am experncie but he is so scare but want to try things but when he came over that night with gifts for me nd my twin he looked so frighten and i felt so bad for him. he began to curse and i took him to the back of my place and just pinch him so hard , but whne i did this oh the look of fright on his face made me stop. i comfort him and told him he is a good boy and one thing is says always is i am a good boy if i say he is not he is very upset thank i will work on him gentle i thought he was crazy but then when he told me how he aunts tighted him and beat him for any small mistake i understand now. piexl thank you so i will work with him and he can be a wonderful slave i will make sure of this thanks os much

take care ( sorry even with the word check i mes up head injuire eyes are a mess so i hope you can read this