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RedMagic1 -> "Just" friends (5/31/2008 11:47:00 PM)
I went to bed, and tried to sleep, but am so happy I just can't. M, my ex-sub, told me tonight that she is engaged, and she invited me to the wedding. Nothing could keep me away. It makes me so happy to see her smile, and I am sure she will be at her most radiant that day. We had a great time when we were together. We wrote each other poetry. We had great sex. We explored forests. But we weren't life partners. The last day we had sex, and the next day after that, were rocky. I said things I later apologized for. But we loved each other, and still do. I decided to post this, because I see complaints so often about how everyone online is fake or playing games, or how people get offended because of the wrong chatroom etiquette, or how "Jerry! Jerry!" relationship X is. Some people manufacture drama where none needs to exist. It is entirely possible to meet someone online at a kinky-sex web site, to fall in love with them in real life, to have a relationship, for the sexual relationship to end, and to still be in love. There really are things in life that are more important than sex.

dovie -> RE: "Just" friends (5/31/2008 11:48:52 PM)
smiles

angelicbitch -> RE: "Just" friends (5/31/2008 11:51:33 PM)
What a nice message :) There are times when "online"works and times that it is horrible and goes badly. Nice to see that not all online goes badly....

tsclittlecupcake -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 12:26:21 AM)
!!Happy news indeed!! I hope your 'just' friend finds great completion in her marriage. My little brother found his best someone online. It took them 3 years, 2 of college and I guess one of just growing up for them to be sure, but they're enjoying parenthood and a 7th year anniversary this coming spring. cupcake

subtee -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 3:25:04 AM)
You're right this is a nice change from many of the complaining posts prevalent here. Thanks for that. Tee

kallisto -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 4:03:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 It makes me so happy to see her smile, and I am sure she will be at her most radiant that day. We had a great time when we were together. But we weren't life partners. But we loved each other, and still do. There really are things in life that are more important than sex. What a great post. It is wonderful that even though you aren't together anymore that you both still want each other to be happy. So many people want the very worst for their ex (insert whatever reason you can think of here).

PsyVamp -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 4:58:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 I went to bed, and tried to sleep, but am so happy I just can't. M, my ex-sub, told me tonight that she is engaged, and she invited me to the wedding. Nothing could keep me away. It makes me so happy to see her smile, and I am sure she will be at her most radiant that day. We had a great time when we were together. We wrote each other poetry. We had great sex. We explored forests. But we weren't life partners. The last day we had sex, and the next day after that, were rocky. I said things I later apologized for. But we loved each other, and still do. I decided to post this, because I see complaints so often about how everyone online is fake or playing games, or how people get offended because of the wrong chatroom etiquette, or how "Jerry! Jerry!" relationship X is. Some people manufacture drama where none needs to exist. It is entirely possible to meet someone online at a kinky-sex web site, to fall in love with them in real life, to have a relationship, for the sexual relationship to end, and to still be in love. There really are things in life that are more important than sex. I'm glad you shared this RedMagic, your happiness at her happiness provided me my first smile of the morning. My pet and I are not lifetime partners either, and so we know we will not be "together forever". We have decided to not worry about when either of us does find a partner, we are just living in the "now". Lady Jag

Prinsexx -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 5:09:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 I went to bed, and tried to sleep, but am so happy I just can't. M, my ex-sub, told me tonight that she is engaged, and she invited me to the wedding. Nothing could keep me away. It makes me so happy to see her smile, and I am sure she will be at her most radiant that day. We had a great time when we were together. We wrote each other poetry. We had great sex. We explored forests. But we weren't life partners. The last day we had sex, and the next day after that, were rocky. I said things I later apologized for. But we loved each other, and still do. I decided to post this, because I see complaints so often about how everyone online is fake or playing games, or how people get offended because of the wrong chatroom etiquette, or how "Jerry! Jerry!" relationship X is. Some people manufacture drama where none needs to exist. It is entirely possible to meet someone online at a kinky-sex web site, to fall in love with them in real life, to have a relationship, for the sexual relationship to end, and to still be in love. There really are things in life that are more important than sex. Yes to all of the above. Yes it is possible. And all the more possible I think because this wonderful medium known as the internet brings us out of the dark ages, out of the world of scarcity into a world of plenty so that when tings end we may never feel alone. Thank you for reminding me of this.

LadyPhoenixRisen -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 6:45:39 AM)
Very nice, it is great to see a good story on here for a change. [:)] I have met some wonderful people on here and also on the internet. (yes, in real life) I think that people expect the first one they talk to and meet to be the absolute one, when in fact the odd's of that happening are not high. It takes time and the right two people to build something that endures. You can have great sex and all the torrid Jerry Springer stuff if you hardly know someone. I think it's wonderful you are happy for her also. I recently had this come up with an ex-dom of mine. He has met someone and I realized after a moment of surprise that I was happy for him also. I guess we all do really move on with our lives and heal, maybe we don't even recognize the fact until we have to stare it in the face.

virgini970 -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 7:41:49 AM)
hey thanks that was nice and gives hope

MadRabbit -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 7:50:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 I went to bed, and tried to sleep, but am so happy I just can't. M, my ex-sub, told me tonight that she is engaged, and she invited me to the wedding. Nothing could keep me away. It makes me so happy to see her smile, and I am sure she will be at her most radiant that day. We had a great time when we were together. We wrote each other poetry. We had great sex. We explored forests. But we weren't life partners. The last day we had sex, and the next day after that, were rocky. I said things I later apologized for. But we loved each other, and still do. I decided to post this, because I see complaints so often about how everyone online is fake or playing games, or how people get offended because of the wrong chatroom etiquette, or how "Jerry! Jerry!" relationship X is. Some people manufacture drama where none needs to exist. It is entirely possible to meet someone online at a kinky-sex web site, to fall in love with them in real life, to have a relationship, for the sexual relationship to end, and to still be in love. There really are things in life that are more important than sex. Thanks for the post, Red. I'm on a freinds basis with most of the girls I have met off Collarme.com even though it didn't work out. I am not sure what people are doing wrong here that keeps them from finding interesting people.

cjan -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 8:01:51 AM)
I also want to thank you for your post, Red. Despite the nonsense often displayed , their are many many balanced and kind folks in our community and outside it, of course. Thanks for shining the spotlight on those qualities.

Kalista07 -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 8:25:33 AM)
Red, One more time You've gone above and beyond what can be the expectation for most men....... You are truly a fine example of both a man and a Dom. You have my utmost appreciation, and i sincerely hope that more people can find those qualities that You so often exhibit. Kali

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 8:33:54 AM)
For me it's not about whether things are more or less important than sex- it's about how relationships fluctuate and shift. I can still have sex with someone who is married to another. There are some ex's I keep in contact with and we are friends. There are some I don't. There are some relationships which shift "up" into a much deeper commitment, and some which shift "down" into just fucking and play. I know as an open poly person, my perspective on relationships may differ, but I don't value sex less with someone, I simply recognize that expecting any relationship to remain static is unrealistic.

RedMagic1 -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 8:39:08 AM)
I'm glad I'm able to make some other people smile, too, but please... this is soooo not about me. Part of the reason I am happy is because I am happy for us. She and I were tense around each other for a while, and it was one of these internet-age long-distance relationships, so it would have been really easy for either of us to just write the other person off. When I asked if her fiance would mind if I came, she hadn't even considered the possibility. Because, you know, on page 666 of Emily Post it says to invite Mom and Dad, your best friend, and your former Dom. Sometimes life is good.[sm=yahoo.gif]

Maya2001 -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 8:44:54 AM)
agreed and love your post

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 8:44:58 AM)
What a wonderful affirmation to wake up and sign on to! Thank you for sharing such a positive outlook.

kallisto -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 8:54:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 Because, you know, on page 666 of Emily Post it says to invite Mom and Dad, your best friend, and your former Dom. Sometimes life is good.[sm=yahoo.gif] Damn, I must have missed that page. [:)] Sometimes life is better than what we realize at any particular moment. [sm=yahoo.gif]

fungasm -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 8:59:09 AM)
Love and sex and poetry and joy, oh my. This was beautiful. Thank you.

kyraofMists -> RE: "Just" friends (6/1/2008 9:27:31 AM)
This is a really nice post, Red. Our family is also a product of an online meeting, though I really hope we don't end up as friends only. If we were to go our seperate ways, I know that it would be with much love and respect for each other and we would wish each other the best. For us what is best for each other and the relationship is more important than anything else. Knight's Kyra

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