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Padriag -> RE: Am I wrong here? (6/1/2008 3:39:51 PM)
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ORIGINAL: seekingaSir
When a submissive offers her service to her Dom. It is ignored. There was no reply given. It was as if the statement was never made. So when she approached Him because she is upset, as she felt ignored or brushed off, or as if her service is not important to Him. He told her that he didn't feel like dealing with the back and forth of discussing. Should she not be upset?? She now feels that He doesn't care about her feelings, or about her. Is she wrong for feeling this way?
Possibly... you've not given nearly enough information to create a clear context. When you say you offered your service, it isn't clear if you mean you are offering your service on a longterm basis (i.e. asking for a collar) or you offered some specific service (i.e. getting a beer, a blow job, cleaning the house, etc.). Either way, the dominant isn't obligated to accept, period. I have no idea why this dominant apparently brushed you off, particularly with only an incomplete picture from you. Perhaps you'd annoyed him already, perhaps he was having a bad day, perhaps you're overly needy, perhaps he's just a jack ass, perhaps its some combination or something I haven't listed... there's no way for me to know.
You're apparently looking for complete strangers to validate your feelings... not going to do that. You need to cope with them yourself and if you want to work things out with this dominant you need to first assess things to see if you could have approached him at a better time or in a better way. Having done that, try to talk to him at a better time and work things out. Finally, be prepared for the possibility that perhaps he's just not interested in you, and if so... move on.
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