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FirmhandKY -> RE: What men fear regarding marriage (6/2/2008 11:19:05 AM)
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ORIGINAL: subtee
Sorry, this wasn't clear. There is nothing wrong with my sexual drive. I'm zesty, I am. But it has absolutely nothing to do with reproduction.
uhh. The sex drive ... has nothing to do with the reproductive instinct? [8D] huh?
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ORIGINAL: subtee
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Chicken or the egg. You can argue it either way (and I think I did, thank you). Women can more easily choose not to "marry" or "seek union" in order to raise offspring, and a man feels less obligated because he is aware that she can.
Seriously? That's why many, many men don't pay child support?
Him: I know the court has decided that my kids should receive XX amount of money from me because they exist and therefore need things and I had an equal part in making them exist, but she can earn money so they really don't need it.
You are personalizing this way too much. Any one individual's "reasons" for their actions are their own. In the aggragate, however, we seek explanations for behaviors of groups and species.
Talking "male vs female" in the big picture (not necessarily even human terms), both compete to see how much in the way of resources that they can make the other incur in the reproductive cycle, so that they can use their own resources to further increase their chances of additional reproductive success.
In those terms, the female is the one who "lost" the battle in most species. She bears the biggest share of the cost of bearing, and then raising offspring. "Marriage", "child support" et al, are human cultural methods to try to even out this burden.
But a male (in general) who pursues the "spreading his wild seed" strategy simply isn't inclined to provide any more resources to his female partner. That's the entire point.
Now, morally, do I accept this as a "good thing"? No, not as a Christian American. But as a scientific thinker, I understand the origin and drive.
Firm
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