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adorableisotope -> RE: 19 year olds in the lifestyle (6/11/2008 9:49:00 PM)
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Honestly, the problem with this sort of thing, as certainly others have mentioned, is that one would have to deal with this subject on a case-by-case basis.
I had a fairly developed diaper fetish by the time I was 7, for example. By 12, it was cemented in and had become a genuine part of who I was. And at some point in my early 20's I finally succumbed and learned to accept and love it. ;)
Every human being, by definition of humanity, is distinctly different. As a fetishist and kinkster extraordinaire, I can say I've seen 50 year old men who make me ashamed of some of the things I like based solely on their behavior. But by that same right, I've known 17 year olds sneaking onto adult sites with more poise and professionalism in their attitudes than the "normal" end of internet decency fetishists.
As others have said, there is a real and terrible danger associated with the carnivores of alt life. An 18 year old sub who's never heard of safeword locked in a room with a 49 year old sadistic dom/me is not going to end very well for the sub, and in some cases, the dom/me might get what they deserve in legal retaliation. I don't think that should stop us from embracing our fledgeling kinksters, though.
Here's an idea I'm stealing from my older brother. My brother, in his second attempt at college life, joined a prominent fraternity. I consider myself as anti-frat as one can be. But the thing is, his frat, while being a frat, was a very forward-thinking fraternity. Yes, they gave the typical wild parties. The thing is, though, they made them SAFE. One or more members of the fraternity (depending on the size of said party) would take it in turns to bow out of the festivities in exchange for being a designated driver. They would recruit upstanding people from other fraternities and clubs just to help them ferry people back and forth from the campus.
One could say that they were only aiding the students in participating in illicit activities, but any right-minded person can tell you that the kind of person who's going to go to a party is going to go to the party whether they have a driver or not.
This is something we need to build on in our communities. I think there's a genuine need to allow the younglings into our nests, but we also need to do it in such a manner as their wings aren't irreversibly clipped. Identifying strong figures and enlisting their aid to keep events safe for all attendees is a good place to start. Then the enormous and fantastic trial of weeding out the carnivores... Of course, this may not be a problem since I've seen less of the carnivores in "real life" where there are real reprecussions to their actions.
This all said, if one were to undergo this task, one would also have to put down enough safegaurds to keep the "secret police" from becoming BDSM Gestapo.
Sigh, sometimes it's hard to be a responsible kink!
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