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ShaktiSama -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 8:29:50 AM)
To the OP only: "We do not see the world as it is. We see the world as we are." --Anais Nin. I agree wholeheartedly with the people who say that a man who could not find a domme in New York (much less a site the size of Collarme!) probably also couldn't find a priest in Rome or a whore in Bangkok. The problem is not with everyone else, OP. The problem is with you.

Tantriqu -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 8:54:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UnspeakableAxe Most of my female friends stay away from events and munches for the exact same reason. Most women in the lifestyle will never go to a minch or an event. If you go to the dominant women/submissive men's group you will see 20 men and 2 women at the average meetup. I have met many amazing women by going to events and munches, but few that were my type. 10:1 ratio at dominant women/submissive men groups: Woo HOO! Smorgasbord! I concur with Usako: lots of couples, creepy 40+ male computer geeks/libertarians with no grasp of social interaction at functions, and doms/switches/vanillas looking for a ho-'domme' experience. And Most women look at profiles; but we read something we don't like, we don't reply. F'r instance, if I see someone bitching without being amusing, they're going to be needy downers and not worth it; even if you don't feel it that day, you're going to catch more flies with honey than battery acid. I would say most people have been disappointed by people in anonymous forums such as CO; why dwell on it, and why should you feel entitled to? As to women who are 'your type', do they look like CatWoman looking for SAM's?

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 11:18:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UnspeakableAxe I moved to NYC specifically because the scene in the midwest was nil. I've been looking for quite some time. Years and years. I can feel the frustration making me jaded. If that's the case, then it's definitely your attitude that's holding you back. I live in Missouri. My boy lives in Kansas. I'm friends with a couple on this site, also from KS, who managed to find a female partner. If we can have success here and you can't in NYC...you are your own worst enemy. You need to do some serious soul-searching and figure out what it is about you that is turning women off. Because I promise it's you and not them.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 11:24:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan I live in Missouri. My boy lives in Kansas. Yeah, but -- unlike the OP -- you really are tall, attractive, smart and funny. It's times like these that I feel like a total dope because I Hard Limit vampirism.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 11:32:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan I live in Missouri. My boy lives in Kansas. Yeah, but -- unlike the OP -- you really are tall, attractive, smart and funny. It's times like these that I feel like a total dope because I Hard Limit vampirism. blush Aww...you're sweet. Thank you. I...uh...erm.... I'm short. As in 5 ft. 3 in. I hope I'm funny sometimes and I always try to speak with intelligence. And don't feel too bad about hard-limiting vampirism. Most people who list it as an interest, aren't the real deal. Blood fetishism is not vampirism but few understand the distinction. You're better off staying away from the majority of "vampires."

RedMagic1 -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 11:43:39 AM)
Okay, hijack city here, but what kind of vampire are you? My real hard limit is cutting, but that's not available as a profile interest. DV, PsyVamp and Master Fire all identify as vampires or psychic vampires, and they are all people I respect a lot, so I'm not going to diss the idea. (Basing one's life philosophy on poorly-written works of science fiction, on the other hand....) Sad thing, really, is that this isn't a hijack, it's an example of how to have an actual conversation with a (omg omg) dominant woman. Edited to add: Just so it is totally clear to anyone reading, Sylvere is in a relationship, and I am not interested in her "that" way.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 12:00:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 Okay, hijack city here, but what kind of vampire are you? My real hard limit is cutting, but that's not available as a profile interest. DV, PsyVamp and Master Fire all identify as vampires or psychic vampires, and they are all people I respect a lot, so I'm not going to diss the idea. (Basing one's life philosophy on poorly-written works of science fiction, on the other hand....) Sad thing, really, is that this isn't a hijack, it's an example of how to have an actual conversation with a (omg omg) dominant woman. I thought about sending you PM but you're right...this is a conversation with a DW. gasp O, the humanity! All kidding aside, it never hurts to teach by example, so here goes. I'm Leanan Sidhe. If you're not familiar with Celtic mythology, the Leanan Sidhe is similar to the Muses of Greece but she's also a vampire. She inspires artists and then feeds on the energy they produce as they create. In my case, I exchange spiritual energy with creative people. It's a form of psychic vampirism. No cutting or even blood involved. In fact, while blood tastes nice and I enjoy it occasionally, it does very little for me. It's more like icing on the proverbial cake. I need a "higher octane level" than blood can provide.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 12:09:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan In my case, I exchange spiritual energy with creative people. Well, hell, I've been doing that my whole life. Does that make me Taliesin?[;)] Thanks for the explanation. I sent you a facepic via cmail.

ANeed2ServeU -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 12:19:42 PM)
Hmmm, I guess I must be one of thse creepy guys over 40. But in reality, I'm not sure I'm ready to "come out" and play in the local clubs as a submissive. On the other hand, I would enjoy meeting/dating a dominant woman. However, it seems I too am not particularly geographically located.... But time will tell... and the search continues...

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 12:20:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan In my case, I exchange spiritual energy with creative people. Well, hell, I've been doing that my whole life. Does that make me Taliesin?[;)] Thanks for the explanation. I sent you a facepic via cmail. It might. Were you discovered, as an infant, by a guy fishing for salmon? [;)] You're welcome and thanks for the pic. Always nice to have a face to go with a screen name.

azropedntied -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 12:51:44 PM)
All i can say is YUMMY warm smiles .. Master Fire's energy is amazing ..nice post [:)] quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 Okay, hijack city here, but what kind of vampire are you? My real hard limit is cutting, but that's not available as a profile interest. DV, PsyVamp and Master Fire all identify as vampires or psychic vampires, and they are all people I respect a lot, so I'm not going to diss the idea. (Basing one's life philosophy on poorly-written works of science fiction, on the other hand....) Sad thing, really, is that this isn't a hijack, it's an example of how to have an actual conversation with a (omg omg) dominant woman. I thought about sending you PM but you're right...this is a conversation with a DW. gasp O, the humanity! All kidding aside, it never hurts to teach by example, so here goes. I'm Leanan Sidhe. If you're not familiar with Celtic mythology, the Leanan Sidhe is similar to the Muses of Greece but she's also a vampire. She inspires artists and then feeds on the energy they produce as they create. In my case, I exchange spiritual energy with creative people. It's a form of psychic vampirism. No cutting or even blood involved. In fact, while blood tastes nice and I enjoy it occasionally, it does very little for me. It's more like icing on the proverbial cake. I need a "higher octane level" than blood can provide.

Madame4a -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 3:13:58 PM)
hey mister... if you ever want to talk.. I'm big into blood.. on several levels, though I do not identify as a vampire..

RedMagic1 -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 3:21:37 PM)
Was that directed to me? Blood doesn't squick me. Sex during menstruation is no prob, tho I know some guys get all weirded out by it. I never figured that one out. I mean, kind of a package deal, right? She's got a vagina, good chance she's got a uterus. It's cutting I Hard Limit, for reasons I won't explain in this thread. Oh, and, Sylvere? I realized why I thought you were tall. It's because you are so ..... willowy! (Ba-dum-bum) [;)]

Madame4a -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/7/2008 3:30:25 PM)
yes.. directed at you.. but I'm just home from a long day on the bike... I'm about to join the boi in a bath... more tomorrow.. in private...

Mlicious -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/9/2008 6:46:09 PM)
I have not been through all of the responses but my thought is this: even at a party, a Domme can certainly take on more boys to meet and play with. I do it all of the time, and I have a sub of my own. The notion that a Domme is at a party with a date and somehow unavailable is quite vanilla. I was once the same way myself. When I got the guts to go to a party, I'd been chatting for a few months with a sub online. When I met slavekal at that same party, I wrote the online sub and - in vanilla fashion - informed him that I'd met somebody. I did the proper vanilla thing and told the guy I'd met someone. NOW, I regret losing touch with the guy, for I now know that I can have and play with as many boys as I want and I could have kept him. A Domme is not limited to the guy she showed up with. Keep it in mind and get out there to the parties.

Mlicious -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/9/2008 6:55:08 PM)
I went to my first bdsm party by myself and met a very fine sub.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/9/2008 7:23:27 PM)
Those were the days!! I remember the first time I saw you at a party, looking like a little Halle Berry clone in a fabulous dress..... Good to be queen, isn't it! <G>

mistressme32772 -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/9/2008 7:49:23 PM)
[sm=welcome.gif]to life, and aint it just grand! Sweet thing, wherever you meet a Domme or anyone else for that matter, just remember what Albert Einstein said, "Great Spirits Have Always Encountered Violent Opposition From Mediocre Minds". Now remember what this Mistress has to say..."If you free your A, your Mind will follow. If it doesn't, come to me and I'll give that A a swift kick in the Mind, mediocre or not!". Chin up Baby, we are out there looking for you, and you, and you too! Peace.....................MME..........................[8\|]

slavekal -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/9/2008 7:49:32 PM)
I have been to clubs in NYC. There are single women who show up. Go to a Footnight party there when they have one. I met a bunch of women and hung out with them a few years back. Don't neglect the women you meet in vanilla settings. You never can tell what is in their minds unless you get to really know them. I did a post about meeting a dominant woman on my blog a while ago. Check it out.

mztresn0w -> RE: Best Place To Meet Dominant Women. (6/9/2008 7:50:05 PM)
I have to agree with azropedntied. I don't understand why people think if they attend one or two events that a Domme or Dom is going to just fall into their lap. It is hard enough in the vanilla world to find the right partner. This isn't e-harmony. But it is a great site to meet people. I have meet alot of wonderful people in my area and all I am looking for is friendship.

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