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RE: Is this normal for Dom fathers to be? - 6/8/2008 8:47:37 AM

thespiritedsub

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I think that he is just being gentle with you because he doesnt want to harm the baby.

Explain to him that you miss those other things and maybe the two of you could come to a place where he feels comfortable and he feels comfortable....

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RE: Is this normal for Dom fathers to be? - 6/8/2008 8:51:22 AM

Archer

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In no way is his behaviour freakishly abnormal.
The man's entire view of his place in life is changing, (Talk about social conditioning how about the social conditioning crap that says a man shouldn't allow such things to change him).

It's a large mental conflict to shift thoughts from being a man in a relationship to being a Father, the social expectations along with the personal baggage that comes along with the change in roles is huge. We as western society do a poor job of prepareing our men for the life changes in general, let alone doing it when we are kinky.

I'll offer a small piece of advice for your Sir.
Time for a real serious internal inventory of values. Shifting to being a father from being a man, can often change the perspective on personal expectations, and values.
Tell him to take some time for himself to sit and think about how his values are changing and examining them in a maner that allows him to recognize the shifts and maybe think about if there may be a need to change the people/ characters he emulates, uses as a role model. Have him talk to men who have survived the transformation from man to father, and express the shifts in mindframe he's having.

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RE: Is this normal for Dom fathers to be? - 6/8/2008 8:59:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: scarlettjinx

While I do understand what he is saying, and he has never made me feel less beautiful or less loved, I really miss the rougher stuff.

I really hope you shared this with him!!! Before you decided to come to the boards!

This is an issue that you are only going to solve if you talk with him.... and if you not being completely honest to him.. you will be opening yourself to some heavy disappointment

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RE: Is this normal for Dom fathers to be? - 6/8/2008 5:23:02 PM

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Thank you all for your wonderful answers. We have infact talked at length about this, But we were both curious how this had worked with others in a similar relationship. I mostly wanted to reassure him that it is normal (I assumed it might be) But was also curious as to how other Dom fathers might feel about it. At the moment he is taking some much deserved time to himself to play some video games (he has worked 14 hour shifts nonstop for the past two weeks, FINALLY took a day off), but as soon as he is ready to get on here I plan on having him read this. Thank you so much!!

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