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i think that as a slave he should do it automatically, and as a neat freak he should also do it automatically.  he thinks that i should incorporate him picking up after me and tidying into our so-called sessions.  that i should use his weaknesses and his sub space to make him clean up around the house, basically that i shouldnt expect him to do anything, that i need to make it part of our play time.

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ORIGINAL: LadyMarmalade1

my slave and I have run into an issue.  (and in this case i think i am unfortunately using the term slave rather loosely),
this "issue" began as his alone, and he tried to communicate it to me, but it was hard for me to see it as a serious problem so i for the most part ignored it, which i admit, is my fault.
let me give the background.
we are both working full time. we have a 24-7 Ds relationship and are both very busy with work, family etc, and sometimes find it difficult to find time for Ds sessions.

I am also a person who isnt bothered by a mess (i am however bothered by dirtiness: banana peels left on the counter, mold in the bathroom etc).  I have no problem coming home from work at the end of the day and leaving my shoes in the entrance way and leaving my clothes on the bed.  I admit I am also quite absent minded, and when I make dinner *every* night, I almost always leave a cupboard door open.
another thing I should add is that when I am doing things (such as paper work, art projects, reading or anything that involves having things out) I almost always leave them out on the table for a few days and some times longer (in my opinion i will probably use them again).
my slave has issues with tidiness.  he needs everything to be put away all the time, he gets very irritated about me leaving things out.
one more example (and he claims there are many many more) is when we moved into this flat, there were some empty suitcases that (apparently I was responsible for) that i left on the floor in our bedroom.  i wasnt sure where to put them and wasnt bothered by having them out, so they stayed on the floor for quite a long time.

now, this is the problem that we need help with.  im not a neat freak, and my slave is.  i tell him that as a slave he should stop bitching about what i leave out and just put it away without complaining.  i think that as a slave he should do it automatically, and as a neat freak he should also do it automatically.  he thinks that i should incorporate him picking up after me and tidying into our so-called sessions.  that i should use his weaknesses and his sub space to make him clean up around the house, basically that i shouldnt expect him to do anything, that i need to make it part of our play time.

(another way of putting it is: if we get slave X off the street to serve us, he comes to my house and i should tell him what to do.  but with my slave, this flat belongs to both of us, and i think as another person living in this house with me, he should do things automatically. however he wants me to put a collar around his neck and beat him, so he associates it all as part of the session) 

my apologies for rambling on so much, i hope that our problem is understandable. we are looking for suggestions her on how we can find a happy medium to our differences.
thanks in advance
Lady Marmalade and her slave coca  

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ORIGINAL: LadyMarmalade1

now, this is the problem that we need help with.  im not a neat freak, and my slave is.  i tell him that as a slave he should stop bitching about what i leave out and just put it away without complaining.  i think that as a slave he should do it automatically, and as a neat freak he should also do it automatically.  he thinks that i should incorporate him picking up after me and tidying into our so-called sessions.  that i should use his weaknesses and his sub space to make him clean up around the house, basically that i shouldnt expect him to do anything, that i need to make it part of our play time.