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RE: Does submission always have to involve pain? - 6/12/2008 4:14:32 AM

Racquelle

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ORIGINAL: kittenpuss What is it about inflicting from a dom's point of view which is so appealing when you already have total power?

I get into a heightened adrenalin state when I am inflicting pain - but only when I am with soomeone who truly enjoys it. But I have had many subs who weren't into pain, and never received more than an occasional nip or fanny-swat. Especially with my femsubs, I find I often just want to cuddle them and love them all up like little kittens.

Being that I am a woman in the scene, I am pretty much alsways put upon by male doms and I politely explain that I do not find being in pain erotic, but rather, quite the opposite. I have had to repeat it a few times, and sometimes had to turn the question around and ask "Do YOU enjoy being corporally tortured?"

Be who you are, and don't allow anyone to pressure you or hassle you about what you don't personally enjoy. There's a big difference between testing limits in realms where you do find pleasure - and just getting stuck doing something that is no fun. (Like how many painsluts really like the torture of a long line at the DMV?)

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RE: Does submission always have to involve pain? - 6/12/2008 7:10:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: kittenpuss

So excuse the naviety of my question but I am just learning but what happens if you are a sub who finds the most erotic thing is to relenquish power and that's enough? You don't need to be punished in anyway as you've already given yourself in your entirety. All that punishment & pain seems to do is detract you from your state? What is it about inflicting from a dom's point of view which is so appealing when you already have total power?

OK, several questions buried in here so one at a time...

Are all submissives masochists? No.
Are all dominants sadists? No
Your thoughts on punishment indicate that you don't really understand it's purpose.
What is it about being a sadist that is appealing? You'd have to ask one, but I'm guessing it's a chocolate/vanilla thing. Why do you like subbing?

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