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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 4:14:08 AM   
Kasia


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ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures

P.S. This is damned odd; i have no ides why my post appears as a quote.

pinkpleasures

Nothing much, dear, it happens, sometimes one just get too much ot those tags, like *color*, *size* and so on, and one doesnt notice the text got entangled in *quotes*.

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 4:19:30 AM   
Kasia


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Status: offline 		I got it - you misplaced the / when you were finishing quoting me, it should be inside the tag and you somehow got it outside.
Instead of Kasia/[quote.] there should have been Kasia[/quote]

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 4:38:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		If I'm browsing profiles, I'm looking for indications that the author shares my views on service and desires a dynamic not unlike my own ideal. Kinks are irrelevant and so is physical attraction. Neither is a precursor, IMO, to a successful relationship.
I have found myself attracted to sexy minds cased within less than appealing bodies. For myself, attraction is based on compatability rather than physical attributes. I can appreciate a centerfold but I only want her if I can have her on my terms.
Kinks are irrelevant since the girl I am willing to make mine will accept that play is at my discretion. My dynamic is service-oriented rather than fetish-centered so I automatically screen out those who appear to have fetish-driven expectations. Spanking is fun but the laundry still needs to folded.
Timothy

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 4:45:53 AM   
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I got it - you misplaced the / when you were finishing quoting me, it should be inside the tag and you somehow got it outside.
Instead of Kasia/[quote.] there should have been Kasia


Kasia

Such smart women we have here...tyvm Kasia.

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 4:50:00 AM   
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Spanking is fun but the laundry still needs to folded.
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Ah...but housework is a hard limit for me, LOL.

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 4:58:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures

quote:

Spanking is fun but the laundry still needs to folded.
Timothy


Ah...but housework is a hard limit for me, LOL.

pinkpleasures


Which might well be an indication that the dynamic you're searching for is not that which I'm offering. This is one of the main reasons that I've made my profile here on collarme as extensive as I have, I want to give a realistic view of how my household operates. My intention is to be as frank as possibile and thereby avoid what I consider to be the most common misunderstandings.
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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 7:52:28 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures

quote:

Each person in the universe is awesomely different, sorry no clones, so how can anyone say one way to start a relationship is right or wrong, just not the way they might or would.

slavedesires


Perhaps i was unclear; my Op post had nothing to do with sustaining a relationship. Rather, it was about the selection process single (or poly) people use to decide whom to contact and not. In addition, my question was about that first contact..values or kinks or something entirely different?

pinkpleasures


What does quoting me and interpreting it for a a statement on "sustaining a relationship" cause such offense?

Each person in the universe is awesomely different, sorry no clones, so how can anyone say one way to START A RELATIONSHIP is right or wrong, just not the way they might or would.

blessings

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 8:06:20 AM   
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What does quoting me and interpreting it for a a statement on "sustaining a relationship" cause such offense?

Each person in the universe is awesomely different, sorry no clones, so how can anyone say one way to START A RELATIONSHIP is right or wrong, just not the way they might or would.

blessings

slavedesires


As far as i can tell, no one was offended by your post; others also said they were happily paired off and not searching. i posted what i did just to keep the thread on-track, as i am very interested in people's responses to the Op...it is still the stage i am at, as well as others...searching.

i don't think i said anything offensive to you, but if you were hurt, i am sorry.

pinkpleasures

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 8:22:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		so many times things typed can strike a person differently.If you don't think you said anything offensive, more than likely you didn't, im sure people know when they are being offensive as i would think it is done with purpose.
why apologize? especialy if you do not know why

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 10:26:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures
When choosing a partner...or considering one..i first and foremost want to know if they share my core values of integrity, honesty, faithfulness, self-control, not bigoted, votes, and others.


Ok.

quote:

ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures
The Men i speak with generally want to discuss kinks.


Ok.

quote:

ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures
i suppose neither way is superior to the other...


Correct. The order in which one evalutes a partner for all the things that might matter isn't important at all.

quote:

ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures
My question is: how do You (you) sort through profiles/emails and decide whom to respond to and whom to distance yourself from?


Intuition, experience, gut feeling.

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 1:43:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not to me...its seems like private business that shouldn't be on the boards, pinkpleasures has edited her post maybe you would think of doing the same.

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 2:00:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		What I look for are signs of life, as in intelligent life. How do they present themselves, do they seem honest, are they being cautious (a plus, actually), are they showing any signs of honor and integrity? Courtesy? If they write about kinks, are they doing so in a reasonable manner? Do we share the same kinks? I will reply to almost every message, even if to give a polite "thanks, not interested."

Part of the problem in replying to some profiles is the lack of a profile, only a list of kinks. In other cases, the problem is that the list becomes a limit, as in "you don't list X therefore you are not of interest to me" with never a check to see if X was there but not listed. I don't list everything I've done nor everything I am interested in learning. As for me, I look at both the list of kinks, but pay much more attention to the profile and try to respond in the manner suggested.

On the plus side, if I make a contact and start a discussion, I am on the way to meeting someone new who may become acquaintance or friend. They may introduce me to knew things or thoughts. My life is enriched. If it becomes more than that, great. Win-Win.

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 2:02:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Oumae

Not to me...its seems like private business that shouldn't be on the boards, pinkpleasures has edited her post maybe you would think of doing the same.

Oumae

I strongly agree.

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 2:25:30 PM   
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< Message edited by slavedesires -- 10/30/2005 4:06:50 PM >

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 2:47:57 PM   
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quote:

but sounds like a gossip lover to me....

Wrong......

i was not judging anyone.
you want edit you got it no problem



< Message edited by swtnsparkling -- 10/30/2005 3:23:17 PM >

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 5:32:11 PM   
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Wrong......

i was not judging anyone.
you want edit you got it no problem

swtsparkling


i think everyone loves gossip; it's just that we need to take care we are not peddling unsubstantied and destructive rumors. But if you wanna email me and tell me something, feel free.

pinkpleasures

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/30/2005 5:53:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		First she has to show intelligence and be well-spoken. We talk about values, likes, dislikes, and all that Life stuff and, if we're good, the kink talk just naturally fits into the conversation. I have some dealbreakers but values trump kink for me. When things are right, trumping is not an issue.

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/31/2005 1:47:00 AM   
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When choosing a partner...or considering one..i first and foremost want to know if they share my core values of integrity, honesty, faithfulness, self-control, not bigoted, votes, and others.


I like smart, driven, ambitious women that like to fight, compete and climb the ladder. Physically, they could be the second coming of Gillian Anderson or Kate Winslett, but if they lack intelligence, drive and ambition, they're not what I'm looking for....

And while drive and ambition are keys for me, too munch ambition would definitely be a hindrance. So the ambition really needs to be tempered.

Some of the other core values you mention, like faithfulness, honesty and integrity are also essential.



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RE: What Really Counts - 10/31/2005 2:35:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		There is No need to email to ask anything.
i am here reading the posts like everyone else. i read a post in reply to me and my comment was "hmm interesting" and nothing more-
i don't appreciate and it was wrong for anyone to then post and say i am a gossip lover or judging anyone. ( which is gone now btw) b/c i had a 2 word reply.
frankly i don't give a hoot- i dont know any of you. all i can say if you don't want comments then don't put it out there in the 1st place.
are we all cool with this now?

Have a sparkling day

< Message edited by swtnsparkling -- 10/31/2005 3:00:56 AM >

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RE: What Really Counts - 10/31/2005 4:36:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		ditto...........as to the rest, compatability......the rest lies in his power and my submission


quote:

ORIGINAL: swtnsparkling

Personally anyone who wants to start out talking about kinks, i simply do not continue with.



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