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ORIGINAL: SeeksOnlyOne
i said i cant believe you didnt ask him more questions.  his reply to me was-he told me she is dead-thats all i needed to know in order to be his friend through it.

gawd i hate when my kid teaches me a lesson.

dang brat.

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ORIGINAL: christine1

i've found with my son that the more questions i ask the worse it is for communication between us.  i ask a few questions, get the general idea of a situation and leave it at that.   most of the time, he'll come to me later and tell me more...if i push he doesn't respond, i'm learning not to push so much anymore.  it has taken me years to figure this out.

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ORIGINAL: Smith117

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ORIGINAL: christine1

i've found with my son that the more questions i ask the worse it is for communication between us.  i ask a few questions, get the general idea of a situation and leave it at that.   most of the time, he'll come to me later and tell me more...if i push he doesn't respond, i'm learning not to push so much anymore.  it has taken me years to figure this out.

This is a common lesson.

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ORIGINAL: Level
Agreed.
 
Men need to be able to talk, in their time frame.

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ORIGINAL: Level

Agreed.
 
Men need to be able to talk, in their time frame.

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ORIGINAL: Stusmobile
Ain't that the truth, most of us need time to straighten things out in our own minds before engaging our mouths ;)

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

This is so true.  Women I work with who have daughters all talk to them on the phone at least once a day, usually more often, in between visits, if they live nearby.  Those of us with sons, not so much, lol.   No, they call when they have something important to tell you, like they wrecked their car, they're practically on their deathbed with the flu and don't know which doctor their insurance will let them go to (like I know, I'm in another state), their girlfriend is pregnant...chatty stuff like that. [&:]

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

This is so true.  Women I work with who have daughters all talk to them on the phone at least once a day, usually more often, in between visits, if they live nearby.  Those of us with sons, not so much, lol.   No, they call when they have something important to tell you, like they wrecked their car, they're practically on their deathbed with the flu and don't know which doctor their insurance will let them go to (like I know, I'm in another state), their girlfriend is pregnant...chatty stuff like that. [&:]

I do not talk to my mother everyday. I would go insane.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Then why is it that my post chemo dad NEVER shuts up?  He went from silent guy to ENDLESS BULLSHITTER!! 

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ORIGINAL: Level
Men need to be able to talk, in their time frame.

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ORIGINAL: cyberdude611

It is well known that men are not as good as women in communication. And it is physiologically proven. Women have more neural activity in the areas of the brain that control communication and literacy. Women also do better than men at writing and learning a foreign language.

Why this is the case is reletively unknown. There however must be some sort of evolutionary reason female primates long ago gained a reproductive and survival advantage with those advanced communication skills. The going theory is that females were the primary caregivers. Those that were the most social and open to caring and support were able to take better care of their offspring theirfore their genetic material had a higher chance of survival. Males played a limited role in the development of their offspring, therefore the skill was never singled out.

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ORIGINAL: cyberdude611

It is well known that men are not as good as women in communicatio  (Now that's just not true....just because they don't understand me doesn't mean I ain't making perfectly good sense!) . And it is physiologically proven. Women have more neural activity in the areas of the brain that control communication and literacy. Women also do better than men at writing and learning a foreign language (okay, I won't debate this....since you're talking Greek here anyways).

Why this is the case is reletively (relatively) unknown. There however must be some sort of evolutionary reason female primates long ago gained a reproductive and survival advantage with those advanced communication skills (won't even). The going theory is that females were the primary caregivers (okay, that's really not a theory). Those that were the most social and open to caring and support were able to take better care of their offspring theirfore (therefore) their genetic material had a higher chance of survival. Males played a limited role in the development of their offspring, therefore the skill was never singled out. (Something tells me that the males had a fairly significant role here).