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boundinside -> Virginity issue (6/8/2008 4:53:54 PM)
Now for those of you that have seen my profile or that I have talked to, I have made it no secret that I am a virgin. My question is, does me being a virgin have any kind of impact on how people would approach or respond to me? Please don't limit this to the lifestyle itself, apply this to the vanilla life to.

PuPpYsLt4mAsTeR -> RE: Virginity issue (6/8/2008 4:56:45 PM)
I think virgins are easier to mold, honestly. Vanilla or the lifestyle, you can really start setting the bar with that information.

fluffyswitch -> RE: Virginity issue (6/8/2008 4:56:52 PM)
i know that other people will have other opinions but i was essentially virgin (i had played/interacted with women but didn't have sex with men) up until i met Him. most of the people i talked to/interacted with didn't see it as an issue or actually liked the thought. that doesn't mean that everyone will be happy with it, but i look at it the same way that i look at people who don't like my weight: if you don't like something about me it doesn't matter because i won't play with someone who won't accept me the way that i am. i don't think that it's so big a stumbling block that you won't find success with someone. good luck!

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Virginity issue (6/8/2008 4:58:14 PM)
a 20 yr old male virgin...is not a rare thing. i just hope virginity isnt contangious.... EEPS!!!

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Virginity issue (6/8/2008 5:02:28 PM)
By announcing it, you are essentially making it a big deal where it doesnt have to be. That might change how people would interact with you, for better or for worse. Both my boys were virgins when I met them, and Angel still is. I didnt know that until after we started talking, though, since it wasnt a big deal. Why is it important to bring up immediately, unless you refuse to have sex before marriage (like both my boys, Fox and I are engaged, so he bent his own rule a bit) or you are specifically looking for someone to change that. DV

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Virginity issue (6/8/2008 5:04:35 PM)
For some it will, either positive or negative. Some people don't want the emotional baggage they think comes from being someone's "first." Others love to be the one to boldly go where no one has gone before. For others, it won't matter one way or another. Your V-Card, or lack thereof, won't have any impact on their attraction to you.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Virginity issue (6/8/2008 5:14:27 PM)
saving what you are is a great thing and a rare thing may save it for the one true love can be something grand indeed

catherinew -> RE: Virginity issue (6/8/2008 5:22:40 PM)
I've found it a useful line when turning down offers for sex. "Oh, no sex, thanks. You see, I'm a virgin and I want my first time to be really special with someone I really truly love etc. etc. etc."

MrSpectacular -> RE: Virginity issue (6/8/2008 6:09:32 PM)
At least you get to sing that well known Madonna song to whom ever you meet when you are ready to give it up. One of my big regrets in life. N

JohnWarren -> RE: Virginity issue (6/8/2008 7:29:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl a 20 yr old male virgin...is not a rare thing. i just hope virginity isnt contangious.... EEPS!!! Don't worry, even if it is, it's easily and pleasantly curable

underworld026 -> RE: Virginity issue (6/8/2008 7:38:25 PM)
Hm, some people have a thing for being someone's first. But it really shouldn't matter, I think...

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Virginity issue (6/8/2008 8:09:04 PM)
Everything about you will effect how people approach and who is attracted versus who isn't. There are a lot of virgin hunters about, and a lot of anti-virgin types as well. It doesn't matter- what matters is THE ONE(s) you want to be in a relationship with.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Virginity issue (6/9/2008 2:18:31 AM)
I would approach you differently, yes. I would want to know why you were a virgin and how you saw that ending...and why. Master Fire

HalloweenWhite -> RE: Virginity issue (6/9/2008 3:20:07 AM)
No-one will know you're a virgin just by looking at you. And most people are too caught up in their own lives to even bother to try to work out what you are or are not. Don't worry about it.

Focus50 -> RE: Virginity issue (6/9/2008 3:38:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: boundinside Now for those of you that have seen my profile or that I have talked to, I have made it no secret that I am a virgin. My question is, does me being a virgin have any kind of impact on how people would approach or respond to me? Please don't limit this to the lifestyle itself, apply this to the vanilla life to. I'm about to turn 54 and hope to lose my virginity any year now.... Yet, with a quick read around the Forums, you'll notice most of the other Doms regard me as the all-knowing, chosen one of Dominant excellence. You just can't achieve that status while catering to your own dick's wants n needs.... As for you, I'd imagine most would wonder why you're making such a big deal about what you haven't done. That sounds a little creepy.... Focus.

MissMagnolia -> RE: Virginity issue (6/9/2008 3:45:50 AM)
OP, you've obviously taken that tidbit of info off your profile, but did have it there. Now you've brought it up in the forum. I think it's much more of an issue with you than it is with anyone else.

DominantJenny -> RE: Virginity issue (6/9/2008 5:44:36 AM)
FR In short, I seem to attract virgins. I don't particularly want to, but I don't particularly mind, either. Both experience and inexperience have their pros and cons, just a matter of knowing what the situation is so I can adjust accordingly. I don't think you need to make a big deal out of it...don't put pressure on yourself or on your potential partners. People who judge you...shrug...probably not the people you want to end up with anyway.

Dnomyar -> RE: Virginity issue (6/9/2008 6:53:16 AM)
Im like a virgin. I even have those big ass nipple cones.

LadyPhoenixRisen -> RE: Virginity issue (6/9/2008 7:12:12 AM)
I was a virgin up until right before I got into bdsm. I don't know how it is for men, but I was considered a conquest in the vanilla world. I am sure it makes things a bit different in how you are approached. My pup won't be having sex with me anyway, so on that I don't care if he is a virgin or not. Do I think it's more of a turn on? No, not really for me, though the thought of popping a guys ass cherry does have a sweet sort of ring to it [;)]. My pup isn't a virgin in either way and it doesn't weigh in on my feelings for him. I just personally enjoy the challenge of coming up with ways he hasn't been used, so I will get to be his first in many, many ways. Just do it when you are ready, if you are ready. When I finally did it I went looking for it, I was aching to have it, that's when I knew it was "safe" for me to finally do the deed. I have no regrets at all, make sure you can look back and say the same about your first time. Phoenix

abcbsex -> RE: Virginity issue (6/9/2008 7:55:22 AM)
I have a vanilla friend who is 19 and a virgin. She claims that most of her problems with relationships comes from the fact that the guys only want sex.. but I think it's because she almost brags about the fact that she won't do anything until marriage, then will do oral no problem... it confuses people just a bit. So that's my two cents from a vanilla viewpoint.

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