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It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 1:48:58 PM   
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Submissive men are very eager to please and submit to a large variety of acts.  Things that they are a bit ashamed to admit turn them on. Like sucking a strap on cock, or being smothered with ass, or being forced into panties and called humiliating names.  They enjoy this most of all if the woman gets off on it -- if she gets wet, he loves it.  That's really at the core of it right?

If a woman is able to use a man in a way that turns her on -- despite his pleasure -- he will enjoy it, if he is submissive.  If she likes to spank him, to call him names or make fun of his cock, or make him eat his own cum.  All those things, while not sexual all alone, will arouse and excite him and motivate him if it makes her wet or pleases her. 

It's very easy to understand that a man is motivated by a woman's wet pussy -- that acts he would otherwise not pursue are very attractive if they turn her on.  Ok -- but what if the acts are not fetish acts at all. What if, in fact, they are totally non sexual.  But they TURN HER ON!  They make her wet - she actually gets aroused, even pleasures herself because of it....but the act, really, is SO BORING to the man, he could care less? Then what?

Submissive men - those who want to make a woman wet -- what if her MAIN HOT BUTTON was seeing you complete a jigsaw puzzle? She got totally wet as you placed the pieces together?  And that's it. 

What if she got hot watching you draw stick figures?

What if what turned her on was seeing you sweep the garage?

If those were the acts - and the only acts - would you be an eager submissive?  Would you strive to do the acts in new ways, to surprise her? 

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 2:11:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		For the first part of the post, i can see doing something without complaint because she might enjoy it.  But there are a number of things that i would not enjoy, most of those in your list; or get turned on by; no matter how wet it made the dominant.  But that could just be because those kinds of things disturb me in a major way, and are often my hard limits.

But for the normal activities that you brought up later, where i wouldn't have to completely disassociate myself from the act to be able to even consider performing; i can see the possibility of getting aroused by the knowledge that she is getting turned on by it.

But i think the presumption that a submissive will get turned on by just about any act that arouses the dominant to be a gross generalization.  Sometimes one does something to make your dominant happy, without any positive reaction within yourself.


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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 2:18:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Whatever things boring non-sexual or sexual that turn her on, make me want to do them. Whatever pleases her pleases me.  That is what takes the whole "forced" issue out of whatever it is.  I am forced by my own desires to please her.
That is why I can have an orgasm from her having one even though I am not touched sexually.

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 2:44:03 PM   
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Submissive men - those who want to make a woman wet -- what if her MAIN HOT BUTTON was seeing you complete a jigsaw puzzle? She got totally wet as you placed the pieces together?  And that's it. 

What if she got hot watching you draw stick figures?

What if what turned her on was seeing you sweep the garage?

If those were the acts - and the only acts - would you be an eager submissive?  Would you strive to do the acts in new ways, to surprise her? 

Akasha



YKINMK likely applies for most people on both sides of the isle to those examples.  If a sub said that his/her biggest kinks were sweeping the garage, doing crossword puzzles, an drawing stick figures; but only those things... Most dominants would scratch their head and wish them luck.  If a dominant said those were the things that really turned them on, and it was limited to only those things like your post mentions, most submissives will probably wish you luck in your search.

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 2:50:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ugh this is so in my head. Theoretically, in a nutshell I want what she wants but there's a loop to close as well. 
 
If she likes 52 card pickup, I'm there. If she likes pouring water on me and watching me dry, that's my lifes mission. If paying bills and balancing the checkbook turns her crank then that's my new thing.
 
But there's a price to pay and a loop to close.
 
I want to hear "Watching you pick up those cards because I told you to makes me wet."
 
Or, "The way your hair dries after I spray you with a hose gets me off."
 
"You are such a Good Boy for checking that column of numbers like I asked." OMFG I'm tearing up with joy just writing it.
 
So I've got to have that verbal payoff. Does that make me a theoretical "do me" sub?

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 3:31:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		You've been very prolific in the boards lately, Ma'am. All good stuff, as usual. As a matter of fact, i have a little experience with this, housekeeping. And i don't mean nude or in a maid uniform, just maintaining a perfect home turned Her on. Not compulsively neat & clean, just normal. The extra bit was to spend the time to get things just right once. After that i could blitz through the whole exercise quickly, which was pleasing.


Not the only act, but an important one. That relationship was non-sexual, and i was eager, so i guess that fits Your bill.

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 5:38:30 PM   
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Makes no difference to me!

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 5:44:50 PM   
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So I've got to have that verbal payoff. Does that make me a theoretical "do me" sub?


No, that makes you normal. Subs have needs, too!

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 5:49:48 PM   
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What if she got hot watching you draw stick figures?


Then she'd be in a constant state of orgasmic bliss. ;)

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 5:58:56 PM   
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If those were the acts - and the only acts - would you be an eager submissive?  Would you strive to do the acts in new ways, to surprise her? 


i expect i would be very eager at first. After the novelty wore off, i would probably try to work out some way that we could both get enjoyment from it, probably through incorporating bondage.

i also think i'd feel a certain amount of power from being able to create arousal through an act that caused no particular reaction in me- that i could start and stop at will, and lose nothing by doing so. i'm not sure that i'd be comfortable with that in a relationship where i was otherwise submissive... That would probably prevent me from doing much in the way of initiating.

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 6:45:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Fans Self on this tread  ooh my .. And your right Aakasha Ma'am service  and bdsm D/s is that proverbial two way street good for the goose good for the gander ideal  . I used to think and sometimes still do that i short change the Dommes in the fact that i get so much pleasure from what it is i get .I often wonder do i give as much joy as i am getting , and its posts like this that help in the line of thinking . I once asked my former Mistress what can or have i done that can bring you as much joy and pleasure as you bring to me?
Her answer made me take a back for a moment , she said when i clean the home we shared , do the dishes in tight shorts , when i sweat to wash the windows and floors while she gazed at me doing those tasks always made her HOT  ! and it was such simple tasks too .Then she said too it was the little things i did like doing tasks with out a prompt , and pampering her  like a simple foot massage after she had a hard day that also made her "wet " and eager to pull out the BDSM tools .
Thanks for letting me reflect and thanks for sharing .Good post !

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 7:05:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not entirely.  A woman can seduce me into getting excited about things I don't usually like if it turns her on, but there are limits.  Especially if the thing she is really into is a huge turnoff for me.  Makes it a lot harder.  Your dog wants to please you, but if you want an energetic hunting dog to be a lap/sofa dog, he will eventually be unhappy.

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 8:22:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think that all this MIGHT be true for someone who is totally sexually motivated. As much as we joke and laugh about men being just this, I find that the men I enjoy aren't, for the most part, sexually motivated. In fact, if I can control them sexually, I tend to loose respect for them.

But, I totally love, and get a thrill from, people who do things just because it makes me happy and they wish to serve.

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 11:02:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would definitely be turned on if those acts turned her on! It is what being a sub/slave is about. I guess it's just a matter of internal wiring for me.

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/9/2008 11:28:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yeah.  When I dare to fantasize about such things, I dream of finding a man who works like that. 

In reality, the best I could hope to find is someone not so completely wrapped up in their own kinks that they still occasionally think of mine  



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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/10/2008 5:07:25 AM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		How about a man who is totally hetero?  Milady likes to see guys do each other, but for me, that is of zero interest.  I really doubt I could ever be excited by the idea of a guy slamming me in the ass no matter how much it turns her on.

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/10/2008 6:13:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		apparently i am HAWT when i am washing the dishes, mopping, hand washing and ironing...i can be wearing anything...baggy gray sweats...she doesn't even have to watch - incredible - go figure      

seriously though...a lawyer domme (tough ones, be assured) i knew when i lived in the deciduous north was really turned on by logsplitting...all summer on almost every saturday morn (honey, another cord?) i loved doing things for her - was never bored especially by this
she would lay on a lounge in the shade and watch me work at it shirtless...carry and stack - no words -  hiding behind her shades - said she was hot for backs...but think it was more, bet she watched a neighbor boy as a young woman and found it hot  - or something good about work that prepares for hard times...curing it in the sun  - but we rarely used the wood in the winter

chopping is hard and dirty work...not just clean chips on face and chest  - gritty dirt on the chest from the carry, mixed with sweat...wood is heavy and leaves marks - looked so forward to saturdays though...immediatly after she rode me hard on the kitchen floor - chips, sandpaper feel to my chest, rough -  never so aggressively  - but during this was gone from me...eyes closed, in another world - said she loved the smell of a man...always wondered though because it was so strong and she was gone so long after

had to mop the kitchen after too but didn't get the same reaction  

but then there was that brier patch back there too...begged her not to throw me there...think she listened? 

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/10/2008 6:57:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		Submissive men engage in acts of submission for a variety of reasons, of which sexual excitement of the domme is one. Any given act might be motivated by a single reason, or a combination of reasons.

That a domme enjoys a given activity certainly has its value. The joy she finds in it does not have to be sexual joy. To me, the facial expression is more powerful, sexually and otherwise, than the wetness. Female arousal from an activity might arouse a man and motivate him to engage in said activity, or he might engage in it without an arousal only for her sake, or he might not engage in it at all if it is a limit.

I consider D/s compatibility to exist when two people have reasonably common ideas about how to express the D/s roles. The examples given--that the only activity is to do a jigsaw puzzle and the like--suggests weak or no D/s compatibility to me under the circumstances described.

I consider the example activities not so much D/s but unusual fetishes. To participate in a fetish for sake of another could come from compliance or compassion (the desire to please your partner). A relationship in which this activity is the only activity seems to me to come more from compassion.

How eager I would be to engage in an activity that arouses the woman would depend on the relationship and how I feel about the woman. My desire to please comes from different places rooted in romantic, spiritual, and masochistic components of submission. In general, my style leans towards compassion (wanting to please a partner) and what changes with how I feel about the woman is the threshhold for the types of activity.

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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/10/2008 7:25:24 AM   
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So I've got to have that verbal payoff. Does that make me a theoretical "do me" sub?


No, that makes you normal. Subs have needs, too!


*feeling better now* i suppose that makes me normal too. needing some kind of, payout for lack of a better term.

But doing other things like cleaning the house, bathroom, etc. are all things that if it made a Woman wet and wanton with lust, would cause a physical reaction and excitement on my part. Would make it more difficult to concentrate on the work at hand though...


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RE: It makes him hard because it makes you wet. Right? - 6/10/2008 7:28:08 AM   
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I would definitely be turned on if those acts turned her on! It is what being a sub/slave is about. I guess it's just a matter of internal wiring for me.

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