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atursvcMaam -> Red Flags? (6/9/2008 10:55:21 PM)
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There are certain things that i view, upon entering a new relationship, that i see as red flags, big time.
If my prospective mate has, in a profile "Abandon Hope, all ye who enter here, such expectations are foolishly audacious" i might be likely to see that as both a challenge, and as a warning of intent.
If in the process of trying to find out more about this partner, i was met with evasion (Don't ask about my background) or insults (How dare you question my perfection?) to basic questions, like are you married? and do you have any children? At this point, i start to wonder what truth is being hidden.
If my mate won't wear leather or any of the other trappings of the community, i might find that a bit unusual, but this would not, in and of itself be a deal breaker. Getting touchy at answering "Why, Your highness?" would, again, be seen as a challenge, and possibly a warning of intent.
If avenues of communication were shut down it would cause great concern, and ultimately would break the deal, and tell me that it would be considerably wiser to look elsewhere. Sanity having left earlier, the question of safety here would shut down the consent fairly quickly.
If you choose to respond to this thread, please keep your thoughts pure, and your mind open. Threads that have asked questions in a certain area seem to have disappeared quickly. i look, and wonder whether someone has gone overboard in response, or if someone has irritated the thread editorial Gods.
When does one look carefully, and say "Darn it, Lucifer looks like an angel, came from heaven, speaks like an angel" why did i not notice the "I'd rather rule in Hell than Serve in Heaven?"
Please understand, any relation to persons living or dead are almost purely coincidental.
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