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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I can be dominated by someone whom I do not love.  But I won't feel a deep emotional attachment to that person.  I do need to have a level of affection and trust.  If I waited to fall in love before I allowed someone to dominate me I'd be a lonely person.  I don't fall in love at first sight.

I feel you're right here, and yes I do feel lonely at times, because it's such a bitch to find that one who perfectly fit the bill.
No I don't fall in love at first sight either,
but to play with 'just people' whom I like isn't satisfying for Me,
one bit.

So I was wondering how other people do that,
or if I simply look into the wrong way.

Thank you for your answer.

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`

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ORIGINAL: christine1

i can't and won't submit if i don't love the dominant i'm submitting to.  i tried the no love thing and it didn't work for me. 

I fully understand
where you're coming from, but it's not always easy
to find that one who wants the same or is it?

Thanks for your answer.

GoddezzT`

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

I didn't need love to submit, but the one I submitted to had to be someone I was dating. If a guy refused to be seen with me in public, he was not worthy of my submission. I had better things to do with my time than be treated like a married man's secret mistress. Of course now I have Sir and he loves me.

I so can relate to what you're saying there,
I feel this way with My married sub..
Although it's out in the open that he is involved in the scene
etc. I still feel like the secret in his life, and that feeling sucks.
I would want to own everything of My sub,
heart & soul.

Yep am a silly romantic, and won't ever change.
That's how I feel it should b.
Oh well it will come one day.

Thanx for your responds.

GoddezzT`

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ORIGINAL: HizBabyGirl

I have come to the same conclusion that you have apparently. Without love and commitment it is too hollow for my taste. One cannot give of themselves to any great degree in a shallow relationship, for one thing it is not safe. The more commitment and connection there is, the deeper the level of play and the deeper the emotional growth and bond between the two.

Sooooo, I'm with you!

I understand, there are many people,
and each has their own opinion about this subject,
as it's clear in the responds, and it's good to read,
but also to hear that there are people out there
who simply feel the same.

Am not an alien afterall .
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Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`