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cjan -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 6:48:53 PM)

I disagree, peachy. It's the same as asking, "what do women want' ? You'll get as manydifferent answers as there are respondents. I think , perhaps, a more relevant question might be, what do you want in a man? Only you know the answer to that, and what you want is as unique as you are. Generalities in these types of ponderings aren't very useful, imo.



FirmhandKY -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 6:56:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kittinSol

Seriously, if I was a man I'd feel a tiny wee bit patronised by this thread. Talk about generalisations!


No, you are wrong.  I seriously doubt any man will feel patronized, because we are telling you women the truth.

Most of you just have a difficult time believing how simple a man is, emotionally, and how easy it is to really keep him satisifed.

1. Sex,
2. Good food,
3. Appreciation (include "love" in here if you want).

Emotionally, most sane men are putty in a woman's hands (well, depending on what the hands are doing ....).  Too many women over-analyze, look for "clues" and "indications" and all that crap.

If a man says he's hungry ... feed him.

If a man says he's horny ... fuck him (or give him  a bj).

If a man has worked hard, or is down ... pat him on the bottom and let him know you appreciate all his efforts.

Instant  male version of bliss.

Firm



hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 6:56:16 PM)

CJ, I've asked myself repeatedly what it is that *I want From males.
 
I've come up with so many different answers, dependant upon when I was asking - my mood, what's been going on in life, etc ad nauseum - that I've about gotten to the point of no longer asking.  Some things have remained constant.   Unfortunately, I keep getting told that the qualities I feel a guy MUST have in order to maintain my interest (as something other than an amusing sex toy) are unrealistic.  I get told frequently that I've set the bar to high, and therefore finding a male with all of the necesary qualities is a pipe dream.
 
I suppose that my ultimate hope in posting this thread is to get a bit of input from people who do not have a vested interest in telling me what they Think I want to hear, instead of what they actually believe.



hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:00:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY
No, you are wrong.  I seriously doubt any man will feel patronized, because we are telling you women the truth.
  I for one truely Appreciate the honest input!

quote:

Most of you just have a difficult time believing how simple a man is, emotionally, and how easy it is to really keep him satisifed.

1. Sex,
2. Good food,
3. Appreciation (include "love" in here if you want).

Emotionally, most sane men are putty in a woman's hands (well, depending on what the hands are doing ....).  Too many women over-analyze, look for "clues" and "indications" and all that crap.
  While I don't like to admit it (especially in a thread I started myself lol) that may very well be part of my frustration factor.  I won't know until I have time to think about the various answers that are being given.  (Hm.. or would thinking about the answers qualify as more over analyzing?)




Real_Trouble -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:02:02 PM)

That would depend how you think about things.

I would also suggest that it would be unwise to paint all men with the same brush; the first thing that leaps out at me about the answers is that they are not all identical.  If you try to platonify things too much, you lose the important nuances.



lusciouslips19 -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:02:03 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY

quote:

ORIGINAL: kittinSol

Seriously, if I was a man I'd feel a tiny wee bit patronised by this thread. Talk about generalisations!


No, you are wrong.  I seriously doubt any man will feel patronized, because we are telling you women the truth.

Most of you just have a difficult time believing how simple a man is, emotionally, and how easy it is to really keep him satisifed.

1. Sex,
2. Good food,
3. Appreciation (include "love" in here if you want).

Emotionally, most sane men are putty in a woman's hands (well, depending on what the hands are doing ....).  Too many women over-analyze, look for "clues" and "indications" and all that crap.

If a man says he's hungry ... feed him.

If a man says he's horny ... fuck him (or give him  a bj).

If a man has worked hard, or is down ... pat him on the bottom and let him know you appreciate all his efforts.

Instant  male version of bliss.

Firm



I think this is true. I remember seeing a humrous thing on the difference between men and women. The "how to make a woman happy", well there was a list of 100 thuings like talk to her, listen to her,  bring her flowers and on and on the list went. For men, this was the list: 1. Come naked 2. Bring beer.



Real_Trouble -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:03:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19
I think this is true. I remember seeing a humrous thing on the difference between men and women. The "how to make a woman happy", well there was a list of 100 thuings like talk to her, listen to her,  bring her flowers and on and on the list went. For men, this was the list: 1. Come naked 2. Bring beer.


Amusing, but I'll say if someone tried that with me, I'd dump them instantaneously.

Though, perhaps by FHKY's definition, I'm an insane male.

[;)]



Level -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:04:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: hizgeorgiapeach

.  (Hm.. or would thinking about the answers qualify as more over analyzing?)




[8|]

[:D] It could be..... but, thinking is not a bad thing. Hard to find that balance between it and over-thinking, sometimes.
 
Most men don't want a mindless drone, but they don't want their opinions discounted or devalued, either.



lusciouslips19 -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:05:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Real_Trouble

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19
I think this is true. I remember seeing a humrous thing on the difference between men and women. The "how to make a woman happy", well there was a list of 100 thuings like talk to her, listen to her,  bring her flowers and on and on the list went. For men, this was the list: 1. Come naked 2. Bring beer.



Amusing, but I'll say if someone tried that with me, I'd dump them instantaneously.

Though, perhaps by FHKY's definition, I'm an insane male.

[;)]



So what if I came naked  and brought Cabernet?



hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:06:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Real_Trouble

That would depend how you think about things.

I would also suggest that it would be unwise to paint all men with the same brush; the first thing that leaps out at me about the answers is that they are not all identical.  If you try to platonify things too much, you lose the important nuances.



No, there are a lot of nuances to many of the responces so far.  Which, oddly enough, actually helps.  The fact that this is Not drawing stock answers, blithe nonsense like "shut up and bring me a beer", or two word ill concieved jokes - really makes me feel better about having posted this.  I felt a bit of trepidation originally, because I was worried that it would devolve into just such.



cjan -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:07:53 PM)

I don't know you, peachy, so I have no idea whether your idea of what you want in a man is unrealistic or not. On the other hand, I think settling for something that can't satisfy you and make you ha[ppy is a deadend mistake.

I think what Firm and a few others are trying to say is something to consider. Maybe you are making things harder than they have to be. Men, generally, are not very complex critters. Perhaps that's why I, generally, prefer the company of women. Go figure...



MissMagnolia -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:08:52 PM)

Lushy? Naked? I haven't read the thread, I just saw Lushy and naked in the same post.[:D]



Real_Trouble -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:08:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

So what if I came naked  and brought Cabernet?



I don't drink, I dislike unexpected visitors, and what matters most to me is the psychological side of kink in conjunction with the physical.

So no.

quote:

No, there are a lot of nuances to many of the responces so far.  Which, oddly enough, actually helps.  The fact that this is Not drawing stock answers, blithe nonsense like "shut up and bring me a beer", or two word ill concieved jokes - really makes me feel better about having posted this.  I felt a bit of trepidation originally, because I was worried that it would devolve into just such.


Just give it some time!



DomAviator -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:09:56 PM)

There are few problems of male life that cannot be solved with a blowjob and a beer... [:D]

Also and I say this only partly in jest - you know why we men like blowjobs so much? Because when our dick is in her mouth she isnt TALKING! No "Does this make my ass look fat?"or  "why dont you like my mother?" or "Do you think Tina is sexy?" or "Oh My God I have got to tell you what happened to Brenda!" or "Kevers, the flight waitress is mean to me and they stoled my luggage! My churches chicken is in there and they said they already put it on the other plane!!!"  



lusciouslips19 -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:11:30 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hizgeorgiapeach

quote:

ORIGINAL: Real_Trouble

That would depend how you think about things.

I would also suggest that it would be unwise to paint all men with the same brush; the first thing that leaps out at me about the answers is that they are not all identical.  If you try to platonify things too much, you lose the important nuances.



No, there are a lot of nuances to many of the responces so far.  Which, oddly enough, actually helps.  The fact that this is Not drawing stock answers, blithe nonsense like "shut up and bring me a beer", or two word ill concieved jokes - really makes me feel better about having posted this.  I felt a bit of trepidation originally, because I was worried that it would devolve into just such.


But this is the core and my Sir has talked about it more than once. He says when women ask a man,"what are you thinking?' and he says, "nothing", He means it. Women are always over analyzing men. They do not overthink things like a women. You tell them something they take it at face value. They dont fester over things trying to find deeper meaning in whats said. They sleep better at night because they dont have their wheels spinning all the time like women. Their emotions dont cloud them.



TreasureKY -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:15:02 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hizgeorgiapeach

...(Hm.. or would thinking about the answers qualify as more over analyzing?)



Yes. 

You have your answer... right in front of you, plain and simple.  The men who have posted here aren't lying to you.  They aren't giving you vague, philisophical clues that must be pondered before you understand the answer.  They have very clearly spelled out what they want in very basic terms.  It really is that simple. 

Psst... By the way, the blowjob thing really can't be stressed enough.  [;)]




Irishknight -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:16:01 PM)

I think you'll notice that I defined "knows her place."    She knows who she is and where she fits into the world.  It has nothing to do with my dominance or her dominance.  Its about knowing herself.  For instance, my wife "knows her place."  She is an Alpha female married to an Alpha male.  She is my left brain, the half of me that sees the complicated as simple.  I am her right brain, I see the complicated as fuckin hard and find the simple solutions where they apply.  She knew who she was when we met.  She wasn't trying to "find herself."
If we find a sub that we both like, I don't have the time to help her on some deep soul searching journey.  I need a woman who knows who she is, where she's at and where she plans to go.   I don't want a woman in my life who is just a piece of furniture or sexercise equipment.
Better explanation?



christine1 -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:16:32 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DomAviator

There are few problems of male life that cannot be solved with a blowjob and a beer... [:D]

Also and I say this only partly in jest - you know why we men like blowjobs so much? Because when our dick is in her mouth she isnt TALKING! No "Does this make my ass look fat?"or  "why dont you like my mother?" or "Do you think Tina is sexy?" or "Oh My God I have got to tell you what happened to Brenda!" or "Kevers, the flight waitress is mean to me and they stoled my luggage! My churches chicken is in there and they said they already put it on the other plane!!!"  


lol, here DA, have a beer.  why the heck do you think we women are always pushing beer on men?  when that bottle is up to your lips, (no symbolism there, nope), you can't complain much either.



hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:17:38 PM)

DA  - nah.. I'm not gonna say it  (prudence being the better part of valor at times, and all that)
CJ - you mentioned having no clue what it is that I would want, since you don't know me.  I make it easy for the males around me to know what to expect, both in this profile and the profiles I maintain on other "hook-em-up" sites. 

quote:

What is it, ultimately, that I want out of a partner? Respect, loyalty, integrity, responcibility, maturity...... wrapped up in humor, the capacity to keep things in perspective, and an adventerous spirit.


Now personally, I've never considered that particular list to be unreasonable or unattainable.  It is, after all, simply what I expect from myself Towards a partner.



hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/11/2008 7:19:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Irishknight
Better explanation?


The clarification is much appreciated.



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