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kittinSol -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/12/2008 8:30:11 AM)

Kachink.



celticlord2112 -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/12/2008 8:43:18 AM)

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PS. Two of the most destested sentences that a woman can say to a man are:

1. Do you love me?
2. We need to talk.

Don't forget the endless variations on "Do I look good in this outfit?"



FirmhandKY -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/12/2008 8:46:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: hizgeorgiapeach

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PS. Two of the most destested sentences that a woman can say to a man are:

1.  Do you love me?
2.  We need to talk.

1.  Either he does or he doesn't - if I'm not astute enough to figure it out without asking, there are larger problems going on.
2.  This one I've said a few times, along with "can I talk to  you about something?" as an alternative.  If the communication is so lacking that I Need to preface a conversation like that - chances are I should simply walk in and tell him "It's over, I don't think it can be fixed any longer.  Time for one of us to leave."


It's not that a woman can't say them, if they are needed, it's just that when she does, what goes off in a man's head (or it should), is flashing red lights and blaring horns, with a voice over of "Danger! Will Robinson, Danger!"

On the outside, he may not even blink.

1. "We need to talk."

If you wanna talk ... about WHAT fer Christ sakes?  Be specific.  If you can't be specific, then don't say "We need to talk."  What's the purpose of warning me that we are going to talk about something?  Whatever reason the woman thinks, to the man, it gives him hours or days to wonder: "What the hell did I screw up?"  It puts him in a state of stress and tension.

Not conducive to a happy and satisfied man.

2. Do you love me?

Ask it the first time in your relationship, when it's really, really important to know.  Ask ONE TIME. If you get a "yes", then it's "yes" from then on.  If it's "no", then it's "no" and asking it again and again is NOT the way to change his mind, although he may give you the answer you want to hear if you are particularly good in the sack department.

Don't accuse him of lying, later, when he finally tells you he doesn't love you, and never did.  From a man's point-of-view, you lied to yourself.

Firm



lusciouslips19 -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/12/2008 9:00:07 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DomAviator

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

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ORIGINAL: DomAviator

LMFAO So right firm ... See this is the thing of translation from female. If I tell a woman In a bar "So how about a blowjob" that means "Would you suck my dick?" but some women hear it as "I really like you! I think you would complete my life. Will you come redecorate my house? How soon can you start moving stuff in? How many children shall we have? What do you think of Tanner for a boy and JordanLee for a girl? Would you like copies of my credit cards? Whats your ring size?Do you like "Up Where We belong" how would that be for our first dance? Where shall we honeymoon....."


If a man in  a bar said,"how about a blowjob", I would be thinking and overanalyzing.

Should I slap him across the face or throw my drink at him? Nah, good waste of liquor.Should I knee him in the groin or just walk away? Should I find a big burly guy to make puppydog eyes at to kick the shit out of him and defend my honor? Nah then that guy would expect a BJ. What would the trajectory be and how could I best accomodate my desire to put a few ring prints on his face,

yes, the wheels would be spinning and turning. Who knows what will happen to the poor sucker. I do pity the fool who knows nothing about women and how best to achieve the desire of said blowjob. yes, yes, the problem with men is their simple brain and how they think that woman respond to the same stimuli as men.

If he was smart and saw the evil glint in my eye. he would run if he new what was good for him.....


Yep and I have had drinks thrown in my face, and I have been slapped... [:D] Then someone better looking than the one who turned me down usually comes over because the female curiosity just causes them to want to know what the bad boy could have possibly have said to elicit that reaction.[:D]

However surprising this may seem, more often than not in the right kind of bar - that question results in a woman sucking you off in a mens room stall, or in your car... And Lucious, not to offend, but in my case in at least 9 occassions those who applied the chapstick and eagerly dove in were teachers... A substantial number of women appreciate the honesty and directness. They came to the bar looking for dick, and Im offering a slab of it and what can I say, chicks dig confidence.


Yea? How much did she charge?



Icarys -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/12/2008 9:20:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: hizgeorgiapeach

And yet, no really satisfactory answer has ever been given.  I probably shouldn't post this while I'm having a "not even Lemonaide" day, but since it's a factor in what has made today (and this week) so frustrating, I'm going to anyway.
 
What is it, Honestly, that men want?  I don't mean "what do sub men want" or "what do dom men want" - because frankly, that is the easy part.  The subs (both male and female) want someone to take charge.  The doms (again both male and female) want someone to take charge Of.  All well and good, but completely irrelevant to what it is that I'm having a hard time figuring out.
 
What is it that males - regardless of orientation towards dom/sub - want out of women?
 
Is it Eyecandy and Sex?  (not necessarily in that order)
Or is it something that not even males can explain in a satisfactory manner?
 
While I was much (Much) younger, I asked my father - as the  male who was closest to me - what it is that men want.  His answer was fairly straightforward, but the older I get, the more I question whether it's still relevant, and whether it was even really Relevant to anyone other than himself when he gave me this answer:   "Men want Betty Crocker in the Kitchen, June Cleaver in Public, and The Happy Hooker in the bedroom."  After saying that, he refused to elaborate further.  Was he right?  Was he wrong?  Am I simply to frustrated right now with males in general for the answer to make much difference?

that saying, in one form or another has been around for how long?that in itself might suggest it could be somewhat true..at least to some of us..i might add that to figure out what possibly the other sex wants..just ask what it is that your looking for, then you'll know some of the likely answers.



lusciouslips19 -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/12/2008 12:36:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DomAviator

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

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ORIGINAL: DomAviator

LMFAO So right firm ... See this is the thing of translation from female. If I tell a woman In a bar "So how about a blowjob" that means "Would you suck my dick?" but some women hear it as "I really like you! I think you would complete my life. Will you come redecorate my house? How soon can you start moving stuff in? How many children shall we have? What do you think of Tanner for a boy and JordanLee for a girl? Would you like copies of my credit cards? Whats your ring size?Do you like "Up Where We belong" how would that be for our first dance? Where shall we honeymoon....."


If a man in  a bar said,"how about a blowjob", I would be thinking and overanalyzing.

Should I slap him across the face or throw my drink at him? Nah, good waste of liquor.Should I knee him in the groin or just walk away? Should I find a big burly guy to make puppydog eyes at to kick the shit out of him and defend my honor? Nah then that guy would expect a BJ. What would the trajectory be and how could I best accomodate my desire to put a few ring prints on his face,

yes, the wheels would be spinning and turning. Who knows what will happen to the poor sucker. I do pity the fool who knows nothing about women and how best to achieve the desire of said blowjob. yes, yes, the problem with men is their simple brain and how they think that woman respond to the same stimuli as men.

If he was smart and saw the evil glint in my eye. he would run if he new what was good for him.....


Yep and I have had drinks thrown in my face, and I have been slapped... [:D] Then someone better looking than the one who turned me down usually comes over because the female curiosity just causes them to want to know what the bad boy could have possibly have said to elicit that reaction.[:D]

However surprising this may seem, more often than not in the right kind of bar - that question results in a woman sucking you off in a mens room stall, or in your car... And Lucious, not to offend, but in my case in at least 9 occassions those who applied the chapstick and eagerly dove in were teachers... A substantial number of women appreciate the honesty and directness. They came to the bar looking for dick, and Im offering a slab of it and what can I say, chicks dig confidence.


I'm wondering...if you are such a god among men, why are you here? Also, willing to accept an online romance?

Its easy to talk a big game when you are anonymous, with no picture or way to have a track record be proven. For all we know you are a 5 foot tall balding man with 5 screaming kids and a wife named Atilla.



DomAviator -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/12/2008 7:17:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19


I'm wondering...if you are such a god among men, why are you here? Also, willing to accept an online romance?

Its easy to talk a big game when you are anonymous, with no picture or way to have a track record be proven. For all we know you are a 5 foot tall balding man with 5 screaming kids and a wife named Atilla.


Why you offering? LOL Several people here have seen my picture. There is no need to put it out there for all.... If youre interested in me drop me a note and maybe we can hook up... [:D] You would be one happy happy girl...



Real_Trouble -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/12/2008 7:48:20 PM)

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I'm wondering...if you are such a god among men, why are you here?


I'll throw my two cents in here, because that's a question I've been asked before, even though I know it wasn't specifically directed at me this time; I suspect there are others in the same boat and perhaps I can elucidate this for a group (or perhaps not, we'll see!).

Reason being that hearing that rubs me the wrong way; why wouldn't someone be here, after all?

After all, I understand the value of luck.  Social exposure is a very tricky thing.  Maybe I will go for no more than ten minutes before meeting someone I want to have some kind of relationship with.  Maybe I will go for years.  Social interactions are unpredictable, and the best way to stack the odds in your favor of meeting people you will like is to expose at least a part of your personality in many situations where you have control over that medium (that way you can filter out the morons).

This is especially a concern when you have extremely high standards, because I suspect my pool to draw from is not actually all that large.

So, in short, it's zero cost to be here, the forums are interesting, and there's a remote chance one might get lucky.

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Its easy to talk a big game when you are anonymous, with no picture or way to have a track record be proven.


Of course it is, but all that does is make you look stupid if you can't deliver.

That doesn't stop people, of course, but likewise, not all of us enjoy looking stupid.



DomAviator -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/12/2008 8:45:41 PM)

Real, and to expand upon what you said... THis board is also a specialty niche. I have no problem finding any number of women in bars... However, they arent necessarily subbies or slaves, and are liklely to run for their lives if you bring out a crop anywhere except the stable LOL

As for the lack of a picture on my part. Shoot me - I dont want to explain to the local Baptist preacher how I want a poly relationship with hot bisexual women LOL  Unless someone is a part of them, my lifestyle activities are nobodys fucking business so I dont need the kid at starbucks saying oooooh thats DomAviator!!!! Besides one of the requirements for my professional license is "be of good moral charactor" and I dont want to take the chance of arguing with some bible thumping ASI that there is nothing immorral about paddling a hotties ass as she eats pussy LOL



pinksugarsub -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/12/2008 9:30:45 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY

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ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub
... two different ... men ... asked me if i would become their mistress. 
 
...

Maybe Men Themselves don't really know what They want from women.


Au contraire, they knew exactly what they wanted, and told you directly.


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ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub

i was absolutely floored.  Did all the work we'd done together matter at all?  Were they secretly fantasizing about me while we were deciding which company should win the $35 million contract we'd just awarded?  Why would they want a 40 yr old woman as a mistress to begin with? 

After all the time we'd worked together did they really believed i'd be interested in becoming a prostitute?

Yet other Men i've known -- in and out of D/s -- want my company.  They want to stay in touch, and fix my problems if They can.  They want me to be happy.


Typical feminine over-thinking and over-analyzing.[:)]

You wanna be a steady fuck or not?

geeez ....

Firm


Huh?  Am i meant to take this seriously or were You trying to be funny?
 
BTW, great quotey-thing -- i'm jealous.
 
pinksugarsub



Hippiekinkster -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/12/2008 10:27:00 PM)

Luscious, remind me to tell the story of the big bad aviator dude from Bondage.com, Callsign Archangel. He had the righties so suckered in they voted him best poster of the Politics Forum in 2006. Hahahaha.

I reckon the same could be said about me, except Greedy's ridden in the Benz with the top down; she's been to my house, she knows how tall and heavy I am and how long my hair is.

Gotta assume everyone's a fraud till ya meet 'em.



Level -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/13/2008 2:56:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY


And, as you noticed, it took several pages and a couple of days for the "L" word to come out.  It was indeeded mentioned several times by men (me in post 22, and Irish just above).  But it was a woman who started making a big deal about it.



Post 6, page 1.



Asherdelampyr -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/13/2008 3:21:40 AM)

georgia, you just made something in my head pop open so I could find the answer to a problem thats been bugging me forever, thanks :)

Here is what I, as a man, want from a relationship

1. honest conversation
2. dependability
3. commitment
4. food (ya know, made by someone who likes cooking :P)
5. great sex



FirmhandKY -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/13/2008 4:27:37 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Level

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ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY


And, as you noticed, it took several pages and a couple of days for the "L" word to come out.  It was indeeded mentioned several times by men (me in post 22, and Irish just above).  But it was a woman who started making a big deal about it.



Post 6, page 1.


Oops.

Sorry Level.

Firm



pixidustpet -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/13/2008 6:17:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: celticlord2112

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ORIGINAL: cjan

Nah, we men are truly simple creatures with few and simple needs. They are, in order:

1) Tight pussy

2) Loose shoes

3) A warm, dry place to sleep



You forgot a working remote for the TV.....



*raises one eyebrow delicately*

if you have a woman, you have a working remote.  she stands there and changes the channel FOR you.

kitten, not kidding, i used to always have to do this in the days before the clicker.....



celticlord2112 -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/13/2008 8:57:29 AM)

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*raises one eyebrow delicately*

if you have a woman, you have a working remote. she stands there and changes the channel FOR you.

True, but only to a point.  You can't lay on the couch and mindlessly channel hop with a flick of the thumb that way.

Constantly telling the slave to change the channel.....gets dangerously close to that perfidy known as work.....



Aynne -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/13/2008 10:00:44 AM)

Are their men that truly would take the devotion of a loving woman and turn her into an appliance that can be bought at Radio Shack for 3 bucks? I am so grateful that the men that have loved me have wanted more than a remote control clicker.  I think it takes a strong man to admit that he loves a woman's strengths, her capacity for intellectual discussions, her mind and her body, a diverse, challenging, exciting partner, equal but different. Not a product made by Sony........

I have worked with many men in my business for almost 18 years and the ones that have the longest and happiest relationships are the ones that respect their women as much as they love them. Oh, and never ever refer to them as "my old lady." ewww[:'(] 

edited to add...Dr. Laura? omg, she makes nails on a chalkboard seem like a frigging lullabye. What a shrew.



Asherdelampyr -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/13/2008 10:02:01 AM)

hey now, my remote cot me 80 bucks, (I <3 Logitech)

but no, my pet means so much more to me than that



Aynne -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/13/2008 10:04:24 AM)

Sexy Ashy, I knew that about you, it is apparent in your postings. She is a lucky pet indeed.[:)]

cookie please?


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ORIGINAL: Asherdelampyr

hey now, my remote cot me 80 bucks, (I <3 Logitech)

but no, my pet means so much more to me than that



TreasureKY -> RE: A question that's been asked millions of times... (6/13/2008 10:44:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aynne

... I think it takes a strong man to admit that he loves a woman's strengths, her capacity for intellectual discussions, her mind and her body, a diverse, challenging, exciting partner, equal but different. Not a product made by Sony........


We've no dearth of working remote controls in our home... on the contrary, too many... but I doubt we'd have the harmony that we do if I felt it was beneath me to change the channel for Firm.  I don't believe it lessens my ability to be a diverse and exciting partner if I do, either... anymore than it makes me dull and boring because I make him coffee and take his shoes off. 

I've not asked Firm specifically and we've never really discussed it, however I suspect he values me even more because not only can I engage in stimulating conversation with him, but because I don't tell him to get up and change his own damn channel.  [;)]



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