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ORIGINAL: MsBlackheart

over something I said, knowing it was "undommely" of me to express an emotion that implied I was anything less than the epitome of imperious.  My reaction was a silent "oh please".   It does bother me, but I'm not going to put up a facade, that would violate my own code of ethics.  I'm suspicious of people who do that and avoid them.

While it's nice to imagine being so completely together and flawless that I fit the ideal of the perfect dominant, it's probably not going to happen in this lifetime. I really like me, even with all the inconsistencies. The very few people who've been the focus of my attention know that when I mean business, it's going to be intense, that I can be sadistic and unflinching or motherly and loving or playful and evil, and maybe all six in one day if you're lucky, and I'll tell you from the start that I'm not perfect.  But I'm honest.  And FUN.

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ORIGINAL: GentlemanBobIII

Actually Jenny all of us to some degree or another have different personnas and ways we present ourselves based on both the situation, and the other people, and the history betwixt them, we are interacting with. Let me explain what I mean. Let's say your sister gets in a fight w/ her bf. You would comfort her, and if she was really upset you might even encourage her to take a day off from work. Now, samesituation only its not your sister it is a coworker, and you are her boss. You will not be as understanding of her wanting time off from work, so your approach to finding out would be different. That might not be the best example, but it helps some, I hope. The point is in a given situation you may treat all  parties differently. This is not a different personality so much as it is adaptability. Your child who skins their knee and bawls will not be responded to in the same way as you'd respond to your husband if he did the same thing, though admitedly some of us guys are big babies, worse than kids when we get hurt or are sick. Am I making any sense? We wear many different hats in our day to day lives. Another example, I am a Campus Safety Officer, there are some rules I don't agree with, but as a Company man I become the badge, and the authority and resposability that go with it. Even though I may not agree w/ the rule, often an outdated one, I still have to enforce it.This puts me at odds w/ myself and the stress of being pulled in two directions is never easy. I had to bust my friend for violating one of these rules I don't agree with. I was all business. My friend thought I was a jerk, because he and I had discussed the fact that the rule was outdated. He thought I was being twofaced but of course, I was not. On duty I  had to tote the college line  off-duty I spoke against it. Different roles different personna yet the same person, same rule. I would normally say whichever roll you feel most happy and fulfilled portraying is the real you. However in this case I can see based on the other statements that you are as equally comfortable in either role.  I think it is easier for us as men in this area as we tend to compartmentalize everything seperatefrome one another, it's how we are wired. For women I think its harder because you put everything you have and are into everything you do, so it is more difficult when you have that duality in your nature and try to reconcile yourself to the fact that they are both you, if willingly undertaken, and each is just as true and faithful as the other. I hope this helps, Bob

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

It ain't easy being green.

I decided a long time ago that no one would be better
at being me than me. As long as I am comfortable in
my skin, no matter the skin I choose to wear for the
moment, I quite frankly don't give a rat's ass how
others might wish to define me.

I'm not quite Sybil, but I'm thoroughly convinced that
I'm not alone in here.

"Are too."

"Am not."

"Sorry, didn't see you standing there."

chia* (the pet)