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turn ons & offs - 6/14/2008 7:19:00 AM   
SincereSubby4You


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Status: offline 		Masters' turn ons and turn offs when searching for a slave: What are some common things that sub/slaves do or say that turn a Master off? And please share as well the turn on's... the things that a sub/slave might do that gets and keeps a Master's attention.

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RE: turn In's & offs - 6/14/2008 7:23:34 AM   
Asherdelampyr


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seriously, if I ask for my bag, and I get asked why, it irritates me... there is a simple answer to that... I obviously want my bag

on the other hand, there are sometimes when why is important, but not many



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RE: turn In's & offs - 6/14/2008 10:02:05 AM   
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“I have no limits” is possibly the most annoying thing ever, I have yet to encounter anyone where this is indeed the case.

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RE: turn In's & offs - 6/14/2008 11:35:06 AM   
wulfgarw


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Turn ons- love of bondage, willingness to communicate, openness to new things

Turn offs- professing to loving bondage and running away at the mention of of being put in ANY type of restraint,  having expensive or custom made items bought/made for her and then never hearing from her again, staying with abuser boyfriend even though he put her in the hospital 4 times (that I know of) in the preceding year and having the gall to call him 'master'.

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RE: turn In's & offs - 6/14/2008 11:37:33 AM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		Turn-offs:
 
"Whatever you like" when I ask what her interests are. 
"A strict owner who will put me in my place" when I ask what sort of person she is looking for in a Dominant. 
Gushing declarations of adoration and/or wanting to announce they are "under consideration" during any of the first 10 encounters.
Inability to talk about something other than shopping or the latest celebrity gossip.
 
Turn-ons:
 
Intelligence
Good conversational skills
Artistic creativity (musical, writing, photography, etc.)
Life goals
A clear idea of what she likes, wants, needs from me
A clear idea of who she is as a person

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RE: turn ons & offs - 6/14/2008 6:13:21 PM   
celticlord2112


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Status: offline 		Turn offs:
1.  Comments and posts that lump all masters together and all slaves together.
2. Whininess in any form
3. Any response to a command other than "Yes, Sir" ("Sir Yes Sir" is an accepted variant).

Turn ons:
1. Intelligence
2. Ability to carry on a conversation
3. A musical scream


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RE: turn ons & offs - 6/14/2008 6:24:19 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		Turn offs:
"In a minute"
When I ask for something to be done.  This might seem odd, but I don't tell people to do things when they are already engaged in another activity.  There is a certain time frame that is MY time... and other things should take the back seat. (IM's, video games... that sort of thing)
Whining
Excuses (in stead of explanations)
Laziness
 
Turn ons:
"Yes Mistress"
"ow"
"As you wish"
kneeling
good conversation
intelligence
good hygiene
open mindedness
devotion
 
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RE: turn In's & offs - 6/15/2008 2:01:04 AM   
Asherdelampyr


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

Turn-offs:
 
"Whatever you like" when I ask what her interests are. 
"A strict owner who will put me in my place" when I ask what sort of person she is looking for in a Dominant. 
Gushing declarations of adoration and/or wanting to announce they are "under consideration" during any of the first 10 encounters.
Inability to talk about something other than shopping or the latest celebrity gossip.
 
Turn-ons:
 
Intelligence
Good conversational skills
Artistic creativity (musical, writing, photography, etc.)
Life goals
A clear idea of what she likes, wants, needs from me
A clear idea of who she is as a person


This

also, the ability to cook


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RE: turn In's & offs - 6/15/2008 2:46:53 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Turn ONs:
  1. Honesty, Willingness to communicate,
  2. Honesty, Willingness to communicate,
  3. Honesty, Willingness to communicate,
Turn OFFs:
  1. Dishonesty
  2. Unwilling to communicate
  3. Attempts to disrupt my home
  4. Attempts to splite my wife and I
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RE: turn ons & offs - 6/15/2008 6:00:24 AM   
SincereSubby4You


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SincereSubby4You

Masters' turn ons and turn offs when searching for a slave: What are some common things that sub/slaves do or say that turn a Master off? And please share as well the turn on's... the things that a sub/slave might do that gets and keeps a Master's attention.


 I would like to thank everyone for taking the time to respond to my Message. This was my first time ever posting a question like this  but doubt it will be my last. I have learned a lot because 
   of everyone's personal  input and will remember and apply the information I have been given here, 
           when and where I need to. I want to be the best sub/slave that I can possibly be for my 
                                                Master when that day comes.
                                                                           Again...
                                                             I thank You.
                                                               Sincerely,  Angel

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RE: turn ons & offs - 6/15/2008 6:01:49 AM   
Asherdelampyr


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SincereSubby4You

quote:

ORIGINAL: SincereSubby4You

Masters' turn ons and turn offs when searching for a slave: What are some common things that sub/slaves do or say that turn a Master off? And please share as well the turn on's... the things that a sub/slave might do that gets and keeps a Master's attention.


 I would like to thank everyone for taking the time to respond to my Message. This was my first time ever posting a question like this  but doubt it will be my last. I have learned a lot because 
  of everyone's personal  input and will remember and apply the information I have been given here, 
          when and where I need to. I want to be the best sub/slave that I can possibly be for my 
                                               Master when that day comes.
                                                                          Again...
                                                            I thank You.
                                                              Sincerely,  Angel


No problem, we like being asked what we want :P


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RE: turn ons & offs - 6/15/2008 6:04:49 AM   
MsLadySue


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Status: offline 		My biggest turn off is a sub responding with "body worship of Mistress" as his first interest when I question him about his interests in the lifestyle. It's come to the point where I stress "nothing sexual".



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RE: turn In's & offs - 6/15/2008 6:10:32 AM   
BrigandDoom


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrTiger


“I have no limits” is possibly the most annoying thing ever, I have yet to encounter anyone where this is indeed the case.


Couldn't agree with you more, I have a pre-made response for any no limit slaves who message me. It starts off, " I own a 110lb rottweiler", I leave the rest to your imagination. I've yet to receive any follow up messages from any of the recipients lol

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RE: turn In's & offs - 6/15/2008 9:44:32 AM   
XxSpiderxX


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Status: offline 		I enjoy a slave that tells me it makes her happy to make me happy. Thats a turn on for me.
A turn off is someone who claims this and then sets down my drink when I tell her to hold on to it.

A turn on is a slave who tells me she loves shabari.
A turn off is a slave who claims any given form is "too simple" for her.

Another turn on is a slave who says she enjoys domestic docility.
It turns me off though when she bitches about having to do the dishes, or when I have to repeatedly instruct her to clean up after herself.

It boils down to lies. They turn me off in a big way.

-Master Spider

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RE: turn In's & offs - 6/16/2008 5:02:40 PM   
sunshinemiss


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Hey Spider,

Actions speak louder than words, eh?

My grandma always said it all comes out in the wash, and it's true!

peace,
sunshine

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RE: turn ons & offs - 6/16/2008 6:35:51 PM   
Midnght


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From: Maryland
Status: offline 		Turn ons:
Anticipating my needs.
Stockings, garters, and corsets.
Wearing your collar.
Respectfully requesting a need to be fullfilled if it's not being done so.
Moans, crys, screams, begging.
The look of pleading.
Knowing you've hit the mark as you watch them dance in their restraints.

Turn offs:
Why this why that. When common sense shoudl let you know why.
Acting bored.
Misbehaving just to get punished.
Asking what you should wear. (You shoudl know what he wants to see you in often enough because if we don't like it we'll tell you to change or remove it.)
Being lazy after a good session and going to sleep without permission and no help of clean up.

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RE: turn ons & offs - 6/17/2008 8:02:49 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		CelticLord. Musical screams? What if the woman is an Opera singer?

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RE: turn ons & offs - 6/17/2008 12:57:57 PM   
celticlord2112


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

CelticLord. Musical screams? What if the woman is an Opera singer?

Then she should scream on key.

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RE: turn ons & offs - 6/17/2008 1:13:24 PM   
PanthersMom


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Status: offline 		turn ons: intelligence, honesty, a sense of humor, common sense, down to earth and tolerance of diversity

turn offs: lies, "no limits", being lazy, the rest will become evident as more is discovered about a particular individual but those are the ones that will preclude me from being interested at all.
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RE: turn ons & offs - 6/17/2008 4:20:33 PM   
kiwisub12


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ORIGINAL: PsyVamp

"
"ow"
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hehehe.....

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