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Mercnbeth -> RE: for those of you who go to public bdsm/fetish places (11/2/2005 8:09:09 AM)
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How did you bring yourself to attend a public function the first time?
after meeting Master in March of 2003, He took His slave to a public function at a local dungeon that rents submissives and dominants by the hour, as well as hosts some pretty awesome parties. They were having a "Kinko de Mayo" celebration with food, music, demo's, vendors and play space. It was fabulous. However, the absolutely MOST fabulous public event has been the Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco. WOOF!!!!
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Did you have some level of nervousness, or did you just go without hesitation? Did you attend one for the first time before or after your first BDSM-related experience?
this slave lived a somewhat sheltered existence in that she thought she would have to travel to Amsterdam to witness and/or participate in such an extravaganza! this slave would call it excitement, not nervousness, and went with Master without hesitation...however, this slave doubts she would have gone alone.
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What were your reactions after attending the first one?
why can't we do this EVERY weekend!!!!
beth
It's been too long and with too many brain cells victims of abuse for me to remember my first trip into a club in NYC. It went from being very intimidating to feeling like home very fast. I think going to a club as a male dom or sub is a lot easier than going as a female even with an escort. But that feeling may be the result of generational "prejudice" about the "weakness" of the opposite sex.
Frankly, going to clubs had become old and unexciting. I found myself going more to the social events versus the play parties. The principle reason was that I associate sex and intimacy (so does beth fortunately!) with BDSM sessions and very few venues allowed that kind of activity. However I did, and still do, enjoy the company of lifestyle people at all levels of experience and style. Even at this age, it's rare not to see or hear about something new; whether toy or technique. Now having a "play room" at home going to clubs has been less frequent, but it's no less enjoyable and FUN!
Having said all that, I now enjoy watching beth's eyes and reaction when we go to clubs/parties. Seeing things through her eyes made them all new again and reminded me how exciting it was to be part of the club experience for the first time. I remember that the first thing she witnessed at the Kinko de Mayo was witnessing Dante display his bull-whip skills on a sub. It was like being in a car going from 0 to 100 MPH in 5 seconds. By the end of the day she was chatting with a sub who had feather's embedded in back, and wanted to join in with a naked kundalini dance.
We have taken quite a few people to their first club experience. As others have said, it's easier when you go with someone who's "been there". The drive is always filled with nervous energy, tension, and sexual electricity; exhibited by giggling. The standard disclaimer is, "Enjoy and observe. Most everyone will be cordial and friendly. Don't play with anyone else's toy's especially the human ones. There is no pressure or need to play. Do what you feel comfortable doing." I've been with people who swear they are only there to "see what it's all about", who will NEVER get naked in public. Well, 100% by the end of the night were partying like it was 1999! It's easy to feel comfortable when everyone around you has the same reason for being there.
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