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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/17/2008 6:44:54 PM

goodpet

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I want a million dollars and date for Friday night..
Sigh..
........one can ask..
........................and hope..
...................................it could happen..

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/17/2008 6:53:18 PM

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[grin] The beaded bag and the slit skirt should have given them away."

Hush now!! Here in KY those things are REQUIRED!!

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/17/2008 7:04:01 PM

BBWnNC72

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i have paid, He has paid. It's all good. He gives me money when i am broke and need gas for work, i have given Him money when He was broke.
i have been offered by a male sub, recently, to buy me things if i let him come down to clean my house and that isn't the first time i have been offered.
Though i do love when my Dominant says "kat, lets go to dinner, my treat" or brings me my favorite candy or a Starbucks.
i have a child i take care of, He has His mom He takes care of and we make about the same amount of money.
The only thing i expect from my Dominant is respect. Which i have no trouble getting.

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/17/2008 9:28:59 PM

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I've run into that, well, seen profiles like it. I just keep scanning. Never met a girl like that in real life. Hell, I had to fight to pay for the pizza on a date Saturday.

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/18/2008 5:08:58 AM

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i receive tokens of appreciation from Daddy however (i stress however), i've never once asked Him to do that. He's Daddy and He's loves to spoil me with little things from collars to toys ...sometimes i do get a montary allowance. He does this to show how much He loves me - according Him, actions speaks louder than the mere words itself.

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/18/2008 5:27:50 AM

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I give and recieve tokens of apprciation when IN a relationship, but it is never even discussed before one. Fox likes to give presents, Angel likes to take me out to dinner. Different forms, same idea. I spoil them, too. I get little gifts, I take them out to eat, we go on day trips...
Anyone who is talking about gifts and allowances before you are even together is either looking to be a kept pet (see: housewife and/or leech) or is "testing" you to see how you will react.
Either case, Id skip and move on.

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/18/2008 11:43:07 AM

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Paying a fee changes the dynamics and - in my experience - works well. You can play bdsm games and have fun together without any emotional complications (and there are plenty of times when that suits both dom and sub).

And you can choose someone you think will be fun, without worrying whether they'll like you and if, for whatever reason, you don't meet again there's no "failure" feeling on either side as there can be with a "let's meet and see how we get on" contact.

And pro-subs, like pro-Dommes, are usually really nice girls, so you get the added advantage of making friends too

On a different note, looking after non pro-subs (surely we don't call them amateurs!) is just good manners and natural caring - how generously one does that depends entirely on circumstances.

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/18/2008 11:52:53 AM

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I would also like to add that because some "subs", and I use that term loosely about some who ask for money, feel like it is a Doms job to care for them in all ways. Physically, mentally, and monetary

And there is nothing wrong with a Dom/me taking care ofa sub in all ways, but THAT type of care within the dynamic, like any other type of relationship, shouldn't be expected from the door and has to be earned. I WISH one of my subs would ask for a token

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/18/2008 1:08:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SirKaton

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ORIGINAL: thespiritedsub

I would also like to add that because some "subs", and I use that term loosely about some who ask for money, feel like it is a Doms job to care for them in all ways. Physically, mentally, and monetary

And there is nothing wrong with a Dom/me taking care ofa sub in all ways, but THAT type of care within the dynamic, like any other type of relationship, shouldn't be expected from the door and has to be earned. I WISH one of my subs would ask for a token ...

I agree with that totally. If someone wants to give that type of care, then that is great for everyone involved, but I sure didn't expect it even though I always got it :)

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/18/2008 3:05:54 PM

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If i wanted a meal ticket, i'd state it.

Whoever has the money at the time pays.

I borrow off Him now and again due to cash flow, but its paid back.

Ok i do the shopping. He looks at prices, i just get what we want or need. I spent years counting pennies, now dont have too, so wont. Strange i try to do the shopping on my own. He is not going without what he likes, just because of cost, i just buy it.

Finances are not joined and prob never will be. For us it works, He can bitch and moan, but likes what i buy. Hell he can beat the hell out of me for it anyway. (lol).

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/18/2008 6:28:01 PM

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i don't ask for things; i don't give things...

i do, however, have plenty of idea's for low budget bondage, and am very disappointed that this thread didn't ask for any of them!

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/18/2008 10:50:47 PM

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I suppose that I am still in that 1950's household style....the Dom takes care of the house and all who live there. If there are those that live there under the Dom/Master, a good portion of their income goes into the "house" fund to pay house bills,,yet the Dom/Master takes care of His subs/slaves with his income.

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/19/2008 5:42:14 AM

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Daddy has bought me trinkets and things to show his love and affection for me. i have given him things on occasion too. i have not and will not live with Daddy.

TheEngineer is moving me to live with him. he already buys me things, and has said he will continue to do so as it pleases him to do so, especially if i'm being a good girl.

i dont *expect* things. if i expect them, they arent surprises any longer.

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/20/2008 7:49:26 AM

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Since adding the comment that I did last night,,I have been wondering if I will be flooded with subs/slaves wanting to know more about me.
Be warned,,I am very selective....
Yes, I feel that, for me< I would be the one to take care of my sub/slaves needs.
I do expect them to work outside of the house and contribute, yet being the owner and Dom, it is my responsibilty.

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/21/2008 1:04:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MrRandallspe

I suppose that I am still in that 1950's household style....the Dom takes care of the house and all who live there. If there are those that live there under the Dom/Master, a good portion of their income goes into the "house" fund to pay house bills,,yet the Dom/Master takes care of His subs/slaves with his income.

Yep thats us

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/23/2008 8:43:46 AM

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Who can I purpose to. I have a used cigar band. Thats not to funny cause when my ex's parents got married thats what they used for wedding bands.

Dnomyar

Smiles..Sir has gave me two of his cigar bands...to me those mean more than any expensive gift or dinner....

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RE: Low Budget Bondage - 6/23/2008 11:32:35 PM

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Some people do that sort of thing, whether it's in this lifestyle or in a totally vanilla relationship.

Personally, I hate having someone pay for things all the time. I'm fine with a Dom/me paying for toys, and can just about tolerate them treating me to a meal, but anything more? I want to be submissive, not dependent.

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